Conservative Writer Pens Essay Telling Women To ‘Stay In Shape For Their Husbands’

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with her a 100% and I am a woman who considers herself a feminist. I think the push towards this modern gender-less society is not making anyone happy. Men have had their balls taken away from them by criticizing and demonizing every masculine trait. Women are now miserable expected to work long hours, make money AND have a husband and children. This is diplopia.

Women need love and attention and care. They are delicate creatures and they need to be kept well maintained. Look at Arab or Persian women. Thats how a woman is supposed to look. Their husbands keep them flush with money and comfort.

This is where men come in too. They need to go back to being primary breadwinners and take on the hard job of earning a living.

Surely you realize that high paying "breadwinner" type jobs are harder to come by when you're competing with women for them. Not that I think it's a bad thing, but it is the reality. More men are edged out of high paying positions every day because more accomplished women are entering the workforce than ever before. This is also why I think it's unfair to expect men to be "breadwinners" this day in age.

Thats not true. Women still mostly major in liberal arts and education. Finance, engineering, banking and law are still mostly male. Also, women drop out of the workforce the minute they get knocked up.

I think the problem is that we as a society have prioritized "girl power" and economic equality so much that women have such less expectations of men. Women are willing to get those six figure jobs AND settle for some average joe who makes only 60k.

If women were more picky about their suitors, men would learn to go for high earning jobs. Women these days open their legs for anyone.

Lol

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Husbands would also prefer wives who don't age. It's perfectly rational from an evolutionary perspective for them to want to be with a younger woman. So what exactly is a wife supposed to do when she is no longer young? How can she "make him happy" in this case?

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Anonymous wrote:Husbands would also prefer wives who don't age. It's perfectly rational from an evolutionary perspective for them to want to be with a younger woman. So what exactly is a wife supposed to do when she is no longer young? How can she "make him happy" in this case?

Women have grappled with this issue for so long. What are we supposed to do after we age and are no longer fertile?

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Anonymous wrote:Okay then my husband should work towards making more money so I can quit my job and devote more time to my physical appearance (shudder).

If you have to quit your job in order to stay fit, then you aren't really interested in staying fit. A poor diet and lack of exercise isn't dependent on your work status.

It's easier to exercise if you don't have to work around that pesky 50 hour job + commute commitment though, plus more time to cook healthy meals.

I don't know why people keep saying that cooking healthy meals takes longer. All you have to do is shop and plan ahead. If you're comparing it to ordering pizza or bringing home fast food, then you're right...but that's a you problem. Also, just because something is EASIER, doesn't mean it's impossible...you just have to make it a priority. Even with a FT job and commute and child care, most people can find a few hours per week to get some exercise. And, it's not the lack of exercise that makes most people fat, it's their diet and food choices. It's just easier for people to say, "I don't have time to exercise 1 hour each day" and accept being fat. The fact is that most people actually don't have the time or energy to exercise each day but making good food choices takes little to no time. You just have to plan ahead.

Planning meals and shopping from a list does take time, as much as you wish it didn't. Yes, you have to make it a priority but it does take time.

Okay enough with the excuses. It takes 3 minutes to make a written grocery list. You have to go to the grocery store to survive snywsy, so it takes the same amount of time whether you're shopping in the Doritos aisle or the produce aisle. When y'all are vegetating in front of the TV on a Sunday, throw some meals for the week together. A crock pot meal can be healthy and takes minimal effort. On that Sunday, portion out some foods for the week ahead into Tupperware or bags in the amounts you need to make things. It is really not this tremendous undertaking you're making it out to be and you sound kinda ridiculous.

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Anonymous wrote:My wife and I both stay fit. Mostly for ourselves but it definitely has a positive impact on our relationship. Expecting someone to change is probably different and not reaistic. Fitness and being attracted to my partner is important for both of us and I don't think we would have married each other if we didn't meet that criteria.

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So you both work, and both share child and house related tasks pretty equally?

We both work. Her job generates 3x what mine does in earnings though. I try to get to 50% of child and household tasks but it would be disengenuous for me to say that. I have a list of things that I knock out daily including making beds, general pick up, dishes, putting away laundry, doing homework with the kid, cleaning the kitchen after dinner etc. There's little doubt that I should be doing more.

Wow she outearns you and does more than you around the house. You must be great in bed, or she must not care about the imbalance.

Its not like I'm a slouch in the earnings department. I'm advanced degreed and earn well into the six figure range - she's just really done well for herself. We discuss chore balance periodicaly and I'm always willing to jump in and do more. She says that I'm the best she's ever been with but I'm sure all women tell their men that

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Anonymous wrote:I really don't see anything wrong with this opinion. I share the same one. (Woman)

+1.

