Conservative Writer Pens Essay Telling Women To ‘Stay In Shape For Their Husbands’

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Anonymous wrote:I really don't see anything wrong with this opinion. I share the same one. (Woman)

+1.

But, according to OP, perhaps everyone who wants to conserve his/ her marriage is a conservative...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My wife and I both stay fit. Mostly for ourselves but it definitely has a positive impact on our relationship. Expecting someone to change is probably different and not reaistic. Fitness and being attracted to my partner is important for both of us and I don't think we would have married each other if we didn't meet that criteria.

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So you both work, and both share child and house related tasks pretty equally?

Not PP but yes, my wife and I both work full time and share child/house tasks equally. That's the only way we can both have time to exercise, go to the gym, etc. Cooking healthy meals is also a priority and doesn't take any extra time from our day since we plan ahead.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I really don't see anything wrong with this opinion. I share the same one. (Woman)

+1.

But, according to OP, perhaps everyone who wants to conserve his/ her marriage is a conservative...

Men are just as interesting in their wives being good mothers and having their own intellectual interests as they are in looks. Then again, I've been married almost 30 years, so my marriage is based on more than appearances.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I really don't see anything wrong with this opinion. I share the same one. (Woman)

That you should stay fit for your husband? Does he have to stay fit too or just bring home $$$ to support you?

We both stay fit and earn equal incomes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife and I both stay fit. Mostly for ourselves but it definitely has a positive impact on our relationship. Expecting someone to change is probably different and not reaistic. Fitness and being attracted to my partner is important for both of us and I don't think we would have married each other if we didn't meet that criteria.

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So you both work, and both share child and house related tasks pretty equally?

Not PP but yes, my wife and I both work full time and share child/house tasks equally. That's the only way we can both have time to exercise, go to the gym, etc. Cooking healthy meals is also a priority and doesn't take any extra time from our day since we plan ahead.

My point is that if a husband expects his wife to stay in shape, he needs to share these things more or less equally.

[Anonymous]

People should stay in shape because it's good for their health. When you are in good shape you feel good about yourself especially compared to most other people walking the streets. When you feel good about yourself that positive attitude can positively affect others, including your SO. This has nothing to do with being a male or a female as it is the same for both. My DH and I are both in decent, but not great shape but for people our age (60's) we look and feel pretty good. And I'm sure that for both of us staying in decent shape has helped keep our sex life very much alive. So, I stay in shape for myself first but I definitely appreciate the ancillary benefits!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree with her a 100% and I am a woman who considers herself a feminist. I think the push towards this modern gender-less society is not making anyone happy. Men have had their balls taken away from them by criticizing and demonizing every masculine trait. Women are now miserable expected to work long hours, make money AND have a husband and children. This is diplopia.

Women need love and attention and care. They are delicate creatures and they need to be kept well maintained. Look at Arab or Persian women. Thats how a woman is supposed to look. Their husbands keep them flush with money and comfort.

This is where men come in too. They need to go back to being primary breadwinners and take on the hard job of earning a living.

Surely you realize that high paying "breadwinner" type jobs are harder to come by when you're competing with women for them. Not that I think it's a bad thing, but it is the reality. More men are edged out of high paying positions every day because more accomplished women are entering the workforce than ever before. This is also why I think it's unfair to expect men to be "breadwinners" this day in age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife and I both stay fit. Mostly for ourselves but it definitely has a positive impact on our relationship. Expecting someone to change is probably different and not reaistic. Fitness and being attracted to my partner is important for both of us and I don't think we would have married each other if we didn't meet that criteria.

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So you both work, and both share child and house related tasks pretty equally?

We both work. Her job generates 3x what mine does in earnings though. I try to get to 50% of child and household tasks but it would be disengenuous for me to say that. I have a list of things that I knock out daily including making beds, general pick up, dishes, putting away laundry, doing homework with the kid, cleaning the kitchen after dinner etc. There's little doubt that I should be doing more.

[Anonymous]

I mean, I agree with the general idea that both spouses should try to stay in shape and look good for one another. Not sure why this article is targeted at women in particular.

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Anonymous wrote:Okay then my husband should work towards making more money so I can quit my job and devote more time to my physical appearance (shudder).

If you have to quit your job in order to stay fit, then you aren't really interested in staying fit. A poor diet and lack of exercise isn't dependent on your work status.

