Sex when others are around

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My mom did not get that memo! Jesus, her and her husband (their second marriages) are like teenagers. I even found nudies of her laying around the house. They are so gross!!! There is some serious senior citizen sex going on with those two.


Good for her!!!
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Anonymous wrote:It's bordering on child abuse if you know your kids can hear you and don't try to be quiet. I heard my parents when I was a kid and I'd be watching tv after everyone went to bed. Horrifying.


Please look up the statute for child abuse and tell me how this is in the ballpark. Now go to confession for having impure thoughts.

Some people in this forum (I truly hope it's the same lunatic just obsessing) are truly in need of help.

Do you whisper the word "s-e-x" when you say it or do you just avoid the topic altogether?
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Anonymous wrote:4 y.o. DS hopped into bed with us this very morning while DH was inside me. He didn't pull out right away and tried to finish while DS was trying to cuddle up in front of me. I wanted to strangle DH and gave him a horse kick bc he was still slowly pumping away after a minute or two (Yes, door should have been locked). Sex is frequent so he should've stopped right away. DS had no clue, but I was infinitely uncomfortable.


Thats truly disgusting and sickening and reminds me of this XOJane article about a child molestor who was always trying to have sex with this woman while her child was in bed.

Truly gross. Your DH has issues


I'm thinking this should be reported to the police. If they choose to investigate they can track down the family through the IP, which this site would be required to furnish if ordered to


OK, psycho.


Psycho is the person who continues having sex while her child is cuddling her. That's disgusting. And if I knew the person, I'd absolutely call the cops. It's not okay behavior. Your child is physically engaging with you while your husband is f'ing you and you think this is okay? WTF kind of sick pervert are you?


Oh Shut it, you freak. Go back and read the bolded parts. You are twisting the PP's words to fit your agenda. Go find real child abuse instead of reporting made up ones to the cops.


A close family member of mine works for CPS and they/the cops wouldn't do anything about this. They are too busy investigating real, horrific child abuse. If this was brought before a judge they would be absolutely furious for wasting the court's time.


No way it ever gets close to a judge. The furthest it gets is a punchline in the coffee room at the police station.
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Anonymous wrote:DW absolutely will not have sex with kids around. It is always when they go for sleepovers or we go away


So you guys have sex like three times a year then? Yay, go you.


Well maybe 6-9 but you get the idea... Yup, sucks to be me in a huge way. She didn't mind when kids were really little, but the damn teenager is up late. Me, I would be all over morning sex while teen is snoozing but she wants no part of that either


but morning sex rocks....so she's okay with self pleasuring but staying quiet when the kids are awake? How weird. Sex is a biological drive. How can you keep it to 6 or 9 times a YEAR?


Because you get older. You go through menopause, and lose all/most your sexual desire.



My mom did not get that memo! Jesus, her and her husband (their second marriages) are like teenagers. I even found nudies of her laying around the house. They are so gross!!! There is some serious senior citizen sex going on with those two.


Operative phrase here is "second husband." The rush of new relationships turn back the clocks for people physically.
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Anonymous wrote:It's bordering on child abuse if you know your kids can hear you and don't try to be quiet. I heard my parents when I was a kid and I'd be watching tv after everyone went to bed. Horrifying.


I agree. It's very strange to do that to your kids, really makes you wonder about the parents' motives..


How do you KNOW the kids can hear you?

I'm thinking about all those many thousands of years when people lived in one-room huts or tents and the parents had sex with kids right there in the room with them. Apparently that was child abuse! Who knew.

+1. It causes me to wonder if some of the posters have experienced really good sex. You have every good intention of staying as quiet as possible, but once you're in the throws of passion, you reach a point where you can no longer control what you do or what comes out of your mouth. And for those few moments, frankly, you could care less.


Throes. And no, married sex isn't usually that passionate.


Speak for yourself.
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Anybody else have the guts to admit they got aroused from hearing their parents have sex?
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Anonymous wrote:DW absolutely will not have sex with kids around. It is always when they go for sleepovers or we go away


So you guys have sex like three times a year then? Yay, go you.


