Sex when others are around

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I remember in high school, sleeping over at my friend's house, her parents got really loud. Moaning and squealing springs and slamming headboard and "Oh, [name], Oh, God!" We were in the basement "hangout" and they were right above us in the master suite on the main level. My friend got so fed up that she grabbed a broom, stood on the coffee table and smacked the ceiling/their floor repeatedly with the handle shouting "For the love of God, will you please shut up? WE CAN HEAR YOU!" They laughed at us and went right on fucking. It was charming. And by charming, I mean it was really gross!

I walked in on my parents twice in high school. Once when I came home early from school only to find that they had also come home early and were fucking on the living room sofa (I didn't sit there again for weeks), and another time when I'd heard a scary noise outside my window and wanted my dad to check it out. I also used to find their used condoms in the trash can, and on one memorable occasion, on their nightstand.

There's no point to either of these stories. This thread just reminded me of them. And maybe that IS the point - despite these events having occurred, I had pretty much forgotten about them until I was reminded by this thread.

For the record, the DH who kept fucking his wife in front of the 4 year old is gross, but the wife said she was extremely uncomfortable with it, so could people maybe lay off of her and stop calling her a sick freak? Also, involving the police seems extreme. Let the poor woman work things out on her own.

For the record, it wasn't in front of the child. The child couldn't see. The child was oblivious to what was happening.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Crazy Story:

I have a friend who once heard her parents having sex at night when she was around 19 or 20 years old. She could hear her mother making what she considered to be weird sounds, and the bed was squeaking. She tried to ignore the noise and go to sleep, but accordingly to her, it was just too much. So, in anger she got out of her room and loudly banged on their door several times. The noises and squeaking stopped.

The next morning, when she went downstairs into the kitchen, her mother could not look at her in the eyes.

Her dad, on the other hand was visibly furious. Without directly addressing my friend, he started yelling(she was the only other person at home that night) : "This is my house, and I can make love to my wife when I want, where I want and how I want. Anyone who has a problem with that can go find somewhere else to live." Her mother almost sank into the floor from the embarrassment.

I am still not sure who was crazier; my friend for banging on their door or her dad for the rant. I guess she inherited the crazy from her dad.

My answer to your question. The daughter was wrong and the father right. Daughter at 19/20 could take her weak sensibilities and move her butt out.

[Anonymous]

There are a lot of weird people in this thread. I don't want people to hear me and don't purposely do things to be heard, but, I also don't care if they do. Sex is natural and healthy. I have it. Big whoop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are a lot of weird people in this thread. I don't want people to hear me and don't purposely do things to be heard, but, I also don't care if they do. Sex is natural and healthy. I have it. Big whoop.

Please stop being so logical and balanced - you'll disrupt the dynamic of this forum.

[Anonymous]

Wife of the guy who didn't pull out when her son jumped into bed with her said she was extremely uncomfortable but didn't pull away. This is what I find the most disturbing about that story -- that in the poster's marriage, apparently she can't exercise her right not to continue with a sex act when she's extremely uncomfortable.

[Anonymous]

We figured out ways to not have to be so quiet. Doubt our kids knew that we turned the fan on the central air for the noise or that the radio on the one common wall was to provide sound between us and them. But even if they did, so what.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DW absolutely will not have sex with kids around. It is always when they go for sleepovers or we go away

So you guys have sex like three times a year then? Yay, go you.

Well maybe 6-9 but you get the idea... Yup, sucks to be me in a huge way. She didn't mind when kids were really little, but the damn teenager is up late. Me, I would be all over morning sex while teen is snoozing but she wants no part of that either

Soooo...during the weeks and months between those 6-9 times a year, the two of you are obviously masturbating a whole lot. So, isn't that kind of the same thing? Maybe a little quieter, but still a sex act going on under the same roof. I don't get the hangup.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wife of the guy who didn't pull out when her son jumped into bed with her said she was extremely uncomfortable but didn't pull away. This is what I find the most disturbing about that story -- that in the poster's marriage, apparently she can't exercise her right not to continue with a sex act when she's extremely uncomfortable.

You misrepresenting what she said in order to make it sound more "rapey." She never said that her DH continued after she told him to stop.

Here is the quote:

"4 y.o. DS hopped into bed with us this very morning while DH was inside me. He didn't pull out right away and tried to finish while DS was trying to cuddle up in front of me. I wanted to strangle DH and gave him a horse kick bc he was still slowly pumping away after a minute or two (Yes, door should have been locked). Sex is frequent so he should've stopped right away. DS had no clue, but I was infinitely uncomfortable."


The order of events here:

1. They were having sex.
2. Son jumps into bed, is obviously unaware of what is happening
3. DH continues to "slowly pump away"
4. OP kicks DH to stop
5. DH stops (this is implied)
6. Son was completely unaware that anything was happening.

No one was harmed. No one was "raped." It was just an awkward, and later humorous, situation. I'm so sick of people who needlessly instigate strife and outrage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wife of the guy who didn't pull out when her son jumped into bed with her said she was extremely uncomfortable but didn't pull away. This is what I find the most disturbing about that story -- that in the poster's marriage, apparently she can't exercise her right not to continue with a sex act when she's extremely uncomfortable.

You misrepresenting what she said in order to make it sound more "rapey." She never said that her DH continued after she told him to stop.

Here is the quote:

"4 y.o. DS hopped into bed with us this very morning while DH was inside me. He didn't pull out right away and tried to finish while DS was trying to cuddle up in front of me. I wanted to strangle DH and gave him a horse kick bc he was still slowly pumping away after a minute or two (Yes, door should have been locked). Sex is frequent so he should've stopped right away. DS had no clue, but I was infinitely uncomfortable."