It's easier to exercise if you don't have to work around that pesky 50 hour job + commute commitment though, plus more time to cook healthy meals.

I don't know why people keep saying that cooking healthy meals takes longer. All you have to do is shop and plan ahead. If you're comparing it to ordering pizza or bringing home fast food, then you're right...but that's a you problem. Also, just because something is EASIER, doesn't mean it's impossible...you just have to make it a priority. Even with a FT job and commute and child care, most people can find a few hours per week to get some exercise. And, it's not the lack of exercise that makes most people fat, it's their diet and food choices. It's just easier for people to say, "I don't have time to exercise 1 hour each day" and accept being fat. The fact is that most people actually don't have the time or energy to exercise each day but making good food choices takes little to no time. You just have to plan ahead.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree with her a 100% and I am a woman who considers herself a feminist. I think the push towards this modern gender-less society is not making anyone happy. Men have had their balls taken away from them by criticizing and demonizing every masculine trait. Women are now miserable expected to work long hours, make money AND have a husband and children. This is diplopia.

Women need love and attention and care. They are delicate creatures and they need to be kept well maintained. Look at Arab or Persian women. Thats how a woman is supposed to look. Their husbands keep them flush with money and comfort.

This is where men come in too. They need to go back to being primary breadwinners and take on the hard job of earning a living.

Surely you realize that high paying "breadwinner" type jobs are harder to come by when you're competing with women for them. Not that I think it's a bad thing, but it is the reality. More men are edged out of high paying positions every day because more accomplished women are entering the workforce than ever before. This is also why I think it's unfair to expect men to be "breadwinners" this day in age.

Thats not true. Women still mostly major in liberal arts and education. Finance, engineering, banking and law are still mostly male. Also, women drop out of the workforce the minute they get knocked up.

I think the problem is that we as a society have prioritized "girl power" and economic equality so much that women have such less expectations of men. Women are willing to get those six figure jobs AND settle for some average joe who makes only 60k.

If women were more picky about their suitors, men would learn to go for high earning jobs. Women these days open their legs for anyone.

[Anonymous]

Eh. It goes both ways, women don't find overweight men in sweats attractive, either.

I've found most couples tend to be on about the same level in regard to fitness. If one starts slacking off, the other one does; if one starts getting in shape, the other follows. Plus most couples are eating the same or similar food, and people tend to pair up based on common interests like working out (or eating out). It's pretty rare to see a couple where one is in great shape and the other is a slob (but I know it does happen sometimes).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife and I both stay fit. Mostly for ourselves but it definitely has a positive impact on our relationship. Expecting someone to change is probably different and not reaistic. Fitness and being attracted to my partner is important for both of us and I don't think we would have married each other if we didn't meet that criteria.

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So you both work, and both share child and house related tasks pretty equally?

We both work. Her job generates 3x what mine does in earnings though. I try to get to 50% of child and household tasks but it would be disengenuous for me to say that. I have a list of things that I knock out daily including making beds, general pick up, dishes, putting away laundry, doing homework with the kid, cleaning the kitchen after dinner etc. There's little doubt that I should be doing more.

Wow she outearns you and does more than you around the house. You must be great in bed, or she must not care about the imbalance.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Okay then my husband should work towards making more money so I can quit my job and devote more time to my physical appearance (shudder).

If you have to quit your job in order to stay fit, then you aren't really interested in staying fit. A poor diet and lack of exercise isn't dependent on your work status.

It's easier to exercise if you don't have to work around that pesky 50 hour job + commute commitment though, plus more time to cook healthy meals.

I don't know why people keep saying that cooking healthy meals takes longer. All you have to do is shop and plan ahead. If you're comparing it to ordering pizza or bringing home fast food, then you're right...but that's a you problem. Also, just because something is EASIER, doesn't mean it's impossible...you just have to make it a priority. Even with a FT job and commute and child care, most people can find a few hours per week to get some exercise. And, it's not the lack of exercise that makes most people fat, it's their diet and food choices. It's just easier for people to say, "I don't have time to exercise 1 hour each day" and accept being fat. The fact is that most people actually don't have the time or energy to exercise each day but making good food choices takes little to no time. You just have to plan ahead.

Planning meals and shopping from a list does take time, as much as you wish it didn't. Yes, you have to make it a priority but it does take time.

[Anonymous]

Look at the covers of all those steamy romance novels - none of them has a fat, shirtless guy on the cover. People are attracted to fit people. Its like a law or something.