Anyone else still madly in love with their husband?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP-If you are madly in love, GOOD FOR YOU. It's nothing "weird' so your post seems very out of the ordinary and almost like you are not well adjusted. Enjoy your lovely marriage and get busy doing something else than writing to strangers how smitten you are. WHO CARES?

Obviously you do or you wouldn't have taken the time to read the post and respond. Besides WHO CARES could be said about every single post on this board depending on who's reading. Talk about dog piling. Y'all are like a bunch of hyena's. One attacks and the rest follow suit. Whether it's warranted or not. Didn't you guys get the lesson about not being followers?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love my husband more today than the day I married him 8 years ago. I love him for what a great dad he is to our kids, for the sacrifices he's made in his career to be more present for our family, for the way he supports MY career in this very tough economy. We have a lot of fun together and every day I feel grateful for my life and my family.

But I don't feel smitten, mushy or head-over-heels when I look at him, the way I felt when we met. We fight, we disagree, but we always work it out and we never act without respect toward the other person. We've had rough patches and better times, and for me, marriage is hard work. How can it not be?? We're two different people with strong opinions about the things we care about, and those opinions aren't always aligned.

I do feel lucky that we have a strong marriage, but it's not like it was handed to us. I've made a lot of compromises and so has he, and we continue to meet somewhere in the middle every day. Let's hope that continues!

this is a REAL marriage! I agree with you on this 150 percent. I love my husband, but the reality is that with kids and with time your relationship changes from those first few days/weeks/months/years of being in love. Cheers to you and your husband!

I think this description describes most happy marriages I have observed personally (including my own). The head-over-heels feelings that OP describes aren't constant, I think, after many years of marriage but come and go. But I don't think those "madly in love" sensations define a happy marriage.

^^ This is what I'd like my daughter to think marriage is.

Not what the OP has, which is smitten, head-over-heels, lusty, butterflies-like passion which by its very nature is unsustainable and frankly, unrealistic. Maybe marriage would be more stable and enduring if more people expected marriage to be what the PP has described above, and not what the OP describes. Because while it's 1/100th of 1% possible to have this (maybe??), it's WAY more likely to be the way PP describes, and I would like to prepare my daughter to expect to have to work at it, and not expect that it fall into her lap with rainbows and kittens everyday.

[Anonymous]

Has anyone heard of the study that says happy people have happy friends and miserable people have miserable friends? The bottom line, happy people feed on each others happiness and miserable people feed on their friends misery.

I think we have at least those two types on this thread. You know to which group you each belong. Personally, I'd like more friends like the OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP-If you are madly in love, GOOD FOR YOU. It's nothing "weird' so your post seems very out of the ordinary and almost like you are not well adjusted. Enjoy your lovely marriage and get busy doing something else than writing to strangers how smitten you are. WHO CARES?

Obviously you do or you wouldn't have taken the time to read the post and respond. Besides WHO CARES could be said about every single post on this board depending on who's reading. Talk about dog piling. Y'all are like a bunch of hyena's. One attacks and the rest follow suit. Whether it's warranted or not. Didn't you guys get the lesson about not being followers?

HAHA! I love it, good observation.

It is no suprise there are so many unhappy women on this board. I truly feel sorry for the men who have to live with these people-YUCK.

[Anonymous]

Love how most of you equate critical with unhappy and bitter. So simple-minded. Whatever gets you through the day, I guess.

[Anonymous]

"Love how most of you equate critical with unhappy and bitter. So simple-minded. Whatever gets you through the day, I guess"

Not the PP, but another one in the happy and would rather be OP's friend camp. I don't equate unhappy with bitter. I have been unhappy myself in other relationships. That's not the same as being bitter. Unhappy is saying "Gee, OP, great for you, I wish my husband and I got along like that" or even "OP, it hurts me to read your story because it is so different from what many women experience." What comes across as bitter as the women who say

"Oh, you're happy now, but it's almost a given that your husband doesn't love you as much as you love him, and chances are if he's not already cheating on you, he will be."

Can you possibly define that as anything else besides bitter (and quite hostile?)

[Anonymous]

Yes, I am in love with my husband. At times, I feel like I have to defend our relationship. I think he is the greatest guy, but isnt that what marriage is all about? Why get married? I think he's a great husband, man, provider, listener, and a really good person. Always, be thankful for what you have. .....