Anyone else still madly in love with their husband?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have to chuckle at all this clucking over husbands - how much we love them and argue that our marriages are wonderful.

This is my last comment on this thread, but I ask you: how often do you think men (your husband?) discuss how madly in love with you THEY are? <crickets>

Oh, no, please don't go! Just when we were starting to enjoy your bitterness. (not)

Do I care if my husband is on an online forum talking to strangers about how much he loves me? Hells no. He gives me a backrub or head tickles until I fall asleep every single night and has done so every night we've been together since our marriage. Since before our marriage, in fact. I love how this bitter ass poster says things like "clucking." Again, you might not need to question too hard about what's gone wrong in your marriage with an attitude like that. A woman who loves her husband is a hen and should be talked about in demeaning terms. Yes, right. Because being hateful, spiteful, and miserable is the way to go.

Please, PP, don't let the door hit ya where the good lord split ya...

[Anonymous]

" Again, you might not need to question too hard about what's gone wrong in your marriage with an attitude like that. A woman who loves her husband is a hen and should be talked about in demeaning terms. Yes, right. Because being hateful, spiteful, and miserable is the way to go.

Smug much? Christ almighty this is what some of the posters are talking about. You're not a hen for loving hour husband. Your a hen for talking about it, bragging ESPECIALLY when this entire thread came about as a "look at me" response to other people whose marriages are not doing so well.

I don't care in least how much your DH loves you or how he lulls you to sleep at night. No one does. Happy for you but really, barf that you have to talk about it like that.

And as for as spiteful and miserable, Mrs. Pot, you should meet our friend Mr. Kettle. You'll be very happy together.

[Anonymous]

" I ADORE sex with my husband and wish we could do it more often but the kids and 2 full time jobs get in the way sometimes. "

Great. Thanks for sharing. As if anyone cares.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Please, PP, don't let the door hit ya where the good lord split ya...

Miley, is that you? Or your daddy, Billy Ray?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All the haters need to take a page from OP or crawl back into their holes or at least go back to the "I hate my husband" thread. I ADORE my husband after 10 years, three kids, and another on the way. I ADORE sex with my husband and wish we could do it more often but the kids and 2 full time jobs get in the way sometimes. Do we argue sometimes? Yes. Is life perfect? No. Do we try to do better every day? Yes. Do we take the time to tell each other what we like about the other and what we appreciate about the other? Yes!!

I like the DCUM threads that remind us to take the time to appreciate our spouses, to really enjoy them and value them, and remember to tell them, despite all the stress, that we think they are awesome and appreciate the hard work. Women who harp on their husbands all the time (and vice versa) reap what they sow. For those of you that are in thankless, loveless marriages, I am sorry. Personally, I think this thread (minus all the negative types) is inspirational and, for those of us in marriages that might just survive, it is a great reminder to think positively and do positiively about our husbands/wives.

Why not go part-time? Or, better yet, quit?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:" Again, you might not need to question too hard about what's gone wrong in your marriage with an attitude like that. A woman who loves her husband is a hen and should be talked about in demeaning terms. Yes, right. Because being hateful, spiteful, and miserable is the way to go.

Smug much? Christ almighty this is what some of the posters are talking about. You're not a hen for loving hour husband. Your a hen for talking about it, bragging ESPECIALLY when this entire thread came about as a "look at me" response to other people whose marriages are not doing so well.

I don't care in least how much your DH loves you or how he lulls you to sleep at night. No one does. Happy for you but really, barf that you have to talk about it like that.

And as for as spiteful and miserable, Mrs. Pot, you should meet our friend Mr. Kettle. You'll be very happy together.

If you don't care and don't want to know about it.............WHY ARE YOU READING A THREAD ABOUT WOMEN IN LOVE WITH THEIR HUSBANDS????? Moron.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't care in least how much your DH loves you or how he lulls you to sleep at night. No one does. Happy for you but really, barf that you have to talk about it like that.

