How to start affair with married man who's sending me mixed signals

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Anonymous wrote:Lol! I'm on a warpath against two people in my office having an affair. Lots of history, but their office affair impacted our work envoronmwnt negatively. I've now lit a perverbial match and I'm burning it all down. I just successful waged a campaign and got the guy fired last Wednesday. For the female, I'm going to her husband and going to blow it all up in her face and pull the covers off her little charade.

They crossed me and now they will be outed. The off was already vastly improved yesterday.

You sound like a psycho.

Wow. +1

+2! As a person who's watched an office break down into feuds in such a situation, please crazy PP, stop! You're making it worse for all your coworkers.
At Christmas, for Gawd's sake. WWJD?

Nope, everybody is so happy that the main guy is gone. A complete cloud of misery has been lifted and the dynamic has changed. Their little affair has caused so many problems. Nobody has any idea that I'm the one that blew the lid off, but I can tell you everyone is happy that the guy is gone.

I give zero fucks that it is Christmas, maybe they should not have engaged in an office affair in the first place and he would still be employed and she would not be facing her worst nightmare after the evidence I'm about to drop on her husband.

Hey, you want to make these kind of choices in life? Deal with the consequences. If you are going to have an affair in the office, be smart and keep is quiet. There is a reason why most companies have policies against a supervisor having sexual relations with a subordinate. Break the rules, pay the price.

I get the whole work consequences thing for the guy, especially if it was affecting people at the office. But you contacting the husband of your co-worker seems a little...nutjobby? And though I assume you're planning to do it anonymously, I think it could come back to bite you in the ass later, in terms of your employment.

She's a total loser. Thr ONLY reason she even got to her position was fucking the boss, so she's of no concequence to my employment. Of course this will be anon. Everybody hates here, there's a list a mile long of people who would out here.

Hey, just a word of caution...behave professionally and treat people with decency and people won't be compelled to become merchants of karma. And most importantly keep your vile behavior under wraps and don't give people ammo to mow you down.

I suggest you take your own advice here, PP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do women do this ???

Women can get guys whenever they want but this one is going to take someone else

We can?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why do women do this ???

Women can get guys whenever they want but this one is going to take someone else

We can?

If you keep your standards low enough, you sure can.

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Anonymous wrote:Lol! I'm on a warpath against two people in my office having an affair. Lots of history, but their office affair impacted our work envoronmwnt negatively. I've now lit a perverbial match and I'm burning it all down. I just successful waged a campaign and got the guy fired last Wednesday. For the female, I'm going to her husband and going to blow it all up in her face and pull the covers off her little charade.

They crossed me and now they will be outed. The off was already vastly improved yesterday.

You sound like a psycho.

Wow. +1

+2! As a person who's watched an office break down into feuds in such a situation, please crazy PP, stop! You're making it worse for all your coworkers.
At Christmas, for Gawd's sake. WWJD?

Nope, everybody is so happy that the main guy is gone. A complete cloud of misery has been lifted and the dynamic has changed. Their little affair has caused so many problems. Nobody has any idea that I'm the one that blew the lid off, but I can tell you everyone is happy that the guy is gone.

I give zero fucks that it is Christmas, maybe they should not have engaged in an office affair in the first place and he would still be employed and she would not be facing her worst nightmare after the evidence I'm about to drop on her husband.

Hey, you want to make these kind of choices in life? Deal with the consequences. If you are going to have an affair in the office, be smart and keep is quiet. There is a reason why most companies have policies against a supervisor having sexual relations with a subordinate. Break the rules, pay the price.

I get the whole work consequences thing for the guy, especially if it was affecting people at the office. But you contacting the husband of your co-worker seems a little...nutjobby? And though I assume you're planning to do it anonymously, I think it could come back to bite you in the ass later, in terms of your employment.

She's a total loser. Thr ONLY reason she even got to her position was fucking the boss, so she's of no concequence to my employment. Of course this will be anon. Everybody hates here, there's a list a mile long of people who would out here.

Hey, just a word of caution...behave professionally and treat people with decency and people won't be compelled to become merchants of karma. And most importantly keep your vile behavior under wraps and don't give people ammo to mow you down.

I suggest you take your own advice here, PP.

+1
What will she find do to with her time once this little drama is over?

[Anonymous]

OP, you ask for no judgments so here are the cold facts.

1. Are you ready to lose a good friend?

It sounds like you and this guy [CW] you're crushing on is a good friend, supportive, and caring in the work place.

2. Do you want to divorce your husband?

It's not realistic to expect your CW to end his marriage, especially with young kids.

3. Do you know what yellow fever is?

Your CW sounds like he has that.