Well maybe 6-9 but you get the idea... Yup, sucks to be me in a huge way. She didn't mind when kids were really little, but the damn teenager is up late. Me, I would be all over morning sex while teen is snoozing but she wants no part of that either


but morning sex rocks....so she's okay with self pleasuring but staying quiet when the kids are awake? How weird. Sex is a biological drive. How can you keep it to 6 or 9 times a YEAR?


Because you get older. You go through menopause, and lose all/most your sexual desire.



My mom did not get that memo! Jesus, her and her husband (their second marriages) are like teenagers. I even found nudies of her laying around the house. They are so gross!!! There is some serious senior citizen sex going on with those two.


What are you, 12? Gross? Anyone who hopes to live to old age AND enjoy pleasure is going to have to accept that it's not "gross." Orgasms are not just for the young and beautiful.


I mean that in a loving way. I hope I'm still having sex when I'm collecting social security. I really think it is great, though I wish they had secured those pictures. I think their renewed interest in sex is simply variety. They were both in long term first marriages where sex probably waned, much like the sad stories here on this site and then found each other and get to start all over again. I also think the PP who things that your lose all of your sexual drive at menopause is completely off base: https://consumer.healthday.com/encyclopedia/aging-1/misc-aging-news-10/sex-and-seniors-the-70-year-itch-647575.html

As this article points out, sex is a use it or lose it.


Oh okay. It didn't come through initially. I had to push past my own phase of worrying that I'm not allowed to have sex anymore now that I'm older and unattractive, because my stupid midlife-crisis-having husband got judgy and decided to chase younger women. Then I realized I want to be enjoying sex until my dying day, and will just have to accept the wrinkly bits, and so will anyone who wants to join in.
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This thread is great reminder of the other threads where the husband bemoans that they do not get sex. The people here are so sexually suppressed. Yet the same people follow Duggars with the pedophile brother and vote for pussy-grabbing Trump. I guess that they are secretly masturbating to their own lurid fantasies.
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Anonymous wrote:This thread is great reminder of the other threads where the husband bemoans that they do not get sex. The people here are so sexually suppressed. Yet the same people follow Duggars with the pedophile brother and vote for pussy-grabbing Trump. I guess that they are secretly masturbating to their own lurid fantasies.


It's not suppressed to have the decency and respect to not subject people in your house to your sex noises.
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Anonymous wrote:This thread is great reminder of the other threads where the husband bemoans that they do not get sex. The people here are so sexually suppressed. Yet the same people follow Duggars with the pedophile brother and vote for pussy-grabbing Trump. I guess that they are secretly masturbating to their own lurid fantasies.


It's not suppressed to have the decency and respect to not subject people in your house to your sex noises.


It's clear that's never an issue in your house.
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Anonymous wrote:DW absolutely will not have sex with kids around. It is always when they go for sleepovers or we go away


So you guys have sex like three times a year then? Yay, go you.


Well maybe 6-9 but you get the idea... Yup, sucks to be me in a huge way. She didn't mind when kids were really little, but the damn teenager is up late. Me, I would be all over morning sex while teen is snoozing but she wants no part of that either


but morning sex rocks....so she's okay with self pleasuring but staying quiet when the kids are awake? How weird. Sex is a biological drive. How can you keep it to 6 or 9 times a YEAR?


Because you get older. You go through menopause, and lose all/most your sexual desire.



My mom did not get that memo! Jesus, her and her husband (their second marriages) are like teenagers. I even found nudies of her laying around the house. They are so gross!!! There is some serious senior citizen sex going on with those two.


What are you, 12? Gross? Anyone who hopes to live to old age AND enjoy pleasure is going to have to accept that it's not "gross." Orgasms are not just for the young and beautiful.


I mean that in a loving way. I hope I'm still having sex when I'm collecting social security. I really think it is great, though I wish they had secured those pictures. I think their renewed interest in sex is simply variety. They were both in long term first marriages where sex probably waned, much like the sad stories here on this site and then found each other and get to start all over again. I also think the PP who things that your lose all of your sexual drive at menopause is completely off base: https://consumer.healthday.com/encyclopedia/aging-1/misc-aging-news-10/sex-and-seniors-the-70-year-itch-647575.html

As this article points out, sex is a use it or lose it.


