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Neighbors seem to really hate us and we don't know why
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Anonymous
| Fuck the cookies. Put up a big fence on your property line (properly) and tell them that if they don't stop tresspasing on your yard you'll be calling the fucking police. I can't believe people are telling you to be nice to these people. They are *stealing* from you and tresspassing and you don't have to put up with it. Seriously. The pp's are pissing me off. LOL! |
Anonymous
Ha I posted right before you at 10:16 and your post was exactly what was in my head as well! I just tried to not use curse words since I get in trouble on here for that. 
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Anonymous
Yeah - I don't normally curse on DCUM but really people...cookies??? Sorry couldn't resist. |
Anonymous
Agree. They are crazy trying to maintain something from the past. They need a wake up call. I would consider a wall. |
Anonymous
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Ugh. This sounds like my parents. Only they would just sit around at home and talk about you. So nitpicky! Easily offended, they find insult in everything---the way the sunrises, jeez. Set up boundaries that speak for themselves, like you mentioned already exist alongside the rose bushes. I would not reward their behavior with cookies, nor would I apologize for having done nothing wrong. Let the old cranky people be and accept the idea that not everybody's gonna like you. I mean, would you really want these people in your social circle? They seem dangerously capricious. Yuck! |
Anonymous
| It also sounds like they are deeply religious, maybe even fanatics. I can't imagine quizzing new neighbors about their personal beliefs and asking about child care arrangements, nor would i tell them. |
Anonymous
| OP, Put deer tents over the roses. |
Anonymous
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Your neighbors are very rude.
Don't try to be nice. I would have been SO mad about the roses! |
Anonymous
I normally would be like this but I have learned from painful experience how horrible it is to live next to neighbors with whom you have any kind of feud. I would advise OP to make EVERY effort to be the better person and work it out and then, take the advice above it that doesn't work. I am not a religious person at all but I do find the adage, "What would Jesus do" to sometimes be a helpful guide. Or maybe if it's more palatable, what would Ghandi do?  Try being nice first. You can always call the police later if you need to. It's not like OPs health or safety are on the line here. We are talking about roses and garbage cans.
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Anonymous
They don't have a problem with those neighbors because those neighbors don't live right next door. They would find fault with anyone who had moved into the house - it's not you or your family. Tell them "suck it up buttercup!" or "if you don't like it, feel free to move somewhere else" And I am willing to be your other neighbors do not like these old people that much. Personally, I wouldn't care for someone doing half the thing you mentioned in your post as neighborly |
Anonymous
I disagree with this post -- for the most part. OP, your neighbors are kooks and have gone about things the wrong way, but that doesn't mean you can just ignore them. You have to accommodate your neighbors; that's life with neighbors. Now that they've shown you, in their own special way, that they don't like where you are putting the trashcans, I think you shouldn't put them there. I wouldn't feel comfortable putting them back where I knew my neighbors didn't want them, even if I had a right to. The roses -- also crazy on their part. I would say "we enjoy them outside. Please don't cut them so we can watch them bloom." You can still knock on their door and say this politely even though the moment has passed. The parking -- parking in front of other people's houses gets their fur up for some reason. Again, your neighbors went about it the wrong way but the sentiment is totally normal. (I had a neighbor knock on my door to ask why I parked in front of their house when it was only a temporary thing, to move a heavy piece of furniture into the side door. Sheesh.) The tent -- everyone can speculate all they want about their religious beliefs -- who knows, maybe they hate religious people and were making sure you were NOT enrolling your kid in the church preschool or having a revival in your yard -- but you can just learn to respond politely to crazy questions and comments once you put your neighbors in that space in your brain. They are old. They are telling you they were there first. Don't take it personally. Just keep being polite and civil. |
Anonymous
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OP - I grew up in Mt. Vernon, so I kind of had to smile at this. There are some people in my old neighborhood who could totally be your neighbors.
At the end of the day, I think some elderly people simply don't like kids or dogs and so the fact that you have both is going to piss them off regardless. That said, I think it is pretty easy to ignore and not get worked up about their snotty comments. The roses would absolutely annoy me, but agree to just be polite and ask them to refrain from cutting flowers on your property. The parking thing cracks me up - being from Old Town myself I am just used to people parking in front of my house. But agree that this is something, in the burbs, that pisses people off. I know they are kind of crazy, but I actually think a peace offering is in order. I'd bake a pie or some cookies and be like - "I'm sorry we got off to a bad start, but would really like for us to be friends. We are starting an addition soon and would like to make sure it is as peaceful as possible for you, but there will be workers here from 8 am to 6 pm" or something like that. If they are still jerks, you can at least say you tried... |
Anonymous
| There is no excuse for being rude busy-bodied neighbors. I don't care if you are 25 or 80. I would let it slide once or twice, after that start sticking up for yourself. Seems op is there. |
Anonymous
| OP, they are clearly in the wrong. On all counts. Have you considered just confronting them? In a "We've noticed you seem not to like us very much. Is there anything we've done to offend you? We really want to be good neighbors" sort of way. That might at least get you some more information on their crazy behavior and/or be disarming enough to them to make them realize they're being butt munches. Good luck to you. And very sorry about your Dad. |
Anonymous
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Why should OP provide a "peace offering" they STOLE her roses? And besides, this is not a one-time thing, so bringing over something (which she should not have to do at all) would do what? Appease the busy bodies until they find something else to gripe about?
OP stand your ground, and its hard but be as polite as you can when you do or just ignore it. Whats up with Betty Crocker baking squad on here? Yeah maybe for nice neighbors but not for rude ones! |