Conservative Writer Pens Essay Telling Women To ‘Stay In Shape For Their Husbands’

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Anonymous wrote:I mean, I agree with the general idea that both spouses should try to stay in shape and look good for one another. Not sure why this article is targeted at women in particular.

Well it's because, just like the article says: "a spouse’s physical appearance is much more likely to be important to men than women."

I totally agree with your statement that BOTH should stay in shape.
But I also agree that this is much more likely to be important to men.

Signed, in-shape husband with an overweight wife (and NOT happy about it)

I'm not happy that I'm in shape but my husband is way overweight, either. Looks are important to women too.

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Anonymous wrote:Okay then my husband should work towards making more money so I can quit my job and devote more time to my physical appearance (shudder).

If you have to quit your job in order to stay fit, then you aren't really interested in staying fit. A poor diet and lack of exercise isn't dependent on your work status.

It's easier to exercise if you don't have to work around that pesky 50 hour job + commute commitment though, plus more time to cook healthy meals.

I don't know why people keep saying that cooking healthy meals takes longer. All you have to do is shop and plan ahead. If you're comparing it to ordering pizza or bringing home fast food, then you're right...but that's a you problem. Also, just because something is EASIER, doesn't mean it's impossible...you just have to make it a priority. Even with a FT job and commute and child care, most people can find a few hours per week to get some exercise. And, it's not the lack of exercise that makes most people fat, it's their diet and food choices. It's just easier for people to say, "I don't have time to exercise 1 hour each day" and accept being fat. The fact is that most people actually don't have the time or energy to exercise each day but making good food choices takes little to no time. You just have to plan ahead.

Planning meals and shopping from a list does take time, as much as you wish it didn't. Yes, you have to make it a priority but it does take time.

Okay enough with the excuses. It takes 3 minutes to make a written grocery list. You have to go to the grocery store to survive snywsy, so it takes the same amount of time whether you're shopping in the Doritos aisle or the produce aisle. When y'all are vegetating in front of the TV on a Sunday, throw some meals for the week together. A crock pot meal can be healthy and takes minimal effort. On that Sunday, portion out some foods for the week ahead into Tupperware or bags in the amounts you need to make things. It is really not this tremendous undertaking you're making it out to be and you sound kinda ridiculous.

Sunday is my day to go to church, bible study and spend time with my children. Sorry not sorry that cooking and meal planning don't make my list. Oh, and I don't watch TV; too busy training for a marathon.

And that's fine, as long as you acknowledge that you do HAVE the time, you just prefer to spend it in the Bible and church. I put health up high on my priority list, and am healthy and fit as a result. Like anything, its a choice.

I agree with the article.

No wonder women think men are shallow then. My husband cares about many things about me more than my weight.

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I look forward to her follow up article: 'Men, be sure to eat your wife's p***y long after taking your marriage vows.'

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Anonymous wrote:I mean, I agree with the general idea that both spouses should try to stay in shape and look good for one another. Not sure why this article is targeted at women in particular.

Well it's because, just like the article says: "a spouse’s physical appearance is much more likely to be important to men than women."

I totally agree with your statement that BOTH should stay in shape.
But I also agree that this is much more likely to be important to men.

Signed, in-shape husband with an overweight wife (and NOT happy about it)

I'm not happy that I'm in shape but my husband is way overweight, either. Looks are important to women too.

I really don't understand out of shape guys. They would probably get more action from their wives if they were in shape!

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Anonymous wrote:Okay then my husband should work towards making more money so I can quit my job and devote more time to my physical appearance (shudder).

If you have to quit your job in order to stay fit, then you aren't really interested in staying fit. A poor diet and lack of exercise isn't dependent on your work status.

It's easier to exercise if you don't have to work around that pesky 50 hour job + commute commitment though, plus more time to cook healthy meals.

I don't know why people keep saying that cooking healthy meals takes longer. All you have to do is shop and plan ahead. If you're comparing it to ordering pizza or bringing home fast food, then you're right...but that's a you problem. Also, just because something is EASIER, doesn't mean it's impossible...you just have to make it a priority. Even with a FT job and commute and child care, most people can find a few hours per week to get some exercise. And, it's not the lack of exercise that makes most people fat, it's their diet and food choices. It's just easier for people to say, "I don't have time to exercise 1 hour each day" and accept being fat. The fact is that most people actually don't have the time or energy to exercise each day but making good food choices takes little to no time. You just have to plan ahead.

