How to start affair with married man who's sending me mixed signals

Anonymous
You realize that you are already having an emotional affair, right?

Focus on your own marriage. Stop contacting this guy.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:No lecturing please. It won't change my mind.

We are both married with young kids. We work in the same field, and have been business partners on a couple projects.

I'm 38. He is 45, not outwardly attractive, but respected and desired by many in the business because he has extensive business experience and integrity, he's a visionary in the field, and he's caring, friendly, and impossibly generous with his time and advice to everyone. I adore him, respect him, and think the world of him, and I make sure he knows that. but I'm not sure he knows I'm physically attracted to him and incredibly turned on by him.

We've known each other two years. He took off his wedding ring about 6 months after we started working together.

Over the last 1.5 years:
He calls me every weekday. Sometimes about business, sometimes not, and we always end up talking for hours.
We have lunch at least weekly, followed by coffee. Sometimes we just meet for coffee, 2-4 times a week. More hours of conversation, starting into each others eyes, lots of laughter, or just working silently together. We alternate picking up the checks.
Not as often, but we have late night texts, FB msgs, and emails. Mostly philosophizing, but twice it ventured into sexual topics.
I'm Asian, and he commented once that he wanted an Asian girlfriend.

However, he never calls me on weekends, we hardly ever touch - I can count our hugs on one hand, and he had never complimented me or bought me anything outside our meals/coffee.

I want to know if he's attracted to me, and how to start an affair with him.

Thanks.



Why not just offer to fuck him, you're obviously a complete skank.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Lol! I'm on a warpath against two people in my office having an affair. Lots of history, but their office affair impacted our work envoronmwnt negatively. I've now lit a perverbial match and I'm burning it all down. I just successful waged a campaign and got the guy fired last Wednesday. For the female, I'm going to her husband and going to blow it all up in her face and pull the covers off her little charade.

They crossed me and now they will be outed. The off was already vastly improved yesterday.


You sound amazing. Cheers to you.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:He's toying with you for his own amusement and has no intention of ever having a physical affair.


This! think about it OP its been two years and he has not given and clear signals plus the fact that he does not call on weekends is sign that he is at least trying to keep some boundaries. Good luck!
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Lol! I'm on a warpath against two people in my office having an affair. Lots of history, but their office affair impacted our work envoronmwnt negatively. I've now lit a perverbial match and I'm burning it all down. I just successful waged a campaign and got the guy fired last Wednesday. For the female, I'm going to her husband and going to blow it all up in her face and pull the covers off her little charade.

They crossed me and now they will be outed. The off was already vastly improved yesterday.

You sound like a psycho.


+1. The warpath PP is unhinged. OP, take note. There are unhinged people around you, you do not want to give any fodder to these kinds of psychos.
Anonymous
I think you're trolling for entertainment.

And I am judging you quite harshly either way.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:He's toying with you for his own amusement and has no intention of ever having a physical affair.


+1
Anonymous
OP just casually let it slip in conversation that you're extremely horny and wish you had a FWB - see what he says.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Lol! I'm on a warpath against two people in my office having an affair. Lots of history, but their office affair impacted our work envoronmwnt negatively. I've now lit a perverbial match and I'm burning it all down. I just successful waged a campaign and got the guy fired last Wednesday. For the female, I'm going to her husband and going to blow it all up in her face and pull the covers off her little charade.

They crossed me and now they will be outed. The off was already vastly improved yesterday.


You sound amazing. Cheers to you.


+1000 you are my hero. I can't tell you how many time I've seen office affairs mess up the work place, and the people in the affairs never think it's a problem. B. S.
Anonymous

He enjoys the emotional affair stage and spending so much time with you.

However, he is probably hesitant to move things to the physical stage due to the risky business of an extramarital affair.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Just think about your own kids. A friend was named in her former AP's divorce. She had to tell her DH and teenaged kids. All were devastated. Months later, her DH filed for divorce and full custody. They are still fighting over the youngest two teens, but the college age boy hasn't spoken to her since his HS graduation.


I wish there was a law that the cheating parent automatically lost custody, what they are doing is abusive and neglectful.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Lol! I'm on a warpath against two people in my office having an affair. Lots of history, but their office affair impacted our work envoronmwnt negatively. I've now lit a perverbial match and I'm burning it all down. I just successful waged a campaign and got the guy fired last Wednesday. For the female, I'm going to her husband and going to blow it all up in her face and pull the covers off her little charade.

They crossed me and now they will be outed. The off was already vastly improved yesterday.

You sound like a psycho.



Wow. +1
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you truly adore and respect him and want the best for him, stay away from him so you don't ruin his life. If you have any self respect, go to a marriage counselor and fix your marriage or get divorced and hit on a single guy. Don't destroy your spouse and his spouse's lives. Have compassion and stop being selfish. Not lecturing, just facts.


This. And risk ruining his kids' lives. And if he's any man at all, he won't want his kids to suffer.


I agree with this, but aren't affairs a two-way street?


Technically, it's a four lane highway. OP and DH (DW if she's gay) and AP and DW (DH if he's gay).

That's not counting the kids, ILs, and neighbors, classmates' parents and friends who'll gossip endlessly about OP's divorce.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Lol! I'm on a warpath against two people in my office having an affair. Lots of history, but their office affair impacted our work envoronmwnt negatively. I've now lit a perverbial match and I'm burning it all down. I just successful waged a campaign and got the guy fired last Wednesday. For the female, I'm going to her husband and going to blow it all up in her face and pull the covers off her little charade.

They crossed me and now they will be outed. The off was already vastly improved yesterday.

You sound like a psycho.



Wow. +1

+2! As a person who's watched an office break down into feuds in such a situation, please crazy PP, stop! You're making it worse for all your coworkers.
At Christmas, for Gawd's sake. WWJD?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Lol! I'm on a warpath against two people in my office having an affair. Lots of history, but their office affair impacted our work envoronmwnt negatively. I've now lit a perverbial match and I'm burning it all down. I just successful waged a campaign and got the guy fired last Wednesday. For the female, I'm going to her husband and going to blow it all up in her face and pull the covers off her little charade.

They crossed me and now they will be outed. The off was already vastly improved yesterday.

You sound like a psycho.



Wow. +1

+2! As a person who's watched an office break down into feuds in such a situation, please crazy PP, stop! You're making it worse for all your coworkers.
At Christmas, for Gawd's sake. WWJD?



All of you who are upset are clearly involved in affairs.

I may not go to the extent pp would, but I have witnessed coworkers getting screwed over so APs could protect each other . If you want to mess around go ahead, but don't expect everyone else to cover for you especially when you have no problem throwing others under the bus.
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