Conservative Writer Pens Essay Telling Women To ‘Stay In Shape For Their Husbands’

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Just don't get married. Seriously. It's a lose-lose-lose.....

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with her a 100% and I am a woman who considers herself a feminist. I think the push towards this modern gender-less society is not making anyone happy. Men have had their balls taken away from them by criticizing and demonizing every masculine trait. Women are now miserable expected to work long hours, make money AND have a husband and children. This is diplopia.

Women need love and attention and care. They are delicate creatures and they need to be kept well maintained. Look at Arab or Persian women. Thats how a woman is supposed to look. Their husbands keep them flush with money and comfort.

This is where men come in too. They need to go back to being primary breadwinners and take on the hard job of earning a living.

Uh huh.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with her a 100% and I am a woman who considers herself a feminist. I think the push towards this modern gender-less society is not making anyone happy. Men have had their balls taken away from them by criticizing and demonizing every masculine trait. Women are now miserable expected to work long hours, make money AND have a husband and children. This is diplopia.

Women need love and attention and care. They are delicate creatures and they need to be kept well maintained. Look at Arab or Persian women. Thats how a woman is supposed to look. Their husbands keep them flush with money and comfort.

This is where men come in too. They need to go back to being primary breadwinners and take on the hard job of earning a living.

Uh huh.

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Anonymous wrote:My wife and I both stay fit. Mostly for ourselves but it definitely has a positive impact on our relationship. Expecting someone to change is probably different and not reaistic. Fitness and being attracted to my partner is important for both of us and I don't think we would have married each other if we didn't meet that criteria.

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So you both work, and both share child and house related tasks pretty equally?

We both work. Her job generates 3x what mine does in earnings though. I try to get to 50% of child and household tasks but it would be disengenuous for me to say that. I have a list of things that I knock out daily including making beds, general pick up, dishes, putting away laundry, doing homework with the kid, cleaning the kitchen after dinner etc. There's little doubt that I should be doing more.

Wait, so she makes 3x your income, does more of the housework, AND it's incumbent on her to stay just as fit as you? Gimme a break.

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Anonymous wrote:Meh. This definitely cuts both ways. I wouldn't be attracted to my husband if he were 50 pounds overweight either. Would I stay with him? Yes, but our sex life would suffer. Mostly I would be concerned about what he's doing to his health. Apart from that, I think the best way to have lasting weight loss is to lose weight for yourself, not for your spouse (though increased sex appeal is not a bad side effect.)

I also don't like the fat-shaming overtones of this article and I don't see much value in it; women who are overweight are well aware that they're considered less attractive by our culture's standards. If they could easily lose the weight I'm sure they already would have.

Many of these overweight women easily lose the weight after getting divorced.
I've seen this all the time. Clearly it's a matter of basic motivation.
If "fat shaming" is the wrong kind of motivation, what would you suggest?

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Anonymous wrote:My wife and I both stay fit. Mostly for ourselves but it definitely has a positive impact on our relationship. Expecting someone to change is probably different and not reaistic. Fitness and being attracted to my partner is important for both of us and I don't think we would have married each other if we didn't meet that criteria.

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So you both work, and both share child and house related tasks pretty equally?

We both work. Her job generates 3x what mine does in earnings though. I try to get to 50% of child and household tasks but it would be disengenuous for me to say that. I have a list of things that I knock out daily including making beds, general pick up, dishes, putting away laundry, doing homework with the kid, cleaning the kitchen after dinner etc. There's little doubt that I should be doing more.

Wait, so she makes 3x your income, does more of the housework, AND it's incumbent on her to stay just as fit as you? Gimme a break.

This is what I mean. The liberal agenda sucks for women.

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The writer is a product of UVA... need I say more.

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Anonymous wrote:My wife and I both stay fit. Mostly for ourselves but it definitely has a positive impact on our relationship. Expecting someone to change is probably different and not reaistic. Fitness and being attracted to my partner is important for both of us and I don't think we would have married each other if we didn't meet that criteria.

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So you both work, and both share child and house related tasks pretty equally?

We both work. Her job generates 3x what mine does in earnings though. I try to get to 50% of child and household tasks but it would be disengenuous for me to say that. I have a list of things that I knock out daily including making beds, general pick up, dishes, putting away laundry, doing homework with the kid, cleaning the kitchen after dinner etc. There's little doubt that I should be doing more.

Wait, so she makes 3x your income, does more of the housework, AND it's incumbent on her to stay just as fit as you? Gimme a break.

This is what I mean. The liberal agenda sucks for women.

She wiuld do all of these things even if she weren't with me. She's very type A, and split with a previous fiance because he wanted a sahm.

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Anonymous wrote:Okay then my husband should work towards making more money so I can quit my job and devote more time to my physical appearance (shudder).

If you have to quit your job in order to stay fit, then you aren't really interested in staying fit. A poor diet and lack of exercise isn't dependent on your work status.

It's easier to exercise if you don't have to work around that pesky 50 hour job + commute commitment though, plus more time to cook healthy meals.

I don't know why people keep saying that cooking healthy meals takes longer. All you have to do is shop and plan ahead. If you're comparing it to ordering pizza or bringing home fast food, then you're right...but that's a you problem. Also, just because something is EASIER, doesn't mean it's impossible...you just have to make it a priority. Even with a FT job and commute and child care, most people can find a few hours per week to get some exercise. And, it's not the lack of exercise that makes most people fat, it's their diet and food choices. It's just easier for people to say, "I don't have time to exercise 1 hour each day" and accept being fat. The fact is that most people actually don't have the time or energy to exercise each day but making good food choices takes little to no time. You just have to plan ahead.

