Older Moms with Babies-Why?

[Anonymous]

I'm still perplexed that the OP thinks 40 year olds look like grandmas. Perhaps the "grandmas" are just women who look like women, and there's an underlying self-esteem problem? (What you see in the world around you is pretty much what you project on it.)

And, OP: You COULD have had kids younger and didn't. Ask yourself about the reasons and leave we members of the Senile Gravitas group alone!

[Anonymous]

us members - sorry.

[Anonymous]

I recommend we leave this post to die out- and not feed it- OP hasn't posted- she is obviously trying to get responses- another indication that no matter what her situation is- she is just immature and trying to make herself feel better by initiating a thread on an internet site to get any kind of response in her deprived life - helping herself feel alive.. she has nothing else going on..

[Anonymous]

PP here- if she had any friends or whatever she would have had this discussion with them- it's not that intimate of a question to discuss.. just feel sorry for the OP and move on..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm still perplexed that the OP thinks 40 year olds look like grandmas. Perhaps the "grandmas" are just women who look like women, and there's an underlying self-esteem problem? (What you see in the world around you is pretty much what you project on it.)

And, OP: You COULD have had kids younger and didn't. Ask yourself about the reasons and leave we members of the Senile Gravitas group alone!

Couldn't agree more about 40 year olds looking like grandmas. Even stranger to be having the discussion right after Dara Torres, a 41 year old mother of a 2 year old, kicked a** in the Olympic Trials, and looked fabulous doing it

[Anonymous]

I agree - I'm done with this thread. Let's move on to more positive things!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am one of the "older" expecting moms who posted earlier. I simply can't wrap my mind around the outpouring of hateful remarks, etc. about the poster and her posting. I don't get it. . .on this board people ask opinions about life choices all the time. Yes, it wasn't the most graceful or sensitive way to phrase a post, but I think the OP is just struggling with her own life decisions, and finding herself regretful.

I never thought I would say this. . .but could the older moms here have a false sense of bravado, and are ticked off because of someone called them "old?" It seems it wouldn't really get to you if it didn't matter. . .as you say it doesn't.

I think the OP's comments/question were not well-worded.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:HaHa, this is better than Thursday night bingo at the nursing home!

Hahaha -- are you the person who started the farce thread!? You should be a stand up comic!

[Anonymous]

I once had a co-worker tell me that she thought it was disgusting for a woman over 40 to have a child! At the time, I was TTC and 41. She was 27, poor, having her second child, husband was a loser. I for one feel that OP insulted MATURE women who were having babies! To write that she thought the women at the park were the grandmothers, and gasp! they were the mothers. She obviously lives in her own little world.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 36 expecting my first child. I have been lucky enough to travel six continents, have my heart broken enough to become stronger and wiser, have three different careers, and become someone who will be a better mom now than at 26.

But at the end of the day, I didn't happen to meet my soulmate until the time was right. I feel blessed that I will be able to raise a child with a man I respect and adore. That could not have happened any earlier.

Nicely said. This very much applies to me too. I had my first at 36 and had tons of wonderful adventures before my daughter was born. I wouldn't change a thing! Now we'll have the wonderful adventures together.

[Anonymous]

Are we all reading the same thread? I don't find the OP insulting at all...maybe I'm just a bit more comfortable in my decisions of when to start a family. It seems to me to be an honest question. The OP is not a spring chick herself and is not claiming to be a young mom. From what she is posting, she seems to be having a baby at "advanced maternal" age too. She really has hit a nerve with you all, never knew this was such a sensitive topic for the older moms.

Many people like the mud-slingers here have just as pathetic of a life as the next (which is why we have nothing better to do than post on DCUM).

Why is the grandma thing so insulting? Are there not pleanty of grandma's in their 40's? It's not like she is stating something untrue.

For me:

Married at 38
Baby At 40
Would have started a family much earlier if I had met my husband earlier. Its too bad, because only 1 child is in the cards for us

[Anonymous]

LET THIS THREAD DIE- TROLLS ETC. ARE THE ONLY ONES ANSWERING FROM NOW ON.. let's not add fuel to this thread- OP is obviously a troll - and has not appeared as herself since what- a few days? so i call this BS and ask we just let this die-

[Anonymous]

This is by far the most bizarre thread I have read so far. The responses are wayyyyy overboard.

[Anonymous]

Why is the grandma thing so insulting? Are there not pleanty of grandma's in their 40's? It's not like she is stating something untrue.

You can't figure out why calling an older mom a grandma is insulting? I'm really puzzled by that. And I have no idea where you are from, but where I grew up, there weren't any 40 year old grandmas except maybe the one girl that got pregnant senior year of high school.

[Anonymous]

Whooaaaa. People have gone WAY overboard!!!

The fact that so many people became indignant, mean-spirited, and downright nasty says more about THEIR immaturity than that of the OP!

Get a grip ladies!!!