But, according to OP, perhaps everyone who wants to conserve his/ her marriage is a conservative...

Men are just as interesting in their wives being good mothers and having their own intellectual interests as they are in looks. Then again, I've been married almost 30 years, so my marriage is based on more than appearances.

I've been with DH for almost 30 yrs too and at this point taking care of oneself means more than just looks. Staying healthy and fit is a priority and we exercise together because we don't want to be decrepit and old and unable to walk unassisted in our golden years.

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Anonymous wrote:Husbands would also prefer wives who don't age. It's perfectly rational from an evolutionary perspective for them to want to be with a younger woman. So what exactly is a wife supposed to do when she is no longer young? How can she "make him happy" in this case?

This is a stupid comparison.
Everybody ages: this is 100% unavoidable.
Not everybody gets fat: this is 100% avoidable.

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Maybe trump isn't so bad for the country after all. The article needs a paragraph on regular BJs but other than that, solid work.

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Anonymous wrote:Okay then my husband should work towards making more money so I can quit my job and devote more time to my physical appearance (shudder).

If you have to quit your job in order to stay fit, then you aren't really interested in staying fit. A poor diet and lack of exercise isn't dependent on your work status.

It's easier to exercise if you don't have to work around that pesky 50 hour job + commute commitment though, plus more time to cook healthy meals.

I don't know why people keep saying that cooking healthy meals takes longer. All you have to do is shop and plan ahead. If you're comparing it to ordering pizza or bringing home fast food, then you're right...but that's a you problem. Also, just because something is EASIER, doesn't mean it's impossible...you just have to make it a priority. Even with a FT job and commute and child care, most people can find a few hours per week to get some exercise. And, it's not the lack of exercise that makes most people fat, it's their diet and food choices. It's just easier for people to say, "I don't have time to exercise 1 hour each day" and accept being fat. The fact is that most people actually don't have the time or energy to exercise each day but making good food choices takes little to no time. You just have to plan ahead.

Planning meals and shopping from a list does take time, as much as you wish it didn't. Yes, you have to make it a priority but it does take time.

Yes, it takes time but it's hardly a deal breaker. It just depends on what's important to you. Plus, you'd be surprised by how much extra time you have when you have the energy from being fit and not struggling from junk food coma. I know it sounds sanctimonious but it's true. Give it a try...or not.

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Anonymous wrote:I mean, I agree with the general idea that both spouses should try to stay in shape and look good for one another. Not sure why this article is targeted at women in particular.

Well it's because, just like the article says: "a spouse’s physical appearance is much more likely to be important to men than women."

I totally agree with your statement that BOTH should stay in shape.
But I also agree that this is much more likely to be important to men.

Signed, in-shape husband with an overweight wife (and NOT happy about it)

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Anonymous wrote:Husbands would also prefer wives who don't age. It's perfectly rational from an evolutionary perspective for them to want to be with a younger woman. So what exactly is a wife supposed to do when she is no longer young? How can she "make him happy" in this case?

This is a stupid comparison.
Everybody ages: this is 100% unavoidable.
Not everybody gets fat: this is 100% avoidable.

+1. It is a stupid comparison. I'm 50 and don't want a younger wife. I'm done having kids. Of course there are the normal body changes with age but obesity isn't one of them.

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with her a 100% and I am a woman who considers herself a feminist. I think the push towards this modern gender-less society is not making anyone happy. Men have had their balls taken away from them by criticizing and demonizing every masculine trait. Women are now miserable expected to work long hours, make money AND have a husband and children. This is diplopia.

Women need love and attention and care. They are delicate creatures and they need to be kept well maintained. Look at Arab or Persian women. Thats how a woman is supposed to look. Their husbands keep them flush with money and comfort.

This is where men come in too. They need to go back to being primary breadwinners and take on the hard job of earning a living.

Surely you realize that high paying "breadwinner" type jobs are harder to come by when you're competing with women for them. Not that I think it's a bad thing, but it is the reality. More men are edged out of high paying positions every day because more accomplished women are entering the workforce than ever before. This is also why I think it's unfair to expect men to be "breadwinners" this day in age.

Thats not true. Women still mostly major in liberal arts and education. Finance, engineering, banking and law are still mostly male. Also, women drop out of the workforce the minute they get knocked up.

I think the problem is that we as a society have prioritized "girl power" and economic equality so much that women have such less expectations of men. Women are willing to get those six figure jobs AND settle for some average joe who makes only 60k.

If women were more picky about their suitors, men would learn to go for high earning jobs. Women these days open their legs for anyone.