Planning meals and shopping from a list does take time, as much as you wish it didn't. Yes, you have to make it a priority but it does take time.

Okay enough with the excuses. It takes 3 minutes to make a written grocery list. You have to go to the grocery store to survive snywsy, so it takes the same amount of time whether you're shopping in the Doritos aisle or the produce aisle. When y'all are vegetating in front of the TV on a Sunday, throw some meals for the week together. A crock pot meal can be healthy and takes minimal effort. On that Sunday, portion out some foods for the week ahead into Tupperware or bags in the amounts you need to make things. It is really not this tremendous undertaking you're making it out to be and you sound kinda ridiculous.

Sunday is my day to go to church, bible study and spend time with my children. Sorry not sorry that cooking and meal planning don't make my list. Oh, and I don't watch TV; too busy training for a marathon.

And that's fine, as long as you acknowledge that you do HAVE the time, you just prefer to spend it in the Bible and church. I put health up high on my priority list, and am healthy and fit as a result. Like anything, its a choice.

I agree with the article.

No wonder women think men are shallow then. My husband cares about many things about me more than my weight.

You are changing your point. Your point was that you don't have the time. You have the time, but obviously don't want to spend it on you or your children health and well being. My husband finding me incredibly sexy is just a boon ~ I stay healthy and slim because I look better, feel better, and will live longer, all while instilling healthy habits in my kids.

[Anonymous]

I mean, I agree with the general idea that both spouses should try to stay in shape and look good for one another. Not sure why this article is targeted at women in particular.


Well it's because, just like the article says: "a spouse’s physical appearance is much more likely to be important to men than women."

I totally agree with your statement that BOTH should stay in shape.
But I also agree that this is much more likely to be important to men.

Signed, in-shape husband with an overweight wife (and NOT happy about it)


I'm not happy that I'm in shape but my husband is way overweight, either. Looks are important to women too.

My husband's appearance is definitely important to me. I don't really mind him being a bit overweight, but I'd really like him to upgrade his wardrobe a bit.

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Anonymous wrote:I mean, I agree with the general idea that both spouses should try to stay in shape and look good for one another. Not sure why this article is targeted at women in particular.

Well it's because, just like the article says: "a spouse’s physical appearance is much more likely to be important to men than women."

I totally agree with your statement that BOTH should stay in shape.
But I also agree that this is much more likely to be important to men.

Signed, in-shape husband with an overweight wife (and NOT happy about it)

I'm not happy that I'm in shape but my husband is way overweight, either. Looks are important to women too.

I really don't understand out of shape guys. They would probably get more action from their wives if they were in shape!

Oh, well, my husband doesn't care about that. His drive has always been lower than mine.

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Anonymous wrote:I mean, I agree with the general idea that both spouses should try to stay in shape and look good for one another. Not sure why this article is targeted at women in particular.

Well it's because, just like the article says: "a spouse’s physical appearance is much more likely to be important to men than women."

I totally agree with your statement that BOTH should stay in shape.
But I also agree that this is much more likely to be important to men.

Signed, in-shape husband with an overweight wife (and NOT happy about it)

I'm not happy that I'm in shape but my husband is way overweight, either. Looks are important to women too.

I really don't understand out of shape guys. They would probably get more action from their wives if they were in shape!

Round is a shape.

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Anonymous wrote:Husbands would also prefer wives who don't age. It's perfectly rational from an evolutionary perspective for them to want to be with a younger woman. So what exactly is a wife supposed to do when she is no longer young? How can she "make him happy" in this case?

The difference is aging is inevitable, but you don't have to get fat.

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Anonymous wrote:Okay then my husband should work towards making more money so I can quit my job and devote more time to my physical appearance (shudder).

If you have to quit your job in order to stay fit, then you aren't really interested in staying fit. A poor diet and lack of exercise isn't dependent on your work status.

It's easier to exercise if you don't have to work around that pesky 50 hour job + commute commitment though, plus more time to cook healthy meals.

I don't know why people keep saying that cooking healthy meals takes longer. All you have to do is shop and plan ahead. If you're comparing it to ordering pizza or bringing home fast food, then you're right...but that's a you problem. Also, just because something is EASIER, doesn't mean it's impossible...you just have to make it a priority. Even with a FT job and commute and child care, most people can find a few hours per week to get some exercise. And, it's not the lack of exercise that makes most people fat, it's their diet and food choices. It's just easier for people to say, "I don't have time to exercise 1 hour each day" and accept being fat. The fact is that most people actually don't have the time or energy to exercise each day but making good food choices takes little to no time. You just have to plan ahead.