Planning meals and shopping from a list does take time, as much as you wish it didn't. Yes, you have to make it a priority but it does take time.

Okay enough with the excuses. It takes 3 minutes to make a written grocery list. You have to go to the grocery store to survive snywsy, so it takes the same amount of time whether you're shopping in the Doritos aisle or the produce aisle. When y'all are vegetating in front of the TV on a Sunday, throw some meals for the week together. A crock pot meal can be healthy and takes minimal effort. On that Sunday, portion out some foods for the week ahead into Tupperware or bags in the amounts you need to make things. It is really not this tremendous undertaking you're making it out to be and you sound kinda ridiculous.

Sunday is my day to go to church, bible study and spend time with my children. Sorry not sorry that cooking and meal planning don't make my list. Oh, and I don't watch TV; too busy training for a marathon.

And that's fine, as long as you acknowledge that you do HAVE the time, you just prefer to spend it in the Bible and church. I put health up high on my priority list, and am healthy and fit as a result. Like anything, its a choice.

I agree with the article.

Maybe you should spend a little less time thinking about your temporary corporeal body and more time on your soul. Will you enter the kingdom of heaven?

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Anonymous wrote:Husbands would also prefer wives who don't age. It's perfectly rational from an evolutionary perspective for them to want to be with a younger woman. So what exactly is a wife supposed to do when she is no longer young? How can she "make him happy" in this case?

This is a stupid comparison.
Everybody ages: this is 100% unavoidable.
Not everybody gets fat: this is 100% avoidable.

Everybody ages, and yet men leave their wives for newer versions all the time. Even where they did everything "right." If the article is about staying pleasing and alluring to your man, there is literally nothing women can do about the fact that younger women will look like more attractive options to heir husbands. Eventually the husband has to accept some moderate decrease in attractiveness, or else keep trading in his wives a la Trump.

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Anonymous wrote:Meh. This definitely cuts both ways. I wouldn't be attracted to my husband if he were 50 pounds overweight either. Would I stay with him? Yes, but our sex life would suffer. Mostly I would be concerned about what he's doing to his health. Apart from that, I think the best way to have lasting weight loss is to lose weight for yourself, not for your spouse (though increased sex appeal is not a bad side effect.)

I also don't like the fat-shaming overtones of this article and I don't see much value in it; women who are overweight are well aware that they're considered less attractive by our culture's standards. If they could easily lose the weight I'm sure they already would have.

Many of these overweight women easily lose the weight after getting divorced.
I've seen this all the time. Clearly it's a matter of basic motivation.
If "fat shaming" is the wrong kind of motivation, what would you suggest?

"Oh no! All the fat married women are going to get divorced! Let's shame them into weight loss." Why are you so concerned about the marriages of fat women or about motivating married fat women to lose weight? Are you or your spouse an overweight woman? I'm not buying your fat-shaming as faux concern for the well-being of fat married women everywhere.

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Anonymous wrote:I really don't see anything wrong with this opinion. I share the same one. (Woman)

+1.

But, according to OP, perhaps everyone who wants to conserve his/ her marriage is a conservative...

Men are just as interesting in their wives being good mothers and having their own intellectual interests as they are in looks. Then again, I've been married almost 30 years, so my marriage is based on more than appearances.

I've been with DH for almost 30 yrs too and at this point taking care of oneself means more than just looks. Staying healthy and fit is a priority and we exercise together because we don't want to be decrepit and old and unable to walk unassisted in our golden years.

If my husband were in great shape, maybe I wouldn't be 20 pounds overweight, but since he's at least 40 pounds overweight, I think I'm good just working out and following the 80/20 rule in my diet.

My DH has lost over 50 lbs in a year exercising with me and it's a great couples activity without the kids. No more sleep apnea, no more knee/joint issues (does not need knee replacement) and no longer a borderline diabetic! So much more healthier and happier (he looks hot!) Can run 6 miles whereas before he was wheezing walking 50 yds uphill. I want him to live a long time and not end up in a wheelchair like his father and being a burden to our children and me. As you get older, being in shape is more than about looks.

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It is weird to me that she is making this a "feminist" thing. My friends are extremely conservative (Opus Dei and conservative Christians).

Most do not work out of the home and most are not attractive and do not "attend" to their looks. They think it is vain. They try to eat healthy and walk, but they are not (and are not expected) to stay skinny, fit and spend money on clothes.

They are my friends because of how laid back they are and how much they don't spend time/money/energy on their looks.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with her a 100% and I am a woman who considers herself a feminist. I think the push towards this modern gender-less society is not making anyone happy. Men have had their balls taken away from them by criticizing and demonizing every masculine trait. Women are now miserable expected to work long hours, make money AND have a husband and children. This is diplopia.

Women need love and attention and care. They are delicate creatures and they need to be kept well maintained. Look at Arab or Persian women. Thats how a woman is supposed to look. Their husbands keep them flush with money and comfort.

This is where men come in too. They need to go back to being primary breadwinners and take on the hard job of earning a living.

Uh huh.

Oh yes, and all American women could look like movie stars if they just ate better and exercised. yourself.

[Anonymous]

I am pretty sure that while the lady was writing this article, her husband was somewhere, with someone....other than her, no matter how fit she is.