Older Moms with Babies-Why?

[Anonymous]

Well, I'm certainly glad someone re-opened THIS fun thread after 8 months! Ugh.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, there's really no good that can come of resurrecting this thread... again. This time, let's nail the coffin shut, maybe cut off its head and stuff it with wolfsbane, stake through the heart, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It may not be the right thing for everyone, but it was right for us. You don't need to question my decision.

Bravo.

OP asked a question. I didn't read anything in her post hat sounded as though she was questioning anybody's decision. Why does every thread io DCUM always bring out the worst I definitely include myself except this time I think "overreaction" is rampant.

[Anonymous]

There is a lot to be said for having children at a young age and one is that they may not be left motherless at age four. My mother died at age 41--three months after I turned four--my whole life would have been different...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is a lot to be said for having children at a young age and one is that they may not be left motherless at age four. My mother died at age 41--three months after I turned four--my whole life would have been different...

There is no way predict life. Having kids out of fear, or making any major life decision out of fear, is a sad way to live your life IMO. We waited until we were ready to have kids, which meant starting at 31, getting pregnant right away, and having our first at 32. Not sure if that makes me an "old" mom or not, but judging people's decisions/circumstances of when they have kids or if they have kids is ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is a lot to be said for having children at a young age and one is that they may not be left motherless at age four. My mother died at age 41--three months after I turned four--my whole life would have been different...

I'm sorry you lost your mom at such a young age, PP. However, you do realize that is an unusually young age for a woman to die, don't you? I'm 41 with a 3-year old daughter. I was unable to have children at a younger age due to the fact that I did not meet my husband until I was 32 and battled infertility for many years. Finally got pregnant at age 37. Life doesn't always work out as we planned.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Do you burden your friends with "I'm an older parent"? Like you have some sort of precedence or entitlement? If not, I wouldn't worry about it.

I've heard people use that excuse for not doing what they are supposed to do with their kids (the basics). I feel bad for the kids in that situation. The parents are just lazy. It probably has nothing to do with age.

Judge! Judge! Judge!

Agree with "judge" comment - what on earth is this poster talking about! Talk about going off on a tangent, very odd.
Parents feeling tired with working full-time, fully involved in children's school work and all activities are caring & happy parents of sweet energetic boys.
Not viewed as "older parent" either considering most peers had children later.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is a lot to be said for having children at a young age and one is that they may not be left motherless at age four. My mother died at age 41--three months after I turned four--my whole life would have been different...

I'm sorry you lost your mom at such a young age, PP. However, you do realize that is an unusually young age for a woman to die, don't you? I'm 41 with a 3-year old daughter. I was unable to have children at a younger age due to the fact that I did not meet my husband until I was 32 and battled infertility for many years. Finally got pregnant at age 37. Life doesn't always work out as we planned.

I'm not telling any woman at what age she should have children, though I do think the woman who had twins at age 60 was irresponsible--unfortunately, she was diagnosed with cancer at age 65. Modern medicine has made it possible for older women to have children without the high risks usually associated with pregnancies in late 30 and early 40's and this is a wonderful thing. I was simply making a personal observation and I didn't have children until late 20's/early 30's.

[Anonymous]

22:03 - At least you are involved with your kids. Some are not.

[Anonymous]

OP started this thread forever ago by talking about moms who, to her, looked like grandmothers. I want to know where the OP lives because around my house all the older moms look younger than the young moms because we can all afford Botox. But I'm glad to know a 17 page flame fest was started by someone who thinks she can tell how old people are in this day and age. What a great basis on which to start a thread like this!

[Anonymous]

I missed this one the first time around. What cracks me up is OP says she's "only 34" which means if she has two more her youngest will most likely be born when she's 38 (unless she has Irish twins) and when the youngest is starting K she will be one of the old moms. Silly post.

[Anonymous]

Oh no, you don't look younger than the younger moms -- just more plasticized. I swear ninety percent of women in the D.C. area think they have found the fountain of youth.

[Anonymous]

And this goes double if you are white. The few women I have seen who truly look a decade younger are Asian or Black. Get over your wrinkled, Botoxed, sun-spotted, saurian-handed selves -- STAT!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP started this thread forever ago by talking about moms who, to her, looked like grandmothers. I want to know where the OP lives because around my house all the older moms look younger than the young moms because we can all afford Botox. But I'm glad to know a 17 page flame fest was started by someone who thinks she can tell how old people are in this day and age. What a great basis on which to start a thread like this!

Must... not... respond... to... mis-guided... grandma-mom...

This... thread... must... die...

Will... not... hit... submit...

Noooooooooooooooooooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!

[Anonymous]

Why didn't you finish college and go to grad school and work for a few years before having kids?

I had my kids at 34 and 36. I am still young enough to enjoy them, and ever so much more secure financially and careerwise than if I'd popped them out in my 20s.