Being intamite with someone else, while separated, will I be taken seriously?

[Anonymous]

Op, are you the same poster that said you were married before this DH and your new boyfriend came over while you were still living with your ex?

I think you are a fool to throw this marriage away just because it has lost its excitement for you. He is a SAHD and obviously closely bonded with your kids. you would rather have them in daycare all day rather than with their father so that you can go hook up with other men.

Chances are the excitement will wear off with the new guy too. Have you cheated on your husband during your marriage? You don't sound like someone who values marriage or integrity very much. It sounds like you met this new guy and decided he was more exciting (at the moment - being a single, childless carefree guy) so at that point you decided you want to ditch your husband for Romeo over there.

I would not be intimate with another man while you are still living at home with your husband who is not on board with the separation. It takes a pretty cruel woman to leave your husband at home with the kids day and night while you are out hooking up and dating other people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Deported? She said they've been married for 7 years. He can apply for citizenship, right?

No he can't .. there is nothing I can do thanks to the laws in this state (AZ) .. I have not rights as a US citizen.

You're a citizen? Arizona laws don't dictate this. It's a federal matter.

Thank you for the correction, the fact is , that I have no rights.(as far as getting him papers is concerned) . and I can't do anything about it.

He doesn't want a green card?

[Anonymous]

Is it just me or is there something off about this thread?

Why are you asking random internet people what they think is right? Why would you take these legal risks?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, are you the same poster that said you were married before this DH and your new boyfriend came over while you were still living with your ex?

I think you are a fool to throw this marriage away just because it has lost its excitement for you. He is a SAHD and obviously closely bonded with your kids. you would rather have them in daycare all day rather than with their father so that you can go hook up with other men.

Chances are the excitement will wear off with the new guy too. Have you cheated on your husband during your marriage? You don't sound like someone who values marriage or integrity very much. It sounds like you met this new guy and decided he was more exciting (at the moment - being a single, childless carefree guy) so at that point you decided you want to ditch your husband for Romeo over there.

I would not be intimate with another man while you are still living at home with your husband who is not on board with the separation. It takes a pretty cruel woman to leave your husband at home with the kids day and night while you are out hooking up and dating other people.

I think you have me confused.. This is the first time I post anything here. .. After 7 years of trying to motivate the guy to be ambitious and become a family leader,, I think 7 years of trying is enough. He is a good father , yes I will give him that. And I am not in any rush to compromise with nobody else... so are you saying that it is fair for him.. for me to still be with him against my own will? I would hate it for a man to be with me,, because he feels obligated too.. if he has tried his hardest and nothing changes.. anyone gives up... I would rather he leave me.. if he no longer desires me as a women.. or loves me..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it just me or is there something off about this thread?

Why are you asking random internet people what they think is right? Why would you take these legal risks?

Good question, all I am interested in, are reading other people's opinions. When one is extremely confused.. and is unable to untangle ones own thoughts. sometimes.. it is ok to read or listen to other opinions... it helps clarify things for me...

[Anonymous]

Op its ok.

[Anonymous]

I ask myself sometimes.. when is it ok to give up?.. when is it ok to call it quits (when you are married with children) is it right to have to stick with someone.. only because.. oh yeah.. he cooks for me.. oh yeah.. he takes care of the kids.. well... I work.. I pay the bills.. .. is it right to have places switched?.. where dad stays home cooks and cleans.. while mom works hard to pay the bills?.. hell. I wanted to be the one at home.. watching the little ones grow up.... see them do the cute things they do for the first time.. I feel I recent him for that.. and another reason why I said.. no more to this marriage.. but then there is the .. "oh.. poor guy.. you will never find another one who will cook for you.. and clean for you".. WELL.. I don't want a housewife! I WANT A MAN!!!! DAMN IT!

[Anonymous]

I think you know its time for a new man. Plain and simple.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you know its time for a new man. Plain and simple.

In the eyes of friends and family.. I am the evil villain here.. so that makes it harder for me to move.. when almost everyone is against you.. because. "poor guy!" .. and I haven't even slept with anyone yet !! hahahahha!!

[Anonymous]

OP - We get it. You want permission to fuck this guy.

Permission granted.

[Anonymous]

You cannot please everyone.
Have you at least messed around ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I ask myself sometimes.. when is it ok to give up?.. when is it ok to call it quits (when you are married with children) is it right to have to stick with someone.. only because.. oh yeah.. he cooks for me.. oh yeah.. he takes care of the kids.. well... I work.. I pay the bills.. .. is it right to have places switched?.. where dad stays home cooks and cleans.. while mom works hard to pay the bills?.. hell. I wanted to be the one at home.. watching the little ones grow up.... see them do the cute things they do for the first time.. I feel I recent him for that.. and another reason why I said.. no more to this marriage.. but then there is the .. "oh.. poor guy.. you will never find another one who will cook for you.. and clean for you".. WELL.. I don't want a housewife! I WANT A MAN!!!! DAMN IT!

You sound young and immature. A man can be a man even if he isn't in a traditionally make role. Yes it is right to have the woman work and the man stay at home with the kids.

Your post is a great example of the double standard on this board. There would be an uproar if a man posted that he wanted a traditional marriage but his wife wanted to work so he was going to leave her because he wanted someone to stay at home and cook and clean and that fact she didn't do that made her undesirable and he no longer saw her as a woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - We get it. You want permission to fuck this guy.

Permission granted.

Hilarious..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you know its time for a new man. Plain and simple.

In the eyes of friends and family.. I am the evil villain here.. so that makes it harder for me to move.. when almost everyone is against you.. because. "poor guy!" .. and I haven't even slept with anyone yet !! hahahahha!!

ESL? Your writing skillz are poor.

Wake up, you are the villain. Own it, do whatever selfish thing you want, but don't think you are in the right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You cannot please everyone.
Have you at least messed around ?

No, I have only gone out twice .. with this guy.. no messing around..