4. Are you ready to fight for and lose custody or share joint custody of your young children with your husband?

Think long and hard on this one and how it will affect the children. Adults are selfish. Children are innocent. They didn't ask for a broken home. A cheating mother. Your decisions impact their life.

5. Have you considered what happens when the honeymoon period of an affair is over?

You want to look for a new job? The odds are stacked against you in every possible scenario in this picture. He is older. He is more experienced and competent at his work. He is well liked at work. You may be experienced, competent, and even well liked at work, but you're still a female. If your other office mates are aware of the affair, it's going to be obvious who will need to leave. Think about that for a moment as you consider who you may want recommendations from for future employment opportunities.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Lol! I'm on a warpath against two people in my office having an affair. Lots of history, but their office affair impacted our work envoronmwnt negatively. I've now lit a perverbial match and I'm burning it all down. I just successful waged a campaign and got the guy fired last Wednesday. For the female, I'm going to her husband and going to blow it all up in her face and pull the covers off her little charade.

They crossed me and now they will be outed. The off was already vastly improved yesterday.

You sound like a psycho.

Wow. +1

+2! As a person who's watched an office break down into feuds in such a situation, please crazy PP, stop! You're making it worse for all your coworkers.
At Christmas, for Gawd's sake. WWJD?

Nope, everybody is so happy that the main guy is gone. A complete cloud of misery has been lifted and the dynamic has changed. Their little affair has caused so many problems. Nobody has any idea that I'm the one that blew the lid off, but I can tell you everyone is happy that the guy is gone.

I give zero fucks that it is Christmas, maybe they should not have engaged in an office affair in the first place and he would still be employed and she would not be facing her worst nightmare after the evidence I'm about to drop on her husband.

Hey, you want to make these kind of choices in life? Deal with the consequences. If you are going to have an affair in the office, be smart and keep is quiet. There is a reason why most companies have policies against a supervisor having sexual relations with a subordinate. Break the rules, pay the price.

I get the whole work consequences thing for the guy, especially if it was affecting people at the office. But you contacting the husband of your co-worker seems a little...nutjobby? And though I assume you're planning to do it anonymously, I think it could come back to bite you in the ass later, in terms of your employment.

She's a total loser. Thr ONLY reason she even got to her position was fucking the boss, so she's of no concequence to my employment. Of course this will be anon. Everybody hates here, there's a list a mile long of people who would out here.

Hey, just a word of caution...behave professionally and treat people with decency and people won't be compelled to become merchants of karma. And most importantly keep your vile behavior under wraps and don't give people ammo to mow you down.

I suggest you take your own advice here, PP.

I behave professionally every single day when I'm at work. At night I'm going to go home to my new Gmail account and my new Facebook account ( you know for redundancy) and hit send.

Poor guy, as least he won't be made a fool any longer.

[Anonymous]

No judgement from me OP. I would ask him out to dinner and see where it goes from there.

If it's too hard to meet after working hours, I'd say something direct to let him know I am interested.

[Anonymous]

OP, you lost me when you described him in your third paragraph as a person of "integrity."

I think you need to look up the meaning of that word.

[Anonymous]

OP you will get a very different response if you post this on the explicit forum.

[Anonymous]

OP, don't do it for your own sake! You already seem to be smitten by him planning to be with him while he is sending you mixed signals. Trust me if he wanted to have sex/affair with you, he would have made a move. He can see that you look up to him and he can sense power over you, it feeds his ego. You can pursue him all you wants and he might go for it but then you will be the one running after him all the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

My marriage. Sometimes a person can cause more pain with their presence than their absence. And I can't get out, for my own reasons.

OM and I own our own businesses, and he taught me a lot in putting systems in place for it to run well and without me. He been a mentor in many ways. And that's why we can spend so much time together.

I will be moving in about 6 months. I want to be with OM for this time.

I feel like he's waiting for ME to make a move. But the reasons above, ie not touching or complimenting, make me unsure.

Op, you are nuts !

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, don't do it for your own sake! You already seem to be smitten by him planning to be with him while he is sending you mixed signals. Trust me if he wanted to have sex/affair with you, he would have made a move. He can see that you look up to him and he can sense power over you, it feeds his ego. You can pursue him all you wants and he might go for it but then you will be the one running after him all the time.

This is so true. OP, I had a huge crush on a guy and this was basically what the situation boiled down to. I always had a "What if?" attitude, and he was just an arrogant guy loving the attention. Felt like puppy love to me, but he turned out to be a jerk with no intention.

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Anonymous wrote:Lol! I'm on a warpath against two people in my office having an affair. Lots of history, but their office affair impacted our work envoronmwnt negatively. I've now lit a perverbial match and I'm burning it all down. I just successful waged a campaign and got the guy fired last Wednesday. For the female, I'm going to her husband and going to blow it all up in her face and pull the covers off her little charade.