If you don't care and don't want to know about it.............WHY ARE YOU READING A THREAD ABOUT WOMEN IN LOVE WITH THEIR HUSBANDS????? Moron.

x2. I am another person who is happy to hear about someone on DCUM who loves her husband. It's the haters I could do without.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:


I had a similarly condescending attitude about my marriage years ago. I really didn't understand why some of my friends were having so many problems with their relationships. Marriage was effortless - and we were as passionate about each other as the day we met (and this was after kids). Then something happened beyond our control (no affair or anything) and it was akin to throwing a grenade into our marriage. For awhile, everyday together was a struggle. We've been trying to work through it, but I still can't say what the future holds for us. If you've got a fabulous relationship - be grateful for what you have, but don't forget we all get dealt a different hand of cards in life.

This.

[Anonymous]

I am just going to skip over the previous 5 pages of crazy and say yes, I am still madly in love with my husband. We've been together 11 years. Marriage is hard work, and we've had ups and downs, but I love him like crazy and he loves me too. We do nice little things for each other and talk things through and try to give each other time off from parenting and try to do fun things together regularly... Right now we are apart for a week (work travel) and I can't wait to see him again and grab him and kiss him and tell him how great he is. And we talk regularly about how lucky we are, because I know some people are dealt a different hand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:" Again, you might not need to question too hard about what's gone wrong in your marriage with an attitude like that. A woman who loves her husband is a hen and should be talked about in demeaning terms. Yes, right. Because being hateful, spiteful, and miserable is the way to go.

Smug much? Christ almighty this is what some of the posters are talking about. You're not a hen for loving hour husband. Your a hen for talking about it, bragging ESPECIALLY when this entire thread came about as a "look at me" response to other people whose marriages are not doing so well.

I don't care in least how much your DH loves you or how he lulls you to sleep at night. No one does. Happy for you but really, barf that you have to talk about it like that.

And as for as spiteful and miserable, Mrs. Pot, you should meet our friend Mr. Kettle. You'll be very happy together.

Angry lady,

Are you confusing me with OP? I'm not OP. I'm just another happily married woman who identified with what she wrote and wanted to say "hear, hear" or "good for you!" You or someone with a similar attitude asked the question about how many of us "clucking" women have husbands who would take to message boards to talk about their relationships. Your barb implied that us simpering ninnies are all fussing around over husbands who are as detached as yours ostensibly is. I answered because it's not the case. I'm tired of women like you, who cut other women down because you perceive other women's happiness as threatening or competitive or I don't even know what. It's not okay to tear another woman down simply because she is happy. Nobody insulted you, nobody mocked the sadness you're going through. If you posted to tell me that you were having a rough time with your marriage and were deeply unhappy, I wouldn't thumb my nose at you and say "oh too bad for you because my marriage is super." This is something completely different. OP wrote that she is happy. You opened the thread and tried to pee all over it. It wasn't the other way around, so don't say "nobody cares" like you are the spokesperson for anything other than a handful of similarly bitter women. You're hijacking a happiness thread by wallowing in and spreading misery, not the other way around, so who cares if you "care" what I say or what OP says? (And obviously, you do care. You're torturing yourself by opening this thread and responding again and again, trying to spread unhappiness and anxiety). Why?

As for me being spiteful or bitter, no, I don't think so. OP said somewhere on page one or two that she did not mean to make other people feel bad. Some women, me included, are on this board several times a week. Dysfunctional or not, it's a bit of a community. Sometimes the tone goes overwhelmingly negative because people naturally want to rant and vent and an anonymous message board is the perfect outlet for that. OP wanted to celebrate, instead. I guess the moral of the story, to some of you at least, is that misery loves company but shared happiness is nothing more than gloating. Hm. I disagree.

Thank you for sharing your uplifting story, OP. There are many of us with you!

[Anonymous]

OP, good for you.

In my case, he's verbally abusive, and I just cannot tolerate it anymore. We are separating right now, and it'a tough. Reading your post and posts of others who are still in love with their husbands, and who think that their husbands are amazing, just makes me stronger through this very difficult time and determined to go through with it. Your posts remind me of the type of relationship that I wanted for myself - not one when my husband uses me as a metaphorical punching bag (so far) to let steam off and shout his head off at someone (and who's better than the wify , but one where I am respected, appreciated, and yes, loved. I guess no relationship (for some time), is better than a bad relationship with no hope of improving.

