Conservative Writer Pens Essay Telling Women To ‘Stay In Shape For Their Husbands’

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I don't put meal planning ahead of other things, and my husband cares about many things about me more than my weight.

Yes, of course, unless someone's husband is a total jerk, they care about things about their spouse other than their weight. The point is that one should be interested in staying attractive for one's significant other up to a reasonable point. That doesn't mean completely obsessing over appearance. I lost 10 lbs over the past year, and DH didn't really notice because I don't look all that different at 135 vs. 125 lbs. So that change was for me. But I also don't wear sweatpants all the time, or tshirts with giant holes in the armpit, because that would be unattractive to DH. To clean up the basement or whatever, sure. But most of the time, I try to look a bit nicer.

Are you in menopause?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I really don't see anything wrong with this opinion. I share the same one. (Woman)

That you should stay fit for your husband? Does he have to stay fit too or just bring home $$$ to support you?

We both stay fit and earn equal incomes.

We both stay relatively out of shape and earn equal incomes. It's great. Less pressure.

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Anonymous wrote:My wife and I both stay fit. Mostly for ourselves but it definitely has a positive impact on our relationship. Expecting someone to change is probably different and not reaistic. Fitness and being attracted to my partner is important for both of us and I don't think we would have married each other if we didn't meet that criteria.

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So you both work, and both share child and house related tasks pretty equally?

We both work. Her job generates 3x what mine does in earnings though. I try to get to 50% of child and household tasks but it would be disengenuous for me to say that. I have a list of things that I knock out daily including making beds, general pick up, dishes, putting away laundry, doing homework with the kid, cleaning the kitchen after dinner etc. There's little doubt that I should be doing more.

Wait, so she makes 3x your income, does more of the housework, AND it's incumbent on her to stay just as fit as you? Gimme a break.

I make more than my husband, do 90% of the housework and stay much fitter than my husband. Of course, I am staying fit for my AP, not for the H, though.

[Anonymous]

So what about men losing their hair? Can we leave them when they go bald?

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Anonymous wrote:Meh. This definitely cuts both ways. I wouldn't be attracted to my husband if he were 50 pounds overweight either. Would I stay with him? Yes, but our sex life would suffer. Mostly I would be concerned about what he's doing to his health. Apart from that, I think the best way to have lasting weight loss is to lose weight for yourself, not for your spouse (though increased sex appeal is not a bad side effect.)

I also don't like the fat-shaming overtones of this article and I don't see much value in it; women who are overweight are well aware that they're considered less attractive by our culture's standards. If they could easily lose the weight I'm sure they already would have.

Many of these overweight women easily lose the weight after getting divorced.
I've seen this all the time. Clearly it's a matter of basic motivation.
If "fat shaming" is the wrong kind of motivation, what would you suggest?

You know what would help me lose the extra 20 pounds? Doing more of the childcare and housework, so I could exercise four or five times a week instead of twice; doing either the grocery shopping/meal planning or the actual cooking; letting me cut back to 30 hours of paid work; and initiating sex more as I lose weight.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My wife and I both stay fit. Mostly for ourselves but it definitely has a positive impact on our relationship. Expecting someone to change is probably different and not reaistic. Fitness and being attracted to my partner is important for both of us and I don't think we would have married each other if we didn't meet that criteria.

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So you both work, and both share child and house related tasks pretty equally?

We both work. Her job generates 3x what mine does in earnings though. I try to get to 50% of child and household tasks but it would be disengenuous for me to say that. I have a list of things that I knock out daily including making beds, general pick up, dishes, putting away laundry, doing homework with the kid, cleaning the kitchen after dinner etc. There's little doubt that I should be doing more.

Wait, so she makes 3x your income, does more of the housework, AND it's incumbent on her to stay just as fit as you? Gimme a break.

This is what I mean. The liberal agenda sucks for women.

So the solution is for women to give up on having their own careers, and just concentrate on their MRS degree? No way

[Anonymous]

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I am pretty sure that while the lady was writing this article, her husband was somewhere, with someone....other than her, no matter how fit she is.

She is newly married, has no kids and her H was Former Editor at Breitbart. Her H is also already has a dad bod and he does not have children.

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Anonymous wrote:I really don't see anything wrong with this opinion. I share the same one. (Woman)

+1.

But, according to OP, perhaps everyone who wants to conserve his/ her marriage is a conservative...

Men are just as interesting in their wives being good mothers and having their own intellectual interests as they are in looks. Then again, I've been married almost 30 years, so my marriage is based on more than appearances.

I've been with DH for almost 30 yrs too and at this point taking care of oneself means more than just looks. Staying healthy and fit is a priority and we exercise together because we don't want to be decrepit and old and unable to walk unassisted in our golden years.

If my husband were in great shape, maybe I wouldn't be 20 pounds overweight, but since he's at least 40 pounds overweight, I think I'm good just working out and following the 80/20 rule in my diet.

My DH has lost over 50 lbs in a year exercising with me and it's a great couples activity without the kids. No more sleep apnea, no more knee/joint issues (does not need knee replacement) and no longer a borderline diabetic! So much more healthier and happier (he looks hot!) Can run 6 miles whereas before he was wheezing walking 50 yds uphill. I want him to live a long time and not end up in a wheelchair like his father and being a burden to our children and me. As you get older, being in shape is more than about looks.

I can run 6 miles at a time without stopping and I'm still overweight. Must be great to be able to lose weight.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

I am pretty sure that while the lady was writing this article, her husband was somewhere, with someone....other than her, no matter how fit she is.