The order of events here:

1. They were having sex.
2. Son jumps into bed, is obviously unaware of what is happening
3. DH continues to "slowly pump away"
4. OP kicks DH to stop
5. DH stops (this is implied)
6. Son was completely unaware that anything was happening.

No one was harmed. No one was "raped." It was just an awkward, and later humorous, situation. I'm so sick of people who needlessly instigate strife and outrage.

+1. The assumptions and conclusions made here are pretty incredible. These sick idiots think everyone is as screwed up as they are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wife of the guy who didn't pull out when her son jumped into bed with her said she was extremely uncomfortable but didn't pull away. This is what I find the most disturbing about that story -- that in the poster's marriage, apparently she can't exercise her right not to continue with a sex act when she's extremely uncomfortable.

You misrepresenting what she said in order to make it sound more "rapey." She never said that her DH continued after she told him to stop.

Here is the quote:

"4 y.o. DS hopped into bed with us this very morning while DH was inside me. He didn't pull out right away and tried to finish while DS was trying to cuddle up in front of me. I wanted to strangle DH and gave him a horse kick bc he was still slowly pumping away after a minute or two (Yes, door should have been locked). Sex is frequent so he should've stopped right away. DS had no clue, but I was infinitely uncomfortable."


The order of events here:

1. They were having sex.
2. Son jumps into bed, is obviously unaware of what is happening
3. DH continues to "slowly pump away"
4. OP kicks DH to stop
5. DH stops (this is implied)
6. Son was completely unaware that anything was happening.

No one was harmed. No one was "raped." It was just an awkward, and later humorous, situation. I'm so sick of people who needlessly instigate strife and outrage.

I did not use the term rape. I did not say she told him to stop. I said she was uncomfortable (which she said) but did not tell him so. That's the dynamic -- a relationship where a woman goes through very uncomfortable sexual situation without speaking up. I didn't call it rape, but it is unhealthy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wife of the guy who didn't pull out when her son jumped into bed with her said she was extremely uncomfortable but didn't pull away. This is what I find the most disturbing about that story -- that in the poster's marriage, apparently she can't exercise her right not to continue with a sex act when she's extremely uncomfortable.

You misrepresenting what she said in order to make it sound more "rapey." She never said that her DH continued after she told him to stop.

Here is the quote:

"4 y.o. DS hopped into bed with us this very morning while DH was inside me. He didn't pull out right away and tried to finish while DS was trying to cuddle up in front of me. I wanted to strangle DH and gave him a horse kick bc he was still slowly pumping away after a minute or two (Yes, door should have been locked). Sex is frequent so he should've stopped right away. DS had no clue, but I was infinitely uncomfortable."


The order of events here:

1. They were having sex.
2. Son jumps into bed, is obviously unaware of what is happening
3. DH continues to "slowly pump away"
4. OP kicks DH to stop
5. DH stops (this is implied)
6. Son was completely unaware that anything was happening.

No one was harmed. No one was "raped." It was just an awkward, and later humorous, situation. I'm so sick of people who needlessly instigate strife and outrage.

I did not use the term rape. I did not say she told him to stop. I said she was uncomfortable (which she said) but did not tell him so. That's the dynamic -- a relationship where a woman goes through very uncomfortable sexual situation without speaking up. I didn't call it rape, but it is unhealthy.

Maybe she didn't speak up because she didn't want the kid to know anything unusual was going on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wife of the guy who didn't pull out when her son jumped into bed with her said she was extremely uncomfortable but didn't pull away. This is what I find the most disturbing about that story -- that in the poster's marriage, apparently she can't exercise her right not to continue with a sex act when she's extremely uncomfortable.

You misrepresenting what she said in order to make it sound more "rapey." She never said that her DH continued after she told him to stop.

Here is the quote:

"4 y.o. DS hopped into bed with us this very morning while DH was inside me. He didn't pull out right away and tried to finish while DS was trying to cuddle up in front of me. I wanted to strangle DH and gave him a horse kick bc he was still slowly pumping away after a minute or two (Yes, door should have been locked). Sex is frequent so he should've stopped right away. DS had no clue, but I was infinitely uncomfortable."


The order of events here:

1. They were having sex.
2. Son jumps into bed, is obviously unaware of what is happening
3. DH continues to "slowly pump away"
4. OP kicks DH to stop
5. DH stops (this is implied)
6. Son was completely unaware that anything was happening.

No one was harmed. No one was "raped." It was just an awkward, and later humorous, situation. I'm so sick of people who needlessly instigate strife and outrage.

I did not use the term rape. I did not say she told him to stop. I said she was uncomfortable (which she said) but did not tell him so. That's the dynamic --a relationship where a woman goes through very uncomfortable sexual situation without speaking up. I didn't call it rape, but it is unhealthy.

So, she should ignore her child and address her being uncomfortable....

Nonsense. But your agenda is duly noted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it me, or do the people who regularly suggest shrinks and therapy and counseling to everybody else in these forums always seem like they're in the middle of their own psychological meltdown?

Yes, it's you, skank.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is it me, or do the people who regularly suggest shrinks and therapy and counseling to everybody else in these forums always seem like they're in the middle of their own psychological meltdown?

Yes, it's you, skank.

Thanks for volunteering as Exhibit A.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it me, or do the people who regularly suggest shrinks and therapy and counseling to everybody else in these forums always seem like they're in the middle of their own psychological meltdown?

It's you.