[Anonymous]

I love my husband more today than the day I married him 8 years ago. I love him for what a great dad he is to our kids, for the sacrifices he's made in his career to be more present for our family, for the way he supports MY career in this very tough economy. We have a lot of fun together and every day I feel grateful for my life and my family.

But I don't feel smitten, mushy or head-over-heels when I look at him, the way I felt when we met. We fight, we disagree, but we always work it out and we never act without respect toward the other person. We've had rough patches and better times, and for me, marriage is hard work. How can it not be?? We're two different people with strong opinions about the things we care about, and those opinions aren't always aligned.

I do feel lucky that we have a strong marriage, but it's not like it was handed to us. I've made a lot of compromises and so has he, and we continue to meet somewhere in the middle every day. Let's hope that continues!

[Anonymous]

I am still in love with my husband. I enjoy his company and our sex life, though it isn't as frequent as I would like it to be. I enjoy laughing with him, and talking with him. I like that we share many inside jokes, and that we connect well.

I don't get mushy while gazing at him while he sleeps. I don't miss him while he is at work, nor do I pine for him to come home. I have better things to do like sleep, work, take care of the children, and clean the house.

[Anonymous]

by experience, when you talk so much about something, means that something is missing, and you're looking for excuses, maybe you could just ask why your husband doesn't love you as much as you do. For those who are madly in love with their husbands after long period marriage, you need to be careful, most of men are flirting with other women, some of them are cheating on you, while you're in other world of madly in love.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:" Again, you might not need to question too hard about what's gone wrong in your marriage with an attitude like that. A woman who loves her husband is a hen and should be talked about in demeaning terms. Yes, right. Because being hateful, spiteful, and miserable is the way to go.

Smug much? Christ almighty this is what some of the posters are talking about. You're not a hen for loving hour husband. Your a hen for talking about it, bragging ESPECIALLY when this entire thread came about as a "look at me" response to other people whose marriages are not doing so well.

I don't care in least how much your DH loves you or how he lulls you to sleep at night. No one does. Happy for you but really, barf that you have to talk about it like that.

And as for as spiteful and miserable, Mrs. Pot, you should meet our friend Mr. Kettle. You'll be very happy together.

Angry lady,

Are you confusing me with OP? I'm not OP. I'm just another happily married woman who identified with what she wrote and wanted to say "hear, hear" or "good for you!" You or someone with a similar attitude asked the question about how many of us "clucking" women have husbands who would take to message boards to talk about their relationships. Your barb implied that us simpering ninnies are all fussing around over husbands who are as detached as yours ostensibly is. I answered because it's not the case. I'm tired of women like you, who cut other women down because you perceive other women's happiness as threatening or competitive or I don't even know what. It's not okay to tear another woman down simply because she is happy. Nobody insulted you, nobody mocked the sadness you're going through. If you posted to tell me that you were having a rough time with your marriage and were deeply unhappy, I wouldn't thumb my nose at you and say "oh too bad for you because my marriage is super." This is something completely different. OP wrote that she is happy. You opened the thread and tried to pee all over it. It wasn't the other way around, so don't say "nobody cares" like you are the spokesperson for anything other than a handful of similarly bitter women. You're hijacking a happiness thread by wallowing in and spreading misery, not the other way around, so who cares if you "care" what I say or what OP says? (And obviously, you do care. You're torturing yourself by opening this thread and responding again and again, trying to spread unhappiness and anxiety). Why?

As for me being spiteful or bitter, no, I don't think so. OP said somewhere on page one or two that she did not mean to make other people feel bad. Some women, me included, are on this board several times a week. Dysfunctional or not, it's a bit of a community. Sometimes the tone goes overwhelmingly negative because people naturally want to rant and vent and an anonymous message board is the perfect outlet for that. OP wanted to celebrate, instead. I guess the moral of the story, to some of you at least, is that misery loves company but shared happiness is nothing more than gloating. Hm. I disagree.

Thank you for sharing your uplifting story, OP. There are many of us with you!

Trust me the OP is not happy at all, she's missing love.