Neighbors seem to really hate us and we don't know why

[Anonymous]

OP you need to know when to say when. If you antagonize the wrong people, they will make you sorry. Trust me, I know. You can be stubborn all you want, but you will not win. Choose to be smart instead. Your choice. Unless you plan on moving anytime soon, then it would not matter. Otherwise, wise up.

You can always have their car towed, FYI. I'll leave it at that, you figure out how. It can be done and has been done. Or worse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP you need to know when to say when. If you antagonize the wrong people, they will make you sorry. Trust me, I know. You can be stubborn all you want, but you will not win. Choose to be smart instead. Your choice. Unless you plan on moving anytime soon, then it would not matter. Otherwise, wise up.

You can always have their car towed, FYI. I'll leave it at that, you figure out how. It can be done and has been done. Or worse.

OP is this your neighbor posting? Pp are you an elderly disgruntled neighbor...what the hell kind of post is this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is a swail?

OP spelled it wrong. Swale: (Noun) A low or hollow place, esp. a marshy depression between ridges

We have one between our house and our neighbor's. Basically a lower lying area (ours is grass so it does need to be mowed) to help path water from your home's foundation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP you need to know when to say when. If you antagonize the wrong people, they will make you sorry. Trust me, I know. You can be stubborn all you want, but you will not win. Choose to be smart instead. Your choice. Unless you plan on moving anytime soon, then it would not matter. Otherwise, wise up.

You can always have their car towed, FYI. I'll leave it at that, you figure out how. It can be done and has been done. Or worse.

OP is this your neighbor posting? Pp are you an elderly disgruntled neighbor...what the hell kind of post is this?

What is with all the "trust me" horse shit? A lot of people claim this happened to them without offering any specifics. People only treat you the way you let them treat you. OP, you have to set the boundaries here because you are the one feeling harrased by these people. Do it! Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP you need to know when to say when. If you antagonize the wrong people, they will make you sorry. Trust me, I know. You can be stubborn all you want, but you will not win. Choose to be smart instead. Your choice. Unless you plan on moving anytime soon, then it would not matter. Otherwise, wise up.

You can always have their car towed, FYI. I'll leave it at that, you figure out how. It can be done and has been done. Or worse.

OP is this your neighbor posting? Pp are you an elderly disgruntled neighbor...what the hell kind of post is this?

What is with all the "trust me, I know" horse shit here? People only treat you the way you allow them to treat you. OP, you need to set the boundaries here because you are the one feeling harrased by these people. Do it. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I would be annoyed as hell! I dont see how you have done anything wrong other then live your life in your house. They are old, and the annoying this is that they probably dont like change and so they are bothering you to try and change the situation to how it was before. I would say not to "kill them with kindness" per se but just ignore them. If they say something ridiculous or have a crazy request just nod and walk away.

Arguing wont help and confronting them wont help bc they are stuck in their own ways. I think the whole "baking cookies" idea is totally ludacris and its not like that will change anything...nice gesture sure, but it looks like this is just not a situation where you will be able to "win them over."

Just ignore it and try to keep to yourself.

Oh, you can bet Ludacris wouldn't be putting up with any rose-snipping nonsense! Hell no!

[Anonymous]

I think your neighbor and my batty neighbor must be related. I don't suggest giving cookies because as someone mentioned I would not reward rudeness. Plus, if they got sick unrelated to the cookies they'd blame you.

Here's how I handled crazy wackadoo angry obsessive neighbor. I tried to be sweet as can be at first, but it just fed her fire. So after consulting with a lawyer friend, I sweetly informed this woman (and her apparently mute husband) that we want all communications in writing to make sure everything is clear. If they have any complaints or concerns we would be happy to review their written request, but we would no longer tolerate the yelling (yep, she yelled about the fact I had not weeded my garden in a few weeks), or the rude remarks because it was scaring our children. We also made it clear we want to keep harmony in the neighborhood. I followed up with a written summary of everything I stated. They have not bothered us once since. We give friendly "hellos" and that is it. They monitor their tone or should I say the wife does. The husband was never an issue, but he didn't shut her up either. Now if he had informed me she was mentally ill or something we would have been more understanding. She was very jeckly and hide-one day the sweet doting grandma type, the next day she was screaming angry over the fact we didn't bring in our trashcan fast enough when we got home.

You have a right to live in your neighborhood in peace. If there is an issue they can politely let you know. If you don't want them to touch your roses, politely ask them to stop and explain why.

[Anonymous]

I really don't understand the don't-park-in-front-of-my-house thing. Either you have a driveway so who the F cares what goes on at the curb, or you don't so you are used to the fact that you park wherever there is a spot. Our neighborhood is mixed (about half the houses have driveways) and our house faces two driveways and has a fire hydrant in front of it. So I have to park my car in front of someone else's house because the entire curb in front of my own is off-limits. (Yes, many people don't respect the law about not parking across from a driveway but I'm not interested in having my car hit by someone trying to back out and then having my insurance not cover the repairs because I was in the wrong.)