She is newly married, has no kids and her H was Former Editor at Breitbart. Her H is also already has a dad bod and he does not have children.

What a hypocritical riot

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Meh. This definitely cuts both ways. I wouldn't be attracted to my husband if he were 50 pounds overweight either. Would I stay with him? Yes, but our sex life would suffer. Mostly I would be concerned about what he's doing to his health. Apart from that, I think the best way to have lasting weight loss is to lose weight for yourself, not for your spouse (though increased sex appeal is not a bad side effect.)

I also don't like the fat-shaming overtones of this article and I don't see much value in it; women who are overweight are well aware that they're considered less attractive by our culture's standards. If they could easily lose the weight I'm sure they already would have.

Many of these overweight women easily lose the weight after getting divorced.
I've seen this all the time. Clearly it's a matter of basic motivation.
If "fat shaming" is the wrong kind of motivation, what would you suggest?

You know what would help me lose the extra 20 pounds? Doing more of the childcare and housework, so I could exercise four or five times a week instead of twice; doing either the grocery shopping/meal planning or the actual cooking; letting me cut back to 30 hours of paid work; and initiating sex more as I lose weight.

Be advised most divorcees don't get to work part time or have much domestic help.
Nonetheless, present this deal to your DH and I bet he accepts the offer.

[Anonymous]

I don't put meal planning ahead of other things, and my husband cares about many things about me more than my weight.


Yes, of course, unless someone's husband is a total jerk, they care about things about their spouse other than their weight. The point is that one should be interested in staying attractive for one's significant other up to a reasonable point. That doesn't mean completely obsessing over appearance. I lost 10 lbs over the past year, and DH didn't really notice because I don't look all that different at 135 vs. 125 lbs. So that change was for me. But I also don't wear sweatpants all the time, or tshirts with giant holes in the armpit, because that would be unattractive to DH. To clean up the basement or whatever, sure. But most of the time, I try to look a bit nicer.

Are you in menopause?

That's not something I care to share with you or anyone else on DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Meh. This definitely cuts both ways. I wouldn't be attracted to my husband if he were 50 pounds overweight either. Would I stay with him? Yes, but our sex life would suffer. Mostly I would be concerned about what he's doing to his health. Apart from that, I think the best way to have lasting weight loss is to lose weight for yourself, not for your spouse (though increased sex appeal is not a bad side effect.)

I also don't like the fat-shaming overtones of this article and I don't see much value in it; women who are overweight are well aware that they're considered less attractive by our culture's standards. If they could easily lose the weight I'm sure they already would have.

Many of these overweight women easily lose the weight after getting divorced.
I've seen this all the time. Clearly it's a matter of basic motivation.
If "fat shaming" is the wrong kind of motivation, what would you suggest?

You know what would help me lose the extra 20 pounds? Doing more of the childcare and housework, so I could exercise four or five times a week instead of twice; doing either the grocery shopping/meal planning or the actual cooking; letting me cut back to 30 hours of paid work; and initiating sex more as I lose weight.

Be advised most divorcees don't get to work part time or have much domestic help.
Nonetheless, present this deal to your DH and I bet he accepts the offer.

I did, as a matter of fact; he said he would rather keep my full income and take on no more of the chores, than have me lose 20 pounds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I don't put meal planning ahead of other things, and my husband cares about many things about me more than my weight.


Yes, of course, unless someone's husband is a total jerk, they care about things about their spouse other than their weight. The point is that one should be interested in staying attractive for one's significant other up to a reasonable point. That doesn't mean completely obsessing over appearance. I lost 10 lbs over the past year, and DH didn't really notice because I don't look all that different at 135 vs. 125 lbs. So that change was for me. But I also don't wear sweatpants all the time, or tshirts with giant holes in the armpit, because that would be unattractive to DH. To clean up the basement or whatever, sure. But most of the time, I try to look a bit nicer.

Are you in menopause?

That's not something I care to share with you or anyone else on DCUM.

Try losing 10 pounds when you are in menopause and come back to us.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with her a 100% and I am a woman who considers herself a feminist. I think the push towards this modern gender-less society is not making anyone happy. Men have had their balls taken away from them by criticizing and demonizing every masculine trait. Women are now miserable expected to work long hours, make money AND have a husband and children. This is diplopia.

Women need love and attention and care. They are delicate creatures and they need to be kept well maintained. Look at Arab or Persian women. Thats how a woman is supposed to look. Their husbands keep them flush with money and comfort.

This is where men come in too. They need to go back to being primary breadwinners and take on the hard job of earning a living.

I'm rather proud I can work long hours, make more money than my husband and be a good mother. Sorry you can't do it all.

Nobody's impressed

[Anonymous]

I don't put meal planning ahead of other things, and my husband cares about many things about me more than my weight.


Yes, of course, unless someone's husband is a total jerk, they care about things about their spouse other than their weight. The point is that one should be interested in staying attractive for one's significant other up to a reasonable point. That doesn't mean completely obsessing over appearance. I lost 10 lbs over the past year, and DH didn't really notice because I don't look all that different at 135 vs. 125 lbs. So that change was for me. But I also don't wear sweatpants all the time, or tshirts with giant holes in the armpit, because that would be unattractive to DH. To clean up the basement or whatever, sure. But most of the time, I try to look a bit nicer.

Are you in menopause?


That's not something I care to share with you or anyone else on DCUM.


Try losing 10 pounds when you are in menopause and come back to us.

Whatever makes you feel better to think, honey.