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Anonymous
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For you all so interested in schools with "diversity" for your kids, you seem very intolerant to somebody being different and making spelling mistakes - from a different culture, different language background, or different socio-economic background...or, gasp, somebody with a different opinion!
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Anonymous
Op, are you from a different cultural and language background? My opinion is you married too young and neglected your education. |
Anonymous
Wow - who ever said anything about the OP being from a different culture/language background. But if we're being so open, why isn't the OP accepting of mothers of all ages? And what about the person that called older moms seniors and menopausal? Let's be real about it. The OP called the title of her thread "Older Moms with Babies, WHY?" You honestly think she was just looking to have a casual chat about her opinions? |
Anonymous
I'm the pp. Actually, I was referencing the previous post about differences in culture, language background that could have hampered the grammar & spelling. It seemed like something the OP posted so I was just asking if we should use that as an excuse to forgive the misspellings and grammar and try to see her question from another cultural perspective. |
Anonymous
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Haha...OMG NOT A TROLL.
HOW HORRIBLE |
Anonymous
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I am one of the "older" expecting moms who posted earlier. I simply can't wrap my mind around the outpouring of hateful remarks, etc. about the poster and her posting. I don't get it. . .on this board people ask opinions about life choices all the time. Yes, it wasn't the most graceful or sensitive way to phrase a post, but I think the OP is just struggling with her own life decisions, and finding herself regretful.
I never thought I would say this. . .but could the older moms here have a false sense of bravado, and are ticked off because of someone called them "old?" It seems it wouldn't really get to you if it didn't matter. . .as you say it doesn't. |
Anonymous
| I think they're just ultra-defensive. I obviously matters to them or else they wouldn't all stoop to her (very, very low and immature level) as they have. |
Anonymous
Which one - the 2nd post? I'm in NO WAY the Op- in fact- on the camp that OP is an immature person who has no grasp on life and is hoping to make herself feel better with something like this.. |
Anonymous
| HaHa, this is better than Thursday night bingo at the nursing home! |
Anonymous
Can you tell me which "older" poster was defensive but said she wasn't offended? I'm curious. I posted a snarky reply to the OP but readily admitted that I found her comments offensive, which I do. I didn't really see any posts where someone was defensive about being called a "senior" or "grandma" or "postmenopausal" where the person denied finding the comments hurtful. I am just astounded that anyone on DCUM would find it okay to post about being old, seniors, grandmas and postmenopausal but find it so hideously offensive to call the OP out on all her spelling errors. |
Anonymous
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I can't understand why so many people are so bent out of shape with the OP's query. Perhaps not the most eloquent but I did not take her to be a "troll", just curious about other people's life decisions. If you do not want to share your "story", then don't - I am particularly amused by those who start out by answering OP, then go on to call her names and act indignant that they were asked such a question. Then simply don't answer and move on to another thread. No, it does not matter what somebody else's life decision is, but we happily reply to such posts all the time without flaming the OP. Some people are just curious to know about what path in life others have taken and why. I find it particularly amusing in light of the parallel post where everybody is listing their age and the number and ages of their children...Yes, we are all in different stages of life, for a variety of reasons. If you don't want to share, then don't.
OP, I am 40yo with an almost 4yo daughter. We married when I was 29 and, in retrospect, spent too much time waiting for the "right time" to have children (DH was an immigrant and it took a while to get a new career going, then went back to school, so mostly financial reasons for the delay since I was the primary breadwinner). One part of me wishes we had started a bit earlier, though I recognize, like another PP said, that I would regret not having the daughter that I do have. We also both recognize the trade-off between our energy levels and maturity (though we are still energetic for our not-so-geriatric age(s)). We are still thinking about #2, weighing our desires for another child against concerns about our age (my DH is 8 years older). It makes me sad to think that we may not live long enough to see our grandchildren (even if some mistakenly think that I look old enough to be one), especially if my daughter waits as long as I did. Whatever we decide about #2, we are enjoying our life with our daughter to the fullest. And to the grammar and spelling police - you are an awfully rude group of folks. Namecalling is not warranted and insulting people for their spelling is immature at best. Get over yourselves. |
Anonymous
I'm so confused. It is okay to call older moms (and at this point, I'm not even sure what is considered old) 'postmenopausal' but hateful and venomous to criticize spelling and grammar errors? I've obviously stumbled upon a group of people with values that are so completely different than mine. |
Anonymous
| Why dont you all just hop on pop in some stretched out calvin kleins? |
Anonymous
I'm 28 and I often find that this is the issue on this particular board. I often get treated as odd because of my age....people around here think that people in their 20s are crazy for having a baby and that we're all too immature and will probably get divorced (which has been posted more than once on this thread).....as if I were 15! Of course, MOST people don't think this but those that do are loud much like people are always loud when they're being rude 
When I go to playgroups, I am usually either the youngest one there, or there is maybe one Mom the same age as me. I find that the Moms that are in their 40s are often some that I get along with right away. I think we're not judgemental of each other because so many people are already judgemental of us. It's like if you're not between 32 and 36 when you have your first child in this area, you are too young or too old. I'm fortunate the other Moms I know are more accepting and perhaps if you knew me you would also see why I made my choices and if you knew them you'd see why they made theirs. We don't know each other on this board so we can't really comment. |
Anonymous
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I love how this thread has turned into the 'poor younger mom' having to defend herself against the evil older mommies. Geez, the title of the thread is "Older Moms with Babies - Why?" I think the ones being insulted are the OLDER moms.
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