Being intamite with someone else, while separated, will I be taken seriously?

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Anonymous wrote:I think you know its time for a new man. Plain and simple.

In the eyes of friends and family.. I am the evil villain here.. so that makes it harder for me to move.. when almost everyone is against you.. because. "poor guy!" .. and I haven't even slept with anyone yet !! hahahahha!!

ESL? Your writing skillz are poor.

Wake up, you are the villain. Own it, do whatever selfish thing you want, but don't think you are in the right.

Yeah, I know. I am just honestly too lazy to do spell check.. sorry if the errors in grammar affect your eye sight.. Yeah, I am the villain for wanting a divorce.. I guess all of us who want it are.. Thanks for commenting

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Maybe some messing around before going all in.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe some messing around before going all in.

Are you the some one who clarified what "being easy" means? ...

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Maybe.. why,

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe.. why,

HAHA!!! just curious.. that is all.. .. I may get a bad comment for asking that .. oh well..

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Why did you reproduce more than once with a guy who can get deported? What were you thinking?

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It's late here...mind in gutter!

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Anonymous wrote:Why did you reproduce more than once with a guy who can get deported? What were you thinking?

What!!!.. no no no no. I am married to a man who is illegal.. but I am ready to call it quits.. where the heck were you reading that ??

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What are you doing tonight op ?

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I don't understand how you expected him to work a career and support you as a sahm to begin with. If he doesn't have an education, you should have known from the get go that this would never have been possible.

And, you would rather leave him, and have a babysitter watch your kids while you are at work, rather than them being cared for by their father?

All that aside, do NOT do anything with the new guy until you have things covered legally with your husband. If you do, then your husband will be able to use it against you in Court during divorce proceedings.

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Anonymous wrote:Why did you reproduce more than once with a guy who can get deported? What were you thinking?

What!!!.. no no no no. I am married to a man who is illegal.. but I am ready to call it quits.. where the heck were you reading that ??

He's not illegal.

If you had a foreign spouse, I think you would know more about immigration law. Jesus!

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I think you have a valid concern here OP.

I mean, you are not only still technically married to your husband, but you still share a home (and presumably a bed) w/him as well. This must not bode well w/your new man.

I cannot imagine any guy out there being okay w/this.

Anyway, it is risky, but ultimately it is a choice you will have to make on your own. Sure, he could think you have no morals and not respect you as a woman since you are still married and living w/your spouse, yet sleeping w/this new person.

OR

He could be understanding to your situation and be supportive.

I would assume the former however.

Just my humble opinion....

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Anonymous wrote:Thank you so much for the info, .. I want to ask you, so while you lived in the same household, in an amicable separation.. you went out with the person you were seeing right?.. and that other person was ok with you living with your ex or whatever??.. you see, that is my concern.. is that the person I am seeing.... will be ok with it and take me seriously.. It is NOT that I plan to stay married.. and go out as if I am not.. I have been honest with both parties. unfortunately.. I just need to file the papers..

Yes, he knew the living arrangement. I also showed him my separation agreement. This was a very amicable divorce, and I am still friends with my ex, and my DH is also friends with him. They attended our wedding, and we attended my ex's wedding. Our kids have playdates (lol, we always joke and say, wouldn't it be crazy if our kids ended up getting together).

While ex and I were still living in the same house, he also had a girlfriend (not his current wife though). My boyfriend and his girlfriend would come over and we would all have dinner together, and sometimes we would go out to bars together. I seriously don't know how it would have worked though if we had kids involved.

You definitely need to get a formal legal agreement on record with the court.

WOW. Congratulations, PP. Adults behaving like adults. Bravo!

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Anonymous wrote:I ask myself sometimes.. when is it ok to give up?.. when is it ok to call it quits (when you are married with children) is it right to have to stick with someone.. only because.. oh yeah.. he cooks for me.. oh yeah.. he takes care of the kids.. well... I work.. I pay the bills.. .. is it right to have places switched?.. where dad stays home cooks and cleans.. while mom works hard to pay the bills?.. hell. I wanted to be the one at home.. watching the little ones grow up.... see them do the cute things they do for the first time.. I feel I recent him for that.. and another reason why I said.. no more to this marriage.. but then there is the .. "oh.. poor guy.. you will never find another one who will cook for you.. and clean for you".. WELL.. I don't want a housewife! I WANT A MAN!!!! DAMN IT!

the thing is, the next man will have other problems that you are currently not ancitipating. and then, if he doesn't marry you, the man after him, and the man after him... so you could easily find yourself single in your late thirties with only garbage men available for dates because younger men won't be interested in marrying you and all the good ones of your age will already be married.

i am not saying your husband is the best possible man for you, but you do have two kids with him. and it looks like, though he is not what you want, he is not all bad. in fact, to me it looks like the main reason you want to divorce is this other guy who is new and exciting and doesn't have particular problems your husband does, while your husband is kind of old news, plus clearly inadequate in some important respects... i am not saying this to moralize or judge you, just to warn you that time passes really fast (i am 40 now) and though at 31 you might feel you are very young and have plenty of time to fix your life, what you do now will shape the rest of your life and your options will be dwindling by the day.

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Anonymous wrote:I am open to any opinion.. !!

You are a whore. And one day your kids will think so too.

Ugh, don't listen to this ASS.