You are wrong in every way. My law school class in 1989 was 53% women. I have worked full time other than maternity leave throughout raising my children, who are now all teenagers. I expect a man who is a strong intellectual, respects women and also has good earning power. It's not his fault that I make more than he does (although I can assure you he makes more than $60K).

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Okay then my husband should work towards making more money so I can quit my job and devote more time to my physical appearance (shudder).

If you have to quit your job in order to stay fit, then you aren't really interested in staying fit. A poor diet and lack of exercise isn't dependent on your work status.

It's easier to exercise if you don't have to work around that pesky 50 hour job + commute commitment though, plus more time to cook healthy meals.

I don't know why people keep saying that cooking healthy meals takes longer. All you have to do is shop and plan ahead. If you're comparing it to ordering pizza or bringing home fast food, then you're right...but that's a you problem. Also, just because something is EASIER, doesn't mean it's impossible...you just have to make it a priority. Even with a FT job and commute and child care, most people can find a few hours per week to get some exercise. And, it's not the lack of exercise that makes most people fat, it's their diet and food choices. It's just easier for people to say, "I don't have time to exercise 1 hour each day" and accept being fat. The fact is that most people actually don't have the time or energy to exercise each day but making good food choices takes little to no time. You just have to plan ahead.

Planning meals and shopping from a list does take time, as much as you wish it didn't. Yes, you have to make it a priority but it does take time.

Okay enough with the excuses. It takes 3 minutes to make a written grocery list. You have to go to the grocery store to survive snywsy, so it takes the same amount of time whether you're shopping in the Doritos aisle or the produce aisle. When y'all are vegetating in front of the TV on a Sunday, throw some meals for the week together. A crock pot meal can be healthy and takes minimal effort. On that Sunday, portion out some foods for the week ahead into Tupperware or bags in the amounts you need to make things. It is really not this tremendous undertaking you're making it out to be and you sound kinda ridiculous.

Sunday is my day to go to church, bible study and spend time with my children. Sorry not sorry that cooking and meal planning don't make my list. Oh, and I don't watch TV; too busy training for a marathon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I really don't see anything wrong with this opinion. I share the same one. (Woman)

+1.

But, according to OP, perhaps everyone who wants to conserve his/ her marriage is a conservative...

Men are just as interesting in their wives being good mothers and having their own intellectual interests as they are in looks. Then again, I've been married almost 30 years, so my marriage is based on more than appearances.

I've been with DH for almost 30 yrs too and at this point taking care of oneself means more than just looks. Staying healthy and fit is a priority and we exercise together because we don't want to be decrepit and old and unable to walk unassisted in our golden years.

If my husband were in great shape, maybe I wouldn't be 20 pounds overweight, but since he's at least 40 pounds overweight, I think I'm good just working out and following the 80/20 rule in my diet.

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Okay then my husband should work towards making more money so I can quit my job and devote more time to my physical appearance (shudder).

If you have to quit your job in order to stay fit, then you aren't really interested in staying fit. A poor diet and lack of exercise isn't dependent on your work status.

It's easier to exercise if you don't have to work around that pesky 50 hour job + commute commitment though, plus more time to cook healthy meals.

I don't know why people keep saying that cooking healthy meals takes longer. All you have to do is shop and plan ahead. If you're comparing it to ordering pizza or bringing home fast food, then you're right...but that's a you problem. Also, just because something is EASIER, doesn't mean it's impossible...you just have to make it a priority. Even with a FT job and commute and child care, most people can find a few hours per week to get some exercise. And, it's not the lack of exercise that makes most people fat, it's their diet and food choices. It's just easier for people to say, "I don't have time to exercise 1 hour each day" and accept being fat. The fact is that most people actually don't have the time or energy to exercise each day but making good food choices takes little to no time. You just have to plan ahead.

Planning meals and shopping from a list does take time, as much as you wish it didn't. Yes, you have to make it a priority but it does take time.

Okay enough with the excuses. It takes 3 minutes to make a written grocery list. You have to go to the grocery store to survive snywsy, so it takes the same amount of time whether you're shopping in the Doritos aisle or the produce aisle. When y'all are vegetating in front of the TV on a Sunday, throw some meals for the week together. A crock pot meal can be healthy and takes minimal effort. On that Sunday, portion out some foods for the week ahead into Tupperware or bags in the amounts you need to make things. It is really not this tremendous undertaking you're making it out to be and you sound kinda ridiculous.

Sunday is my day to go to church, bible study and spend time with my children. Sorry not sorry that cooking and meal planning don't make my list. Oh, and I don't watch TV; too busy training for a marathon.

And that's fine, as long as you acknowledge that you do HAVE the time, you just prefer to spend it in the Bible and church. I put health up high on my priority list, and am healthy and fit as a result. Like anything, its a choice.

I agree with the article.