Can someone please tell me what to do

[Anonymous]

As an animal lover it's clear the dog should have been helped to end it's life with dignity already. Once a dog can
No longer use the bathroom outside or even climb the stairs
It's time.

Go talk to your vet.

[Anonymous]

He was mad and said some things he shouldn't have. You should be able to handle carrying 15 pounds on the stairs. If not then you can put the dog on your lap and scoot up/down stairs on your bottom. The whole balcony thing is absolutely disgusting. Give your husband a chance to apologize.

[Anonymous]

Is this a troll?

If you aren't a troll, here is my advice: Put the dog to sleep. 16 and has to be carried around? That would be ok, but only if you weren't about to have a baby. You're in denial about the dog, and your DH is fed up with the dog, I bet he isn't a dog person. As for his other behavior, I didn't read it, but for now, you don't make decisions about leaving someone when you're like what? 37 weeks pregnant? Try to work it out, go to counseling together.

[Anonymous]

This guy is being a total jerk to a pregnant wife. If he is normally a nice guy and you think he is poorly responding to stress, get a dog walker, let it slide and address it next year if it still matters. If he is a full on jerk, still get a dog walker to help you, calm down the situation, but plan counseling.

[Anonymous]

It's time for the dog to go, and probably the husband to. I'm pretty confident that OP is going to be posting on here about what a crap father he is in a couple of years.

As for the steps, I'm due in February and regularly carry my 30 lb toddler up and gown the steps. But I sure wouldn't tolerate my husband telling me to shut the f up about anything.

[Anonymous]

Given the performance last night, I suspect the OP does a lot of drama, including with the dog and the pregnancy. He responded badly last night, but for all we know he'd simply had his fill and then some of the drama. All we know if the OP's side, there's another side to this as well (and then there's the truth).

[Anonymous]

It's a fucking dog.

[Anonymous]

It is time to let her go. Yes, it will hurt and you will grieve for her but let her go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's a fucking dog.

You are a real dolt. She loves this dog and it is hard to let go. Pets are part of a family. God, you are such a cru and mean person.

[Anonymous]

This is OP. Not going to kill the dog. If it is not this issue it will be something else and not going to kill the dog just bc she is the focal point of this conflict. She's in good health. The stairs are very steep wooden stairs and her legs are short (she's a weiner). She can do the stairs to our basement just fine-they are carpeted and not steep-just standard. That's why I have such a problem with them too now-they are slippery and steep and I feel unsafe and unbalanced on them. I still go up and down them but I take it slow and hold the handle. One option is that I could put her in her carrier and take her down that way. Anyway it's not really about the dog. Leaving the hotel now after late checkout. No call or text from DH. Not sure what's next.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. Not going to kill the dog. If it is not this issue it will be something else and not going to kill the dog just bc she is the focal point of this conflict. She's in good health. The stairs are very steep wooden stairs and her legs are short (she's a weiner). She can do the stairs to our basement just fine-they are carpeted and not steep-just standard. That's why I have such a problem with them too now-they are slippery and steep and I feel unsafe and unbalanced on them. I still go up and down them but I take it slow and hold the handle. One option is that I could put her in her carrier and take her down that way. Anyway it's not really about the dog. Leaving the hotel now after late checkout. No call or text from DH. Not sure what's next.

Hang in there OP! It's clear to lots of us that this issue is way deeper than just the dog.

[Anonymous]

Hi this is OP. I just want to add for all the pregnant mamas or formerly pregnant or new mamas that just because you can't do something physical or feel exhausted doing something physical it doesn't mean you are lazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi this is OP. I just want to add for all the pregnant mamas or formerly pregnant or new mamas that just because you can't do something physical or feel exhausted doing something physical it doesn't mean you are lazy.

Honestly op it doesn't matter if you can't do something or don't want to do something. When you're hugely pregnant you should focus on the health and comfort of you and your baby. It's damn hard work to carry and birth, and raise he baby. You cant be superwoman all the time. It's okay to not want to do something, even if you can and no that does not make you lazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi this is OP. I just want to add for all the pregnant mamas or formerly pregnant or new mamas that just because you can't do something physical or feel exhausted doing something physical it doesn't mean you are lazy.

Of course it doesn't mean you are lazy. But if you are too exhausted to carry a 15 pound dog down the steps so it can go pee now, you are in for a rude awakening. What are you going to do in four weeks when you have to carry an infant up and down those stairs?

Why can't the dog just live on the floor with the exit? Why does it need to be upstairs?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hi this is OP. I just want to add for all the pregnant mamas or formerly pregnant or new mamas that just because you can't do something physical or feel exhausted doing something physical it doesn't mean you are lazy.

Of course it doesn't mean you are lazy. But if you are too exhausted to carry a 15 pound dog down the steps so it can go pee now, you are in for a rude awakening. What are you going to do in four weeks when you have to carry an infant up and down those stairs?

Why can't the dog just live on the floor with the exit? Why does it need to be upstairs?

Hey doo doo bird. She's not going to be pregnant once the baby gets here which means she'll have an easier time carrying a 6-10 lb baby up and down the stairs. This is much different than carrying an extra 25-50lbs on your body while pregnant plus a 15lb dog. Do you understand the difference now? Good.