8 year old sleepover party - 3 girls excluded. WWYD?

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Anonymous wrote:Mom isn't your friend. If your daughter likes the two other girls, I'd invite them for a sleep over and make it really fun and go over the top making a big fuss.

This is a great idea. Even if you can't do a sleep over invite them over for pizza and a movie.

That would be good too, with an ice cream sundae or other big fun desert. Or, even fondue. You could also invite a few of the girls invited who you know aren't good friends. Give them something to talk about. I'd also get each girl a special gift (assuming you can afford it).

A special gift for a random sleepover? That is going waaaay overboard into weirdo, yet ring to buy friends territory. Why would you assume the three girls not invited are even good enough friends for a sleepover?

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OP, what will happen when your daughter doesn't get into a college or doesn't get a job offer? You need to start building resilience now so she can handle things that matter later.

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Anonymous wrote:Normally I would say that's not too nice but for a sleepover I feel differently. There's only so many kids you can fit in your house overnight. And she wasn't the only one not invited.

They are inviting a lot of kids. They can find room for 3 more.

LolSo. Listen, over my dead body would I want 14 shrieking 8 yo sleeping over at my house. 11 is more than enough, I wouldn't be happy about that number either. Sounds like hell for the parents.

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Anonymous wrote:Some of the responses in this thread explain how we end up with entitled adults. Nobody HAS to invite someone to their party/house. Sometimes your feelings get hurt. Sometimes you arent invited. You deal with it.

This x100!

I'm really rolling my eyes at the suggestion to invite the other two uninvited girls over for an OTT party just to spite the bday girl and her mom. Someone even suggested give them a special gift! What! Lol

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Anonymous wrote:OP, how do you all know this exact breakdown of who was and who was not invited? Does this include cousins and outside school friend? I am curious how you know the exact numbers of someone else's party.

My daughter is in 2nd and has never mentioned parties she was not invited and she goes to maybe 8 parties a year between school and outside school friends. So obviously many she doesn't go to. We invited 10 girls to her party. I didn't even ask whose class is who and 3 were outside of school. We sent them out on evite. No one cares or talks about this at our school. Thank goodness.

+1 yes, I'm curious too, how did you find out about this?

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Anonymous wrote:10 girls in the class. My daughter was one of three not invited. Four additional girls from other classes were invited.
The mom and I are friendly. My daughter of course heard about it at school and her feelings were hurt. I think it was rude to leave out just three. What do you think?

You can't have a sleepover with 14 children. Unfortunately sometimes your child is the one left out and sometimes your child is the one have to leave others out. What would I do? Use it as a teaching tool to explain that it doesn't speak about how this child doesn't like your child. Apparently you don't get that message, though.

They invited 11 girls, at that point 3 more is no big deal. Yes, you can have that many and we have a 1000sq foot house. We could make it work, so if you cannot make it work in a house 2-5 times as big, something is wrong.

You are unbelievable. A.) they don't *have* to do anything b.) they obviously don't wan to invite your DD so c.) they won't. End of discussion. How do you like them apples?

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Hope you realize that the mom isn't your buddy. Pathetic.

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So I have a daughter & want to have a reasonable size birthday party - about 10-15 kids. If she invited all the girls from her class, it would be 15 and she couldn't invite other friends she's had since she was younger. Do I really have to have a party with 20+ kids?

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Anonymous wrote:By 8 they should realize that they aren't close friends with everyone.

This. DD has not been invited to a few birthday parties and as far as I can tell, has not really cared because she's not close friends with the birthday girl. Now if your DD always thought of the birthday girl as a pretty close friend, I would be hurt too.

This is true. They are picking friends by 8 and doesn't matter if the parents are friends. DS says all of the time that he knows about parties he's not invited to, just like he didn't invite everyone in the class to his party. He choose his close friends. Some were in his class and some were in other classes.

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Anonymous wrote:Let your DD have a sleepover in a couple of weeks (I'd wait a little while so it doesn't seem like "retaliation") and invite who she wants.

Wait so you get something for every party or event you are not invited to? Oh Larla, I am so sorry Suzy didn't invite you. Instead you get to have your own sleepover party. Sure, it isn't your birthday but giving you something every time you are slightly hurt is such a positive way to parent!

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Anonymous wrote:So I have a daughter & want to have a reasonable size birthday party - about 10-15 kids. If she invited all the girls from her class, it would be 15 and she couldn't invite other friends she's had since she was younger. Do I really have to have a party with 20+ kids?

No. Don't listen to the clucking biddies on here. Invite your child's friends. That's it.

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Anonymous wrote:So I have a daughter & want to have a reasonable size birthday party - about 10-15 kids. If she invited all the girls from her class, it would be 15 and she couldn't invite other friends she's had since she was younger. Do I really have to have a party with 20+ kids?

No, you tell her the max she can invite. She makes the list. You send the evite. The End!

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Anonymous wrote:Mom isn't your friend. If your daughter likes the two other girls, I'd invite them for a sleep over and make it really fun and go over the top making a big fuss.

This is a great idea. Even if you can't do a sleep over invite them over for pizza and a movie.

That would be good too, with an ice cream sundae or other big fun desert. Or, even fondue. You could also invite a few of the girls invited who you know aren't good friends. Give them something to talk about. I'd also get each girl a special gift (assuming you can afford it).

A special gift for a random sleepover? That is going waaaay overboard into weirdo, yet ring to buy friends territory. Why would you assume the three girls not invited are even good enough friends for a sleepover?

This comment is SO WEIRD!! Fondue and a special gift? Invite some other girls to "give them something to talk about"? These kids are 8! Some of you women are f-cked in the head. No wonder your children are struggling socially if this has been their role model for friendship

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Anonymous wrote:Let your DD have a sleepover in a couple of weeks (I'd wait a little while so it doesn't seem like "retaliation") and invite who she wants.

Wait so you get something for every party or event you are not invited to? Oh Larla, I am so sorry Suzy didn't invite you. Instead you get to have your own sleepover party. Sure, it isn't your birthday but giving you something every time you are slightly hurt is such a positive way to parent!

This +1,000,000,000!!! I hate these helicopter moms and snowflake children!

Your kid isn't good enough friends. Same way you don't go out for drinks with ALL of your coworkers, kids don't want to pretend to like ALL the kids in class either. Life sucks. But she's gaining great coping skills that will help her in adulthood.

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While I don't think OP should plan something big for her daughter out of spite and to rub in the other girls' faces, I'm surprised to see some posters so against her child doing something else fun. Is she supposed to sit at home alone to learn a life lesson? When life gives you lemons, make lemonade.