Late 40s woman: age-appropriate men look so old

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a late 40s widow dating a 55 year-old fire captain who is fine AF. Handsome, fit, funny and smart. Yes a few wrinkles and a head of silver hair but I'm good with all that.

OP, you must be fishing in some shallow waters.

Lower SEC men do tend to be hotter: policemen, former military, firefighters etc

Maybe in their youth, but no, not always.

[Anonymous]

You can always be a cougar.

[Anonymous]

I am 50, have light forehead wrinkle from expressions, and light grays. Shit scared of botox, dye my hair and look after my skin

I have lower my standards to basics with the assumption that men in 50s do the same for me?

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Anonymous wrote:You are almost 50, lmao

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Not the OP but what is funny about turning fifty?

We ALL age, it comes after even the best of us.

Some will even say ->> the luckiest of us too.

Nothing funny about fifty. PP was just reminding OP that an almost 50yo woman mocking older men is laughable. She is mocking herself.

She is not mocking them, stupid. She is mocking the way they look when they let themselves go.

Are you triggered? Get some damn exercise, wear sunscreen and make an effort.

I’m a 51 year old woman and don’t understand some of the complaints like baldness or wrinkles. Be attracted to whoever you want but these are normal things.

Eh. As a woman, I've spent thousands of dollars on skincare, sunscreen, and Botox. Hours upon hours in the gym and I watch what I eat. Not gray or balding yet (which does happen to women), but when it does, I'd take steps to address those problems. People will say that's not necessary and men don't care, but I know 100% if I gained 30 pounds, let my face age, stopped wearing makeup or styling my hair....my dating options would go down drastically.

So after all that, it's disappointing to date men my age who don't care for their skin, don't work out, and eat a diet consisting of Hot Pockets and Taco Bell. I don't need a male model, he doesn't need to get Botox, but just a little bit of effort can drastically amplify a man's attractiveness. Hell, I'd drop my underwear for a guy who could cook me a decent healthy meal, rather than just microwaving something frozen.

A guy friend of mine who is 42 spent the last few years glowing up. He got in shape, got a hair transplant, and gets some cosmetic work done. He looks fantastic, and he has a revolving door of attractive women sleeping with him.

In the beauty threads, when all of these anti-aging procedures are discussed, I always wonder why we encourage women to spend all this money fighting the inevitable. But I am invariably told that women do it for themselves, not men. So that was just cope?

Go lotion your ashy balls and stop worrying about what women are doing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a late 40s widow dating a 55 year-old fire captain who is fine AF. Handsome, fit, funny and smart. Yes a few wrinkles and a head of silver hair but I'm good with all that.

OP, you must be fishing in some shallow waters.

Lower SEC men do tend to be hotter: policemen, former military, firefighters etc

Are they low SEC?

My military husband makes 180K per year and will have a pension / medical for life. All his police and firefighter friends make about the same too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 47, and recently started dating again after a 24-year relationship. I'm shocked how old men my age look. I myself don't have wrinkles, saggy skin or gray hair. I'm fit and full of energy. But these guys, geeze... I don't want to date them myself!

I don’t believe that you are 47 with zero gray hair (unless you dye your hair)

I’m 57 with no gray hair yet. It happens.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 47, and recently started dating again after a 24-year relationship. I'm shocked how old men my age look. I myself don't have wrinkles, saggy skin or gray hair. I'm fit and full of energy. But these guys, geeze... I don't want to date them myself!

I don’t believe that you are 47 with zero gray hair (unless you dye your hair)

Great genes

I’m 57 with no gray hair yet. It happens.

[Anonymous]

I’m 47 and married. The guys we know seem to be aging well. Even the ones who are getting gray look handsome. Many women seem to age worse than the men.

I guess the good ones are taken.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You are almost 50, lmao

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Not the OP but what is funny about turning fifty?

We ALL age, it comes after even the best of us.

Some will even say ->> the luckiest of us too.

Nothing funny about fifty. PP was just reminding OP that an almost 50yo woman mocking older men is laughable. She is mocking herself.

Not at all.

What you’re failing to understand is that most people in this age group have completely let themselves go.

It’s rare to find a fit and well dressed 50 year old man (or woman.) Keep in mind these are things that are completely under your control. Just like most 20 somethings are effortlessly attractive due to youth, most 50 year olds have to put effort into maintaining good looks.

People simply prefer to let themselves go. It’s easy. It’s the default. But it’s not inevitable.

My parents are often mistaken for my children’s parents when they’re at the playground simply because they’re physically fit and they dress well. It’s jarring to see parents my age (40’s) with full heads of white hair, huge guts and bad skin who are look so much older than my kids’ grandparents.