Planning meals and shopping from a list does take time, as much as you wish it didn't. Yes, you have to make it a priority but it does take time.

Okay enough with the excuses. It takes 3 minutes to make a written grocery list. You have to go to the grocery store to survive snywsy, so it takes the same amount of time whether you're shopping in the Doritos aisle or the produce aisle. When y'all are vegetating in front of the TV on a Sunday, throw some meals for the week together. A crock pot meal can be healthy and takes minimal effort. On that Sunday, portion out some foods for the week ahead into Tupperware or bags in the amounts you need to make things. It is really not this tremendous undertaking you're making it out to be and you sound kinda ridiculous.

Sunday is my day to go to church, bible study and spend time with my children. Sorry not sorry that cooking and meal planning don't make my list. Oh, and I don't watch TV; too busy training for a marathon.

And that's fine, as long as you acknowledge that you do HAVE the time, you just prefer to spend it in the Bible and church. I put health up high on my priority list, and am healthy and fit as a result. Like anything, its a choice.

I agree with the article.

No wonder women think men are shallow then. My husband cares about many things about me more than my weight.

You are changing your point. Your point was that you don't have the time. You have the time, but obviously don't want to spend it on you or your children health and well being. My husband finding me incredibly sexy is just a boon ~ I stay healthy and slim because I look better, feel better, and will live longer, all while instilling healthy habits in my kids.

I don't put meal planning ahead of other things, and my husband cares about many things about me more than my weight. I could be a supermodel and he wouldn't care if I were neglecting our childrens' religious education. Sure, all things being equal, he would rather I be the size I was when we got married, but that was many years and children ago

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Anonymous wrote:I look forward to her follow up article: 'Men, be sure to eat your wife's p***y long after taking your marriage vows.'

Look, this^^^^ is SOUND advice. Staying in shape for your mate is, too. I'm your average feminist, but that hasn't corroded my brain cells from realizing that men like pretty and shapely women.

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Anonymous wrote:I look forward to her follow up article: 'Men, be sure to eat your wife's p***y long after taking your marriage vows.'

Look, this^^^^ is SOUND advice. Staying in shape for your mate is, too. I'm your average feminist, but that hasn't corroded my brain cells from realizing that men like pretty and shapely women.

Guy here. I'm fine with that. I'd do it every day if I could!

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Meh. This definitely cuts both ways. I wouldn't be attracted to my husband if he were 50 pounds overweight either. Would I stay with him? Yes, but our sex life would suffer. Mostly I would be concerned about what he's doing to his health. Apart from that, I think the best way to have lasting weight loss is to lose weight for yourself, not for your spouse (though increased sex appeal is not a bad side effect.)

I also don't like the fat-shaming overtones of this article and I don't see much value in it; women who are overweight are well aware that they're considered less attractive by our culture's standards. If they could easily lose the weight I'm sure they already would have.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with her a 100% and I am a woman who considers herself a feminist. I think the push towards this modern gender-less society is not making anyone happy. Men have had their balls taken away from them by criticizing and demonizing every masculine trait. Women are now miserable expected to work long hours, make money AND have a husband and children. This is diplopia.

Women need love and attention and care. They are delicate creatures and they need to be kept well maintained. Look at Arab or Persian women. Thats how a woman is supposed to look. Their husbands keep them flush with money and comfort.

This is where men come in too. They need to go back to being primary breadwinners and take on the hard job of earning a living.

Yeah, you're not a feminist. Delicate creatures?!

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I don't put meal planning ahead of other things, and my husband cares about many things about me more than my weight.

Yes, of course, unless someone's husband is a total jerk, they care about things about their spouse other than their weight. The point is that one should be interested in staying attractive for one's significant other up to a reasonable point. That doesn't mean completely obsessing over appearance. I lost 10 lbs over the past year, and DH didn't really notice because I don't look all that different at 135 vs. 125 lbs. So that change was for me. But I also don't wear sweatpants all the time, or tshirts with giant holes in the armpit, because that would be unattractive to DH. To clean up the basement or whatever, sure. But most of the time, I try to look a bit nicer.