Can someone please tell me what to do

[Anonymous]

Grab a bunch of pee pads from PetSmart and let her stay in a room with a tile floor. He won't have to see it. (Yes he's a jerk, but the baby take priority, adn you can't have a newborn near feces!

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Thanks for the update, op. I'm the poster who was up nursing and checking in on you. I thought about you alot today and checked back for updates when I could. The important thing is that you stood up for yourself.You don't necessarily need closure right at this very moment but you do need to let him know that you will not tolerate certain behavior. Continue to place boundaries and be firm. Remember, someone can only get away with what you allow.

[Anonymous]

Thanks pp. You are awesome!

[Anonymous]

Thanks for the update, OP. I'm glad you're finding your voice again. It takes a lot of strength to do what you're doing. Stay strong. Hugs.

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Anonymous wrote:She's in great shape, she just needs help on the stairs and a few extra potty breaks. I'm totally amenable to bringing in a dog walker to help. I am having problems getting past how he just treated me.

She's 16 and can't do the steps. What kind of "great shape" is that? And what kind of shape will she be in 16 years and 3 weeks, if you catch my drift? Oh, and that shitting on the deck business? Totally with your husband on this one!

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I am so sorry. I would fly home if i were you (to the other state to give birth). You should not have to deal with this stress level before giving birth.

LOL, like her insurance is likely to pay for that!

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Anonymous wrote:He just doesn't like the dog- always says "that's YOUR dog", which she is, so he never helps with her unless I am travelling or something. He's had a weird/horrible attitude the entire pregnancy about my physical mobility. Like when my folks were in town I was showing them my cankles, and he was like, "they look normal". Or when I walk really slowly now he acts incredulous, like I cannot really be THAT slow. It's like he thinks I'm just weak, or I'm faking being slow/uncomfortable/awkward.

Sorry OP, but you sound like a spoiled drama llama. Seriously, you plan to fly home to Momma 3 weeks from your due date b/c DH gave you grief about the dog? (and WHAT airline do you really think is going to let you fly at 37 weeks?) THOUSANDS of pregnant women walk this earth everyday without complaining about puffy ankles and moving slowly. Grow up

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OP, hang in there. Maybe identify a friend or two in the area who you can count on if you feel like you need to get out of the house again. You are right to be figuring out how to find your voice in this relationship and stand up for yourself. it sounds like you're really having a hard time right now, both in terms of struggling through the end of your pregnancy and dealing with relationship issues with your partner. Focus on identifying your support system - friends, family, etc - who you can really count on and let them know what a hard time you are having at the moment. And talk to both your therapist and your OB/MW about depression.

That sounds like a horrible night, but you made it through.

[Anonymous]

Ugh, DOORMAT. He gets off on treating you like shit, you get off on being able to hold that over his head and you both get off on conflict and drama. Do your kid a favor and split up so they don't grow up thinking that's normal.

[Anonymous]

Have your baby when you are recovered divorce him

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He just doesn't like the dog- always says "that's YOUR dog", which she is, so he never helps with her unless I am travelling or something. He's had a weird/horrible attitude the entire pregnancy about my physical mobility. Like when my folks were in town I was showing them my cankles, and he was like, "they look normal". Or when I walk really slowly now he acts incredulous, like I cannot really be THAT slow. It's like he thinks I'm just weak, or I'm faking being slow/uncomfortable/awkward.

Sorry OP, but you sound like a spoiled drama llama. Seriously, you plan to fly home to Momma 3 weeks from your due date b/c DH gave you grief about the dog? (and WHAT airline do you really think is going to let you fly at 37 weeks?) THOUSANDS of pregnant women walk this earth everyday without complaining about puffy ankles and moving slowly. Grow up

It's not about a dog. DH told her to shut the fuck up about it. If growing up means being spoken to like that by my husband, I want no parts of it.

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Anonymous wrote:Is this thread for real?

OP is hormonal and her reaction completely and utterly over the top. The dram is nuts.

DH knows it's time for the dog. I once was OP and had a dog going on 17. Just like the OP I thought the dog was "fine",etc but the dog could no longer go down steps and yes we had to let the dog go on the deck. Deck was ruined btw. How exactly is OP going to keep up is ridiculous routine with the dog and deal with a newborn when she gets so very easily stressed out? The answer is she can't.

Having not seen the dog, I cannot comment on if it's time to put it down or not, but I agree OP's expectations regarding the dog are a little over the top. The dog weighs 15 pounds--less than an infant plus bucket seat. OP did not indicate she is high risk, so there is no reason why she can't carry 15 pounds up and down the stairs. Those of us on our second pregnancy do it all the time (with a lot more weight than 15 pounds). OP sounds like a pregnant princess.

I agree OP's husband should not tell her to fuck off. Ever. But he was probably tired as well, stressed about the holidays, and probably a little sick of OP's demands. He probably just went to bed when she left because that's how you're supposed to react to a temper tantrum--just be calm and not let it derail you.

Maybe a refresher with the therapist would both do them some good, because Pps are right that life will only get more stressful once there is a newborn.

Best advice so far on this thread. Not trying to be insensitive, but your hormones probably got the best of you and the women on this board are completely overreacting without all the facts. I don't know if your DH is verbally abusive and whether you should stay or go. Certainly a stressed out "f u" does not constitute verbal abuse without a pattern, it's called being human. And yes, you created much more drama than the situation appears to have called for, your bf is probably freaking out wondering if he can live with such a drama queen. Again, not trying to be rude but feel compelled to add some perspective, and FWIW- I'm female, happily married mom of 2 who remembers lots of drama in younger years of marriage and during my pregnancies.

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Best advice so far on this thread. Not trying to be insensitive, but your hormones probably got the best of you and the women on this board are completely overreacting without all the facts. I don't know if your DH is verbally abusive and whether you should stay or go. Certainly a stressed out "f u" does not constitute verbal abuse without a pattern, it's called being human. And yes, you created much more drama than the situation appears to have called for, your bf is probably freaking out wondering if he can live with such a drama queen. Again, not trying to be rude but feel compelled to add some perspective, and FWIW- I'm female, happily married mom of 2 who remembers lots of drama in younger years of marriage and during my pregnancies.

I would have agreed with you had not OP posted the information below. If her DH is already behaving as he did earlier in their relationship, it will only get worse with a newborn. Better to nip this in the bud right now.

He's always been kind of a jerk. I had poor self esteem when I married him about five years ago and didn't understand this. His dad especially is an a-hole to his mom and he mimics that behavior. I went through individual therapy and learned to stick up for myself and we did couples counseling as well and it helped immensely. We were in a pretty good place before the pregnancy. The majority of the last few years and the start of the pregnancy were fine, really good in fact. Now this ugly behavior is back and I'm crushed. In our late 30s.

[Anonymous]

You two sound perfect for each other.

[Anonymous]

Oh boy, all this because of a DOG??? Maybe put the dog gate up so the dog stays downstairs; maybe - really - go see your vet!
I would be beyond pissed if I had to care for someone's dog, and if that dog pooped on my balcony! Really, couldn't get around cleaning the poop already, what about when the baby comes?
It's too much work.