[Anonymous]

16:21 again...forgot to mention...my neighbor also was very into knowing our religion and what church we belong too. How can this lady be a self respecting church lady and behave like such a bully? These women give religion a bad name.

I think the whole in writing thing let them know we were starting a written record of all interactions and it made them think twice. We didn't mention a lawyer once nor would I, but just making them accountable for their bullying made the difference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I used to live in an apartment complex where one old lady wanted to have the parking space closest to the stairs. She had two cars, so every morning she would pull the car she drove out of that closest space, switch cars, and move her other car there for the day. When she came home, she would do the reverse, moving the second car to whatever space was available so she could park her first car in that closest space.

I never understood why she went to all the extra effort, since she had to walk the distance from whatever space was available both morning and night, not to mention all the switching, but you have to respect someone who goes to that sort of lengths to keep the space she wanted. She recognized that if she didn't do the switching someone else would take the close space, as they had every right to do.

If people want to keep others from parking in front of their house they should park extra cars there. Otherwise, they're just entitled pricks and deserve no better than having a POS parked in front of their house full time.

As long as you can also think she has a screw loose.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I really don't understand the don't-park-in-front-of-my-house thing. Either you have a driveway so who the F cares what goes on at the curb, or you don't so you are used to the fact that you park wherever there is a spot. Our neighborhood is mixed (about half the houses have driveways) and our house faces two driveways and has a fire hydrant in front of it. So I have to park my car in front of someone else's house because the entire curb in front of my own is off-limits. (Yes, many people don't respect the law about not parking across from a driveway but I'm not interested in having my car hit by someone trying to back out and then having my insurance not cover the repairs because I was in the wrong.)

These are the same prople who feel entitled to reserve public space after a snowstorm because they shoveled their car out. It beggars reason.

[Anonymous]

OP - my only advice is if you are doing an addition, make sure EVERY DETAIL is on the up and up. Permits, etc. Tell the contractors beforehand you have crazy neighbors and you suspect they might cause trouble so to make sure every thing is ready to show in case police or the county is called. If you are within your rights to do the addition and do everything by the book, they can't make trouble for you, but don't give them any reason to make your life hell.

We have really nice neighbors but I admit my elderly neighbor in the last year has gotten nit-picky about things. She is still reallly nice but I have a tiny glimpse over what it might be like to have difficult neighbors.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - my only advice is if you are doing an addition, make sure EVERY DETAIL is on the up and up. Permits, etc. Tell the contractors beforehand you have crazy neighbors and you suspect they might cause trouble so to make sure every thing is ready to show in case police or the county is called. If you are within your rights to do the addition and do everything by the book, they can't make trouble for you, but don't give them any reason to make your life hell.

We have really nice neighbors but I admit my elderly neighbor in the last year has gotten nit-picky about things. She is still reallly nice but I have a tiny glimpse over what it might be like to have difficult neighbors.

Yes, yes, yes!! And know the noise restrictions for your jurisdiction. If you're allowed to make noise at 9 on a weekend, make sure your contractors don't start the loud stuff until 915. Because if they start at 901, your neighbor will come over to dispute that it's only 859 on their clock. If they're like the difficult neighbors we once had, they will watch you and your contractors like hawks and catch you at every opportunity.

Honestly, I would also request that the contractors try not to park in front of their house. Yes, they have a right to do so, but remember your end goal to get your addition complete with minimal hassle. Bad blood won't get you there.

And put up a fence post haste.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP you need to know when to say when. If you antagonize the wrong people, they will make you sorry. Trust me, I know. You can be stubborn all you want, but you will not win. Choose to be smart instead. Your choice. Unless you plan on moving anytime soon, then it would not matter. Otherwise, wise up.

You can always have their car towed, FYI. I'll leave it at that, you figure out how. It can be done and has been done. Or worse.

OP is this your neighbor posting? Pp are you an elderly disgruntled neighbor...what the hell kind of post is this?

What is with all the "trust me" horse shit? A lot of people claim this happened to them without offering any specifics. People only treat you the way you let them treat you. OP, you have to set the boundaries here because you are the one feeling harrased by these people. Do it! Good luck.

And you can only behave the way you let yourself behave. OP, do you really want to be a petty, mean-spirited vindictive neighbor just because that's how they are being to you? I wouldn't. Just smile and say "thank you" and ignore them. Be the person you want to look back on and say, "remember when we had those mean neighbors?" Don't get sucked into their behavior.

As for the parking, no, it doesn't make sense -- it's not about making sense. Plenty of people feel territorial about parking in front of their house, even though it is public property. PP's can be as incredulous at that phenomenon as they wanna be, but that's just part of human nature, left over from our animal brains.

[Anonymous]

As for the parking, no, it doesn't make sense -- it's not about making sense. Plenty of people feel territorial about parking in front of their house, even though it is public property. PP's can be as incredulous at that phenomenon as they wanna be, but that's just part of human nature, left over from our animal brains.

Please. If it was "part of human nature" we'd all have it. Since it appears that only a few lunatics feel this way, it's actually a self-entitled, unattractive part of their natures.