Being intamite with someone else, while separated, will I be taken seriously?

[Anonymous]

Yes ... at least for the moment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What does the new guy think about the situation?

When we went out on our first date, I told him the truth, that I have two kids and am living with the spouse but we sleep in separate rooms,, and are in process of a separation.. he seemed ok with it.. he told me he understood it takes time for me to get my issue situated ..This guy I am seeing, hasn't been able to find a stable relationship because he works over seas and the girls he has dated give him the ultimatum.... so .. maybe there is a whiling both ends to wait on eachother I don't know.. I am confused..

what do you think about that??

[Anonymous]

You do realize that when you divorce, it's highly likely you will have to pay him alimony, right?


Even if the spouse is illegal??

[Anonymous]

I think it can be complicated, but what isn't?
Maybe you should move to DC and have some fun out here!

But in all seriousness, I am interested to see what you decide.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So he is actually not ok with it and there is no agreement, it's just you who wants a divorce. That is going to present problems down the road. Whether you are going to be taken seriously by the other guy is kind of a secondary issue here. You need to sort out whether you want to push through divorce and then, if you do, actually push through it. It will be very hard.

You are right, I know.. that this other guy shouldn't be as important to me right now as is getting my issue fixed. The spouse does not have any papers and partial the reason why I am the main breadwinner.. after 7 years of marriage.. I got tired of being patient with him. He is not the type to really fight for his place as the man of the household, a big turn off for me over the years, he is a great father but our places were swaped.. I work and take care of the house and he takes care of the kids and works a few hours here and there.. we are so opposite as far as personalities are concerned.. I am ambitous, and he isn't. .I am tired of waiting for change.. which is why I am done.. and then I met this guy.. and everything is getting harder for me..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it can be complicated, but what isn't?
Maybe you should move to DC and have some fun out here!

But in all seriousness, I am interested to see what you decide.

Thank you so much. I really appreciate your comments and opinion.. I feel I do need to get away.. but again I have two kids.. and it is not that easy.. I would love to just start all over.. in tough times we all want that..

[Anonymous]

You are right, I know.. that this other guy shouldn't be as important to me right now as is getting my issue fixed. The spouse does not have any papers and partial the reason why I am the main breadwinner.. after 7 years of marriage.. I got tired of being patient with him. He is not the type to really fight for his place as the man of the household, a big turn off for me over the years, he is a great father but our places were swaped.. I work and take care of the house and he takes care of the kids and works a few hours here and there.. we are so opposite as far as personalities are concerned.. I am ambitous, and he isn't. .I am tired of waiting for change.. which is why I am done.. and then I met this guy.. and everything is getting harder for me..

[Anonymous]

17:51 here:
I know what you mean...
we can all dream right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are right, I know.. that this other guy shouldn't be as important to me right now as is getting my issue fixed. The spouse does not have any papers and partial the reason why I am the main breadwinner.. after 7 years of marriage.. I got tired of being patient with him. He is not the type to really fight for his place as the man of the household, a big turn off for me over the years, he is a great father but our places were swaped.. I work and take care of the house and he takes care of the kids and works a few hours here and there.. we are so opposite as far as personalities are concerned.. I am ambitous, and he isn't. .I am tired of waiting for change.. which is why I am done.. and then I met this guy.. and everything is getting harder for me..

How is he illegal if you are legal?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are right, I know.. that this other guy shouldn't be as important to me right now as is getting my issue fixed. The spouse does not have any papers and partial the reason why I am the main breadwinner.. after 7 years of marriage.. I got tired of being patient with him. He is not the type to really fight for his place as the man of the household, a big turn off for me over the years, he is a great father but our places were swaped.. I work and take care of the house and he takes care of the kids and works a few hours here and there.. we are so opposite as far as personalities are concerned.. I am ambitous, and he isn't. .I am tired of waiting for change.. which is why I am done.. and then I met this guy.. and everything is getting harder for me..

How is he illegal if you are legal?

Well, this guy entered the country with no visa.. and in this state (AZ) there is a law that does not give me ( US Citizen) the right to fix his legal situation because of the way he entered the country..

[Anonymous]

You definitely need a change in scenery!

[Anonymous]

I am desperate for a change in scenery, I feel, I can't do this anymore. Although I feel bad for him (in a way) Like I said he is an excellent father .. he is really good to his kids , I mean.. let me remidn you, 6 weeks after delivering my kids, he was the stay at home mom.. he pretty much did what I WANTED TO DO for so long and couldn't because ONE!. .he never moved a finger to let me stay at home.. and SECOND! because someone had to pay the damn bills..

[Anonymous]

How old are your kids?

[Anonymous]

4 and 2 .. they are little guys..

[Anonymous]

Hopefully you can be a stay home if you have more kids.
Sounds like you need to move on!

You will do well in life.