Conservative Writer Pens Essay Telling Women To ‘Stay In Shape For Their Husbands’

[Anonymous]

http://thefederalist.com/2017/06/22/staying-fit-husband-one-best-gifts-can-give/

Having been sold a pack of feminist lies that make both men and women unhappier, those of us in the millennial generation who are interested in happy marriages have had to rediscover a lot of politically incorrect truths from scratch.

But there’s one truth that is particularly difficult for our genderless, sexless culture to accept, because it eviscerates not one, but two shibboleths of the age: first, that men and women desire the same things in relationships, and second, that a selfish, “be yourself” attitude is a good prescription for marital bliss.

The unspeakable truth is this: a spouse’s physical appearance is much more likely to be important to men than women. Maintaining their figures and beauty—through reasonable efforts—is one important way that women can make their husbands happy.

But if you’re truly in love, why would you want to make the man who loves you put up with your worst? Really, it boils down to an ideological, you-go-girl gloss on selfishness.

Not because married people shouldn’t stick by each other through the worst of times (they should), but because feminist ideology has given us ladies license to give our husbands the worst of ourselves, and to feel “empowered” by giving those we ostensibly love the most the least effort. The female selfishness that our culture lauds manifests in a variety of ways, but one of them is disregard for male needs and desires simply because they’re male.

One of these culturally-verboten male needs is wanting a wife he can get excited looking at. There’s nothing wrong with this male desire (obviously, as with any healthy desire, it can be destructive if not coupled with common sense and moral guardrails). But being raised entirely in a post-feminist movement culture has made a generation of women not only unable to recognize what makes men happy, it’s made even saying what many men want out loud unthinkable.

It’s sad that working towards something that makes someone you love happy has become so toxic in our environment.

It’s best to make a good-faith effort to stay in shape and keep up your beauty routine for yourself, of course, but if you’re happy in those sweats with the “holiday weight” starting to pile on, do not be afraid to consider your husband’s happiness, and how important your physical appearance might be to him. Making an effort to please the man you married is not an act of sisterhood betrayal. Honoring your husband’s masculine nature—and the desires that come with it—is one of the best gifts you can give the man you love.

[Anonymous]

Okay then my husband should work towards making more money so I can quit my job and devote more time to my physical appearance (shudder).

[Anonymous]

Are the husbands also held to the same standard?

[Anonymous]

Obviously this take on staying fit is ridiculous.

But, I do agree that BOTH partners in a relationship should stay active and healthy, everyone is happier that way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Okay then my husband should work towards making more money so I can quit my job and devote more time to my physical appearance (shudder).

If you have to quit your job in order to stay fit, then you aren't really interested in staying fit. A poor diet and lack of exercise isn't dependent on your work status.

[Anonymous]

I really don't see anything wrong with this opinion. I share the same one. (Woman)

[Anonymous]

My wife and I both stay fit. Mostly for ourselves but it definitely has a positive impact on our relationship. Expecting someone to change is probably different and not reaistic. Fitness and being attracted to my partner is important for both of us and I don't think we would have married each other if we didn't meet that criteria.

[Anonymous]

I agree with her a 100% and I am a woman who considers herself a feminist. I think the push towards this modern gender-less society is not making anyone happy. Men have had their balls taken away from them by criticizing and demonizing every masculine trait. Women are now miserable expected to work long hours, make money AND have a husband and children. This is diplopia.

Women need love and attention and care. They are delicate creatures and they need to be kept well maintained. Look at Arab or Persian women. Thats how a woman is supposed to look. Their husbands keep them flush with money and comfort.

This is where men come in too. They need to go back to being primary breadwinners and take on the hard job of earning a living.

[Anonymous]

I don't know so much that it's a conservative writer as a provocateur and troll.

[Anonymous]

I'm on my second marriage and have been married to both.

My first wife put on 50-60 lbs. We never had kids, eating healthy and working out just wasn't her thing. I never asked her to change but I definitely tried to get her to participate with me in working out and doing more active things. Even though I never said anything it definitely impacted our relationship. I just wasn't attracted to her and didn't look at her. In fact, one time on vacation she even commented that we'd been there all week and I hadn't taken one picture of her. I felt terrible. Ultimately, she ended up having multiple affairs which led to our divorce.

Fast forward and I've been married for 14 years to a wonderful woman who is also really into staying fit. I couldn't possibly be more attracted to her. We snuggle every night when we go to bed and hug every morning before our showers. I also feel like we set a good example for our son for a healthy sustainable lifestyle and relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Okay then my husband should work towards making more money so I can quit my job and devote more time to my physical appearance (shudder).

If you have to quit your job in order to stay fit, then you aren't really interested in staying fit. A poor diet and lack of exercise isn't dependent on your work status.

It's easier to exercise if you don't have to work around that pesky 50 hour job + commute commitment though, plus more time to cook healthy meals.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I really don't see anything wrong with this opinion. I share the same one. (Woman)

That you should stay fit for your husband? Does he have to stay fit too or just bring home $$$ to support you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife and I both stay fit. Mostly for ourselves but it definitely has a positive impact on our relationship. Expecting someone to change is probably different and not reaistic. Fitness and being attracted to my partner is important for both of us and I don't think we would have married each other if we didn't meet that criteria.

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So you both work, and both share child and house related tasks pretty equally?

[Anonymous]

I think it is incumbent on both spouses to maintain physical attractiveness for each other, not to mention that doing so helps maintain health. It's even better of you both exercise together. Usually, when my DW and I work out together it leads to a zest session in bed a bit later! The exercise must do something for the hormones, and seeing the sweat roll of her toned body just gets me hard!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree with her a 100% and I am a woman who considers herself a feminist. I think the push towards this modern gender-less society is not making anyone happy. Men have had their balls taken away from them by criticizing and demonizing every masculine trait. Women are now miserable expected to work long hours, make money AND have a husband and children. This is diplopia.

Women need love and attention and care. They are delicate creatures and they need to be kept well maintained. Look at Arab or Persian women. Thats how a woman is supposed to look. Their husbands keep them flush with money and comfort.

This is where men come in too. They need to go back to being primary breadwinners and take on the hard job of earning a living.

I'm rather proud I can work long hours, make more money than my husband and be a good mother. Sorry you can't do it all.