Being intamite with someone else, while separated, will I be taken seriously?

[Anonymous]

interesting.. I will keep that in mind.. thank you

[Anonymous]

OP - You don't seem very bright and have poor judgment in choosing men. At the very least, take precautions to avoid getting pregnant.

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

But if it feels right, just go for it!
Lucky guy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"You are a whore. And one day your kids will think so too."

That is your personal opinion on a situation you don't know the spefics about, yet I will respect it. Thank you for commenting.

Ok, you are a polite whore...I will give you that. But you are married. You haven't even figured out your situation and you are thinking about getting in the sack with someone else....you are married. You are a loose woman with poor values. You are a whore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - You don't seem very bright and have poor judgment in choosing men. At the very least, take precautions to avoid getting pregnant.

Good luck.

Well, I will admit that at the age of 24, I was living in a fairytale land and thought I had found prince charming. Now, 7 years later I think I have come to realize that I need to think deeper before committing to someone.. We live life to either learn from our mistakes and move one.. or continue triping over the same rocks.. thanks for you comment

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"You are a whore. And one day your kids will think so too."

That is your personal opinion on a situation you don't know the spefics about, yet I will respect it. Thank you for commenting.

Ok, you are a polite whore...I will give you that. But you are married. You haven't even figured out your situation and you are thinking about getting in the sack with someone else....you are married. You are a loose woman with poor values. You are a whore.

Alrighty then, .. however if you have read through what I have written, I wrote I have been wanting to get divorced, .. and intend on doing so. Only there are little obstacles I need to pass. Thank you for your comment

[Anonymous]

Op.... Nothing or no one is perfect.
You are doing fine, in a hard situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op.... Nothing or no one is perfect.
You are doing fine, in a hard situation.

I agree with you, and you know.. with as overwhelmed as I feel, I am just hoping to find some advice..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:But if it feels right, just go for it!
Lucky guy.

Thanks again .. I will just try to take things little by little. but I KNOW. .I need to get a divorce..

[Anonymous]

Let me know when you do!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That is a very good question.. and believe I have thought many times of that... you know.. "what if he was able to get his papers ., would that change my mind?" ... honestly.. I don't think it would.. because..first , he does not have enough education to be able to get a job that would pay a decent salary, and second... we are so opposite in our personalities.. I know opposites attract, but we are way beyond opposite lol!!.. and I feel I am done with his calm attitude.. none ambitious.. and I honestly don't trust him enough to take care of the bills and stuff. I am the type that is on the ball with everything.. bills paid on time.. things taken care of.. he is not like that.. and I think that bored me.

If he doesn't have the education to get a good paying job, it pretty much makes him working a moot point. It sucks that he was dishonest about his immigration status, but if you knew he didn't have the education for a career, how could you have expected him to provide for you to be a SAHM?

Honestly, if he's being a great SAHD, it seems like he's making the most beneficial contribution to the familý. Do you know how much it costs to put 2 kids in daycare?

Does he take care of other stuff, like errands, housekeeping, etc.?

While I do sympathize with you, I have to say, if this post was a bit reversed, and OP was the husband complaining that all his wife does is SAHM and do odd jobs for extra money, people would go CRAZY defending SAHMs.

[Anonymous]

I live with my ex and date. We haven't been romantic for 10 years. We coparent the way we think is best. I'm upfront with people about my situation. If they can't deal, they can't deal.

I am not married. If you're serious about ending your marriage, you need to just do it. Don't open yourself up to legal issues should the divorce and custody agreement not be so amicable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That is a very good question.. and believe I have thought many times of that... you know.. "what if he was able to get his papers ., would that change my mind?" ... honestly.. I don't think it would.. because..first , he does not have enough education to be able to get a job that would pay a decent salary, and second... we are so opposite in our personalities.. I know opposites attract, but we are way beyond opposite lol!!.. and I feel I am done with his calm attitude.. none ambitious.. and I honestly don't trust him enough to take care of the bills and stuff. I am the type that is on the ball with everything.. bills paid on time.. things taken care of.. he is not like that.. and I think that bored me.

If he doesn't have the education to get a good paying job, it pretty much makes him working a moot point. It sucks that he was dishonest about his immigration status, but if you knew he didn't have the education for a career, how could you have expected him to provide for you to be a SAHM?

Honestly, if he's being a great SAHD, it seems like he's making the most beneficial contribution to the familý. Do you know how much it costs to put 2 kids in daycare?

Does he take care of other stuff, like errands, housekeeping, etc.?

I am fully aware of the cost of daycare, in this process of decision making.. I have done the necessary investigating needed to be a single mother.. so yes, the answer to that question is yes. The best way to put it, is .. we switched places.. he does what a stay at home mom does and I work and do what a working dad would do.. And yeah.. some women are ok with that.. He doesn't pay bills, or call the landlord if the house has issues, he doesn't call the insurance company if something is wrong. he strictly takes care of house and kids.. I do everything else.. everything is in my name,. and all though for some women that may be amazing.. NOT FOR ME!.. I kind of hoped him to be a leader. and he isn't .. we have literally swtiched places.. he is not a leader.... and that has turned all feelings off for me.. I have tried to motivate him many ways.. he doesn't fluently speak the english language and has been here for 11 years. .. zero ambition.. he just settles for less and I don't.. I like to think ahead.. and plan ahead and get the ball rolling..

While I do sympathize with you, I have to say, if this post was a bit reversed, and OP was the husband complaining that all his wife does is SAHM and do odd jobs for extra money, people would go CRAZY defending SAHMs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I live with my ex and date. We haven't been romantic for 10 years. We coparent the way we think is best. I'm upfront with people about my situation. If they can't deal, they can't deal.

I am not married. If you're serious about ending your marriage, you need to just do it. Don't open yourself up to legal issues should the divorce and custody agreement not be so amicable.

Thank you for your comment.. We have discussed making the separation as amicable as possible..

[Anonymous]

I am fully aware of the cost of daycare, in this process of decision making.. I have done the necessary investigating needed to be a single mother.. so yes, the answer to that question is yes. The best way to put it, is .. we switched places.. he does what a stay at home mom does and I work and do what a working dad would do.. And yeah.. some women are ok with that.. He doesn't pay bills, or call the landlord if the house has issues, he doesn't call the insurance company if something is wrong. he strictly takes care of house and kids.. I do everything else.. everything is in my name,. and all though for some women that may be amazing.. NOT FOR ME!.. I kind of hoped him to be a leader. and he isn't .. we have literally swtiched places.. he is not a leader.... and that has turned all feelings off for me.. I have tried to motivate him many ways.. he doesn't fluently speak the english language and has been here for 11 years. .. zero ambition.. he just settles for less and I don't.. I like to think ahead.. and plan ahead and get the ball rolling..