Being intamite with someone else, while separated, will I be taken seriously?

[Anonymous]

OP - What will you do for childcare if your husband gets deported? I couldn't sleep at night worrying about this mess.

[Anonymous]

Deported? She said they've been married for 7 years. He can apply for citizenship, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - What will you do for childcare if your husband gets deported? I couldn't sleep at night worrying about this mess.

I do take the children to a babysitter, she is actually a friend's mother and they have been very helpful.. I don't take them 5 days a week. If I have to take them full time , I will have to.. but I don't stress on that.. at least not yet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Deported? She said they've been married for 7 years. He can apply for citizenship, right?

No he can't .. there is nothing I can do thanks to the laws in this state (AZ) .. I have not rights as a US citizen.

[Anonymous]

Are you still intimate with husband ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you still intimate with husband ?

No I am not. I don't feel its right, because my heart or feelings aren't there anymore.

[Anonymous]

That's what I figured. That's good!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That's what I figured. That's good!

So let me ask you this, .. we are only still living under the same roof, because he has not where to go and can't afford to be on his own, at least for now. Is it bad if I do sleep with a guy I decide to date?..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Deported? She said they've been married for 7 years. He can apply for citizenship, right?

No he can't .. there is nothing I can do thanks to the laws in this state (AZ) .. I have not rights as a US citizen.

You're a citizen? Arizona laws don't dictate this. It's a federal matter.

[Anonymous]

I think it would hurt him if he knew.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Deported? She said they've been married for 7 years. He can apply for citizenship, right?

No he can't .. there is nothing I can do thanks to the laws in this state (AZ) .. I have not rights as a US citizen.

You're a citizen? Arizona laws don't dictate this. It's a federal matter.

Thank you for the correction, the fact is , that I have no rights.(as far as getting him papers is concerned) . and I can't do anything about it.

[Anonymous]

Keep strong. What are you leaning towards ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Keep strong. What are you leaning towards ?

Thank you , I have been thinking about this for a very long time... I feel that after so many months of thinking.. and thinking.. (because this is very hard decision to make) . I feel it is best for him and for me to just get divorced. Why for him?, because I can't keep up ... to my promise to be a loyal wife, I feel I don't love him like I once did.. That desire to make things work.. is gone. I keep hearing.. "do it for the kids".. but is that fair?.. is that right?.. will the kids be happy seeing no love and affection between mom and dad?? and how do I live my days.. with someone I no longer love.. when he wants to mess around.. I feel forced just to please him.. I care for him he is the father of my children and a good man.. but how can I help that the feeling is gone?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a situation where I want to get divoriced, but I feel I can't because, it would kill him to be away from the kids and he can't afford to move out, so for the kids sake.. and because I am dumb like that.. I let him stay at my house. Yet, I am seeing someone that I really like and would like to have a real relationship with. I am afraid to not be taken seriously, because I am still living with the spouse. I have been upfront and open with this guy that I am seeing, and is aware of my situation. If I give in and have intimacy with this guy, while still married, I may not be taken seriously, that worries.. me.. any advice?.. This guy I am seeing, works over seas and he is out for 2 months and comes back.. we write to eachother every day though..

And your husband can immediately file for divorce

[Anonymous]

I hope it goes well.
Wish we could chat more offline.