Late 40s woman: age-appropriate men look so old

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Anonymous wrote:Hmm, I'm 46 and I find my male peers to be attractive (as is my husband). But I'm not looking to sleep with any of them (except my husband, who was somehow blessed with almost wrinkle-free skin, which is slight infuriating) so maybe it would be different if I were. Also, if you're dating in DC, that's the smartest but ugliest group of people.

DC really is amazingly unattractive compared to most cities

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a late 40s widow dating a 55 year-old fire captain who is fine AF. Handsome, fit, funny and smart. Yes a few wrinkles and a head of silver hair but I'm good with all that.

OP, you must be fishing in some shallow waters.

Lower SEC men do tend to be hotter: policemen, former military, firefighters etc

Are they low SEC?

My military husband makes 180K per year and will have a pension / medical for life. All his police and firefighter friends make about the same too.

I mean yes lower than professional men. My husband is a lawyer. He makes $700,000 a year.

It’s very easy for me to meet fat guys (lawyers finance real estate ) who make 500k+ on OLD.
Meeting a reasonably educated and financially stable man who is fit is MUCH harder

I presume all these single men were left by wives because they let themselves go.

Probably. I mean the attractive fit men in their 40s are all married.

My husband is reasonably fit, still has a full head of hair, no wrinkles and is the lawyer making the salary I mentioned above.

Literally all these men complained at first dates on dead bedroom with exW and that they became "roommates" . I was thinking - how come they don't understand why the wives were not particular excited?

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Are they low SEC?

My military husband makes 180K per year and will have a pension / medical for life. All his police and firefighter friends make about the same too.

The E is OK, but the S is a problem, sociologically. (I don’t make the rules; I just acknowledge them.)

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I get called a liar every time I bring this up, but I can't express how easy it is as a tall, thin man who lifts weights and has all my hair with a nice salary in my 40s, to date and sleep with women in their 20s.

I'm sure OP looks great and when I age out of this in a decade, I'll meet that version of her.

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To all men: for fashion, go to Italy. I just returned from vacationing there, and I had the impression there was at least one men's clothing store on every street. Italian men are famously well-dressed.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a late 40s widow dating a 55 year-old fire captain who is fine AF. Handsome, fit, funny and smart. Yes a few wrinkles and a head of silver hair but I'm good with all that.

OP, you must be fishing in some shallow waters.

Lower SEC men do tend to be hotter: policemen, former military, firefighters etc

Are they low SEC?

My military husband makes 180K per year and will have a pension / medical for life. All his police and firefighter friends make about the same too.

I mean yes lower than professional men. My husband is a lawyer. He makes $700,000 a year.

It’s very easy for me to meet fat guys (lawyers finance real estate ) who make 500k+ on OLD.
Meeting a reasonably educated and financially stable man who is fit is MUCH harder

I presume all these single men were left by wives because they let themselves go.

Probably. I mean the attractive fit men in their 40s are all married.

My husband is reasonably fit, still has a full head of hair, no wrinkles and is the lawyer making the salary I mentioned above.

Or they are dating younger women. The attractive divorced successful men we know are living their best lives out in the dating world. If you were a bad husband, let yourself go, don’