Oh okay. It didn't come through initially. I had to push past my own phase of worrying that I'm not allowed to have sex anymore now that I'm older and unattractive, because my stupid midlife-crisis-having husband got judgy and decided to chase younger women. Then I realized I want to be enjoying sex until my dying day, and will just have to accept the wrinkly bits, and so will anyone who wants to join in.


Or you can be like my mom and leave her philandering husband and find love and sex from someone who will appreciate you. She's having a great second chance at love and sex and I would guess that sex as a senior citizen is better for her than sex as a married mother of 3 growing kids.

This article points out the attitude that you recoiled at in my initial post. That older people are "not supposed to be sexual" according to our youthful society, but this is simply not true, I read somewhere that venereal diseases are a real problem in retirement homes.
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Anonymous wrote:Do you try to be as quiet as possible when you have sex and the kids are in the house, or don't you care if they hear? I remember hearing my parents a lot when I was a kid and didn't think much of it, but a friend was recently asked to keep it down by her teen son and was mortified that he could hear them at night (even though he's only a room away...duh he can hear you...).


If the kids are awake while we are having sex, then we are quiet. Sometimes in the middle of the day, we do it in the master shower, but on occasion one of our kids had started banging on tbr bathroom door demanding that we mediate a fight over the xbox. If the kids are asleep, then we are not worried about volume.

I definitely won't clutch my pearls of they hear us from time to time or have an idea of what we are doing. We are married and we are healthy. Frequent sex is what happens in good marriages.


If my kids banged on the door of the bathroom and demanded anything they'd lose screens for a few days.

They can "demand" a trip to the doctor if they're sick or bang on the door if the house is on fire. In any other circumstance they need to politely respect boundaries.

Maybe some of the posters who don't have sex in the house have raised their kids to feel entitled to 100% of their time and unable to hear "no."


Well it was kid who banged on the bathroom door and I have plenty of sex with my DH. Which is why we are sometimes fucking in the bathroom at 2PM on a Saturday.

Unfortunately, I can't conjure up my inner Joan Crawford, nor is that offense worthy of such an extreme response, so banging on doors usually just result in me not responding until I've rinsed the deposit off myself, finished showering, toweled off and gotten dressed.


Loss of screen time is not an "extreme response".

"Not responding" just makes them think you didn't hear, so they bang louder on the door. Stupid and ineffective.

If you bang on my bathroom door when I'm in there, no matter what I'm doing, you better be bleeding or the house better be on fire or you ARE going to be punished.
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Anonymous wrote:It's bordering on child abuse if you know your kids can hear you and don't try to be quiet. I heard my parents when I was a kid and I'd be watching tv after everyone went to bed. Horrifying.


I agree. It's very strange to do that to your kids, really makes you wonder about the parents' motives..


How do you KNOW the kids can hear you?

I'm thinking about all those many thousands of years when people lived in one-room huts or tents and the parents had sex with kids right there in the room with them. Apparently that was child abuse! Who knew.


Seriously. I have been rolling my eyes so hard at this "it's child abuse!" hysteria.
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Anonymous wrote:This thread is great reminder of the other threads where the husband bemoans that they do not get sex. The people here are so sexually suppressed. Yet the same people follow Duggars with the pedophile brother and vote for pussy-grabbing Trump. I guess that they are secretly masturbating to their own lurid fantasies.


It's not suppressed to have the decency and respect to not subject people in your house to your sex noises.


So you try to be quiet, or you are so decent that you just give up having sex?
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Anonymous wrote:This thread is great reminder of the other threads where the husband bemoans that they do not get sex. The people here are so sexually suppressed. Yet the same people follow Duggars with the pedophile brother and vote for pussy-grabbing Trump. I guess that they are secretly masturbating to their own lurid fantasies.


It's not suppressed to have the decency and respect to not subject people in your house to your sex noises.


So you try to be quiet, or you are so decent that you just give up having sex?


Let me give you a reality check: "trying to be quiet" doesn't work. Whoever is in your house can probably hear you. No, I don't do it if I have people staying with me. My room is at the top of the stairs, and overlooks our living room via a catwalk. Any noises are going to be heard by anyone coming up the stairs. It is so gross to have to hear other people having sex, particularly if you're staying with them and don't really have any way to avoid hearing it. You can surely go 2 damn days without making your guests hear wet smacking noises or bed squeaking.
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