[Anonymous]

Go for athletes. Just be prepared for their obsession with their craft.

All of the older surfers, triathletes, and rock climbers I know are hot AF.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 47, and recently started dating again after a 24-year relationship. I'm shocked how old men my age look. I myself don't have wrinkles, saggy skin or gray hair. I'm fit and full of energy. But these guys, geeze... I don't want to date them myself!

I don’t believe that you are 47 with zero gray hair (unless you dye your hair)

I am 48 and a different poster. I have fewer than 10 grey hairs. You can ask my hairstylist.

I don’t have wrinkles either. I am white. My mom and grandma aged the same.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a late 40s widow dating a 55 year-old fire captain who is fine AF. Handsome, fit, funny and smart. Yes a few wrinkles and a head of silver hair but I'm good with all that.

OP, you must be fishing in some shallow waters.

Lower SEC men do tend to be hotter: policemen, former military, firefighters etc

Are they low SEC?

My military husband makes 180K per year and will have a pension / medical for life. All his police and firefighter friends make about the same too.

I mean yes lower than professional men. My husband is a lawyer. He makes $700,000 a year.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a late 40s widow dating a 55 year-old fire captain who is fine AF. Handsome, fit, funny and smart. Yes a few wrinkles and a head of silver hair but I'm good with all that.

OP, you must be fishing in some shallow waters.

Lower SEC men do tend to be hotter: policemen, former military, firefighters etc

Are they low SEC?

My military husband makes 180K per year and will have a pension / medical for life. All his police and firefighter friends make about the same too.

I mean yes lower than professional men. My husband is a lawyer. He makes $700,000 a year.

It’s very easy for me to meet fat guys (lawyers finance real estate ) who make 500k+ on OLD.
Meeting a reasonably educated and financially stable man who is fit is MUCH harder

I presume all these single men were left by wives because they let themselves go.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a late 40s widow dating a 55 year-old fire captain who is fine AF. Handsome, fit, funny and smart. Yes a few wrinkles and a head of silver hair but I'm good with all that.

OP, you must be fishing in some shallow waters.

Lower SEC men do tend to be hotter: policemen, former military, firefighters etc

Are they low SEC?

My military husband makes 180K per year and will have a pension / medical for life. All his police and firefighter friends make about the same too.

I mean yes lower than professional men. My husband is a lawyer. He makes $700,000 a year.

It’s very easy for me to meet fat guys (lawyers finance real estate ) who make 500k+ on OLD.
Meeting a reasonably educated and financially stable man who is fit is MUCH harder

I presume all these single men were left by wives because they let themselves go.

Probably. I mean the attractive fit men in their 40s are all married.

My husband is reasonably fit, still has a full head of hair, no wrinkles and is the lawyer making the salary I mentioned above.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are almost 50, lmao

-1

Not the OP but what is funny about turning fifty?

We ALL age, it comes after even the best of us.

Some will even say ->> the luckiest of us too.

Nothing funny about fifty. PP was just reminding OP that an almost 50yo woman mocking older men is laughable. She is mocking herself.

She is not mocking them, stupid. She is mocking the way they look when they let themselves go.

Are you triggered? Get some damn exercise, wear sunscreen and make an effort.

I’m a 51 year old woman and don’t understand some of the complaints like baldness or wrinkles. Be attracted to whoever you want but these are normal things.

Eh. As a woman, I've spent thousands of dollars on skincare, sunscreen, and Botox. Hours upon hours in the gym and I watch what I eat. Not gray or balding yet (which does happen to women), but when it does, I'd take steps to address those problems. People will say that's not necessary and men don't care, but I know 100% if I gained 30 pounds, let my face age, stopped wearing makeup or styling my hair....my dating options would go down drastically.

So after all that, it's disappointing to date men my age who don't care for their skin, don't work out, and eat a diet consisting of Hot Pockets and Taco Bell. I don't need a male model, he doesn't need to get Botox, but just a little bit of effort can drastically amplify a man's attractiveness. Hell, I'd drop my underwear for a guy who could cook me a decent healthy meal, rather than just microwaving something frozen.

A guy friend of mine who is 42 spent the last few years glowing up. He got in shape, got a hair transplant, and gets some cosmetic work done. He looks fantastic, and he has a revolving door of attractive women sleeping with him.

In the beauty threads, when all of these anti-aging procedures are discussed, I always wonder why we encourage women to spend all this money fighting the inevitable. But I am invariably told that women do it for themselves, not men. So that was just cope?

Go lotion your ashy balls and stop worrying about what women are doing.

I’m a woman. Jesus.