They crossed me and now they will be outed. The off was already vastly improved yesterday.

You sound like a psycho.

Wow. +1

+2! As a person who's watched an office break down into feuds in such a situation, please crazy PP, stop! You're making it worse for all your coworkers.
At Christmas, for Gawd's sake. WWJD?

Nope, everybody is so happy that the main guy is gone. A complete cloud of misery has been lifted and the dynamic has changed. Their little affair has caused so many problems. Nobody has any idea that I'm the one that blew the lid off, but I can tell you everyone is happy that the guy is gone.

I give zero fucks that it is Christmas, maybe they should not have engaged in an office affair in the first place and he would still be employed and she would not be facing her worst nightmare after the evidence I'm about to drop on her husband.

Hey, you want to make these kind of choices in life? Deal with the consequences. If you are going to have an affair in the office, be smart and keep is quiet. There is a reason why most companies have policies against a supervisor having sexual relations with a subordinate. Break the rules, pay the price.

I get the whole work consequences thing for the guy, especially if it was affecting people at the office. But you contacting the husband of your co-worker seems a little...nutjobby? And though I assume you're planning to do it anonymously, I think it could come back to bite you in the ass later, in terms of your employment.

She's a total loser. Thr ONLY reason she even got to her position was fucking the boss, so she's of no concequence to my employment. Of course this will be anon. Everybody hates here, there's a list a mile long of people who would out here.

Hey, just a word of caution...behave professionally and treat people with decency and people won't be compelled to become merchants of karma. And most importantly keep your vile behavior under wraps and don't give people ammo to mow you down.

I suggest you take your own advice here, PP.

I behave professionally every single day when I'm at work. At night I'm going to go home to my new Gmail account and my new Facebook account ( you know for redundancy) and hit send.

Poor guy, as least he won't be made a fool any longer.

It's the combo of glee and rage that reveals the crazy. Who is following you around to make sure you pay for your mistakes? I don't care what you do tonight. But why pretend that you care about the husband? You are interested in revenge for yourself and yourself alone.

[Anonymous]

Just lead towards him, quickly kiss him on the lips, and then blush like crazy and go "I can not believe I did that! Please forgive me!"

If he wants it, he will move forward.

If not, he'll just think "yep! I still got it! I drive the girls wild. Can not really blame them, I'm so hot" and be flattered rather than offended.

that said; don't do it. It won't make you happy. If he does it, you will quickly realize that he is a selfish jerk. If he doesn't, you'll always be embarrassed, even though you know he was flattered.

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Anonymous wrote:Lol! I'm on a warpath against two people in my office having an affair. Lots of history, but their office affair impacted our work envoronmwnt negatively. I've now lit a perverbial match and I'm burning it all down. I just successful waged a campaign and got the guy fired last Wednesday. For the female, I'm going to her husband and going to blow it all up in her face and pull the covers off her little charade.

They crossed me and now they will be outed. The off was already vastly improved yesterday.

You sound like a psycho.

Wow. +1

+2! As a person who's watched an office break down into feuds in such a situation, please crazy PP, stop! You're making it worse for all your coworkers.
At Christmas, for Gawd's sake. WWJD?

Nope, everybody is so happy that the main guy is gone. A complete cloud of misery has been lifted and the dynamic has changed. Their little affair has caused so many problems. Nobody has any idea that I'm the one that blew the lid off, but I can tell you everyone is happy that the guy is gone.

I give zero fucks that it is Christmas, maybe they should not have engaged in an office affair in the first place and he would still be employed and she would not be facing her worst nightmare after the evidence I'm about to drop on her husband.

Hey, you want to make these kind of choices in life? Deal with the consequences. If you are going to have an affair in the office, be smart and keep is quiet. There is a reason why most companies have policies against a supervisor having sexual relations with a subordinate. Break the rules, pay the price.

I get the whole work consequences thing for the guy, especially if it was affecting people at the office. But you contacting the husband of your co-worker seems a little...nutjobby? And though I assume you're planning to do it anonymously, I think it could come back to bite you in the ass later, in terms of your employment.

She's a total loser. Thr ONLY reason she even got to her position was fucking the boss, so she's of no concequence to my employment. Of course this will be anon. Everybody hates here, there's a list a mile long of people who would out here.

Hey, just a word of caution...behave professionally and treat people with decency and people won't be compelled to become merchants of karma. And most importantly keep your vile behavior under wraps and don't give people ammo to mow you down.

I hate cheating and cheaters, especially since I was cheated on by my husband, but you need to find something else to do.