Can someone please tell me what to do

[Anonymous]

Op, I am sorry you are under so much stress at this time. BTDT and it stinks.

If I were you, I'd try to go to a friend or family for the weekend.

I don't know if your dh will act better when the baby comes. In my case, I left right before he was born and raised him myself (got married later). For us it was for the best, but I'm not in your shoes so I can't say.

As far as the dog-not stiking up for your dh's awful behavior, but animal soil in the house is a huge anger trigger for me. We actually cannot have pets because of it-we just can't.

[Anonymous]

Thanks pp I am with you on the animal waste. The balcony thing was literally just supposed to be for the last month when I started feeling uncomfortable on the stairs. We have family coming for 40 straight days after the birth, then we are moving to another house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hi this is OP. I just want to add for all the pregnant mamas or formerly pregnant or new mamas that just because you can't do something physical or feel exhausted doing something physical it doesn't mean you are lazy.

Of course it doesn't mean you are lazy. But if you are too exhausted to carry a 15 pound dog down the steps so it can go pee now, you are in for a rude awakening. What are you going to do in four weeks when you have to carry an infant up and down those stairs?

Why can't the dog just live on the floor with the exit? Why does it need to be upstairs?

Hey ignoramus, she won't be heavily pregnant and awkward anymore when she's carrying her baby around....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thanks pp I am with you on the animal waste. The balcony thing was literally just supposed to be for the last month when I started feeling uncomfortable on the stairs. We have family coming for 40 straight days after the birth, then we are moving to another house.

Sounds like you've got it all figured out then. Good luck to you.

[Anonymous]

Put the husband down. Hey.

If he's like this with the dog, you can kiss any help with the baby. He's a straight up dick.

I have to ask this. Are you ladies married to foreign born men or are you a foreign born woman or are both of you foreign born living here ?

I'm asking because some of the stories posted here about your marriages, kids, family life is quite frankly, bizarre.

[Anonymous]

I cannot believe this is real. OP, you need to get rid of the dog or the husband. If you get rid of the husband you'll be doing him a favor - you're choosing an incontinent animal over a human being.

[Anonymous]

A marriage like that any possibly survive a baby. I feel so sad for you, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I cannot believe this is real. OP, you need to get rid of the dog or the husband. If you get rid of the husband you'll be doing him a favor - you're choosing an incontinent animal over a human being.

He didn't check on his pregnant wife as of NOON the next day. Doesnt sound too human to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I cannot believe this is real. OP, you need to get rid of the dog or the husband. If you get rid of the husband you'll be doing him a favor - you're choosing an incontinent animal over a human being.

He didn't check on his pregnant wife as of NOON the next day. Doesnt sound too human to me.

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[Anonymous]

Why are you leaving? Kick him out. He can find a friend to stay with.

[Anonymous]

Hi OP,

1) I know the big issue is not about the dog. But regarding the dog, if it's a hotdog, could it fit in a backpack for purposes of going down the stairs?

2) What is your next plan, now that you are out of the hotel and he hasn't checked on you?

3) Remember, OP, you don't have to do anything *right now.* You can decide that this situation, this marriage, isn't working for you, but that doesn't mean you have to have the conflict now, or move out now…you can then relax and plan an exit for when things are not so "impending." Figure out where to go, who will help you, etc., then make a move. Could be months. Could be in a year.

Also, if you decide that the marriage isn't working for you, then you don't have to engage about DHs behavior because you have mentally decided you won't be with him in the long run.

If you decide the marriage is worth keeping, then make a plan to try and work on it--but that also doesn't have to happen until things calm down. I agree with the PPs who say you have to demand to be treated in a certain way, but that demand doesn't have to come today.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I cannot believe this is real. OP, you need to get rid of the dog or the husband. If you get rid of the husband you'll be doing him a favor - you're choosing an incontinent animal over a human being.

He didn't check on his pregnant wife as of NOON the next day. Doesnt sound too human to me.

She told him she was staying in a hotel.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I cannot believe this is real. OP, you need to get rid of the dog or the husband. If you get rid of the husband you'll be doing him a favor - you're choosing an incontinent animal over a human being.

He didn't check on his pregnant wife as of NOON the next day. Doesnt sound too human to me.

She told him she was staying in a hotel.

No, she told him she was spending the night in a hotel and flying home the next day. And this jerk didnt even have the decency to check on her, knowing full well that she had left because of him and that he had stressed out his very pregnant wife. I hope when DH woke up this morning there were massive piles of dog shit all over the house and DH had to clean it himself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I cannot believe this is real. OP, you need to get rid of the dog or the husband. If you get rid of the husband you'll be doing him a favor - you're choosing an incontinent animal over a human being.

He didn't check on his pregnant wife as of NOON the next day. Doesnt sound too human to me.

He texted an apology before OP checked in to the hotel.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I cannot believe this is real. OP, you need to get rid of the dog or the husband. If you get rid of the husband you'll be doing him a favor - you're choosing an incontinent animal over a human being.

He didn't check on his pregnant wife as of NOON the next day. Doesnt sound too human to me.

He texted an apology before OP checked in to the hotel.

After OP texted him... and then he didnt say anything when she told him she was flying out of the state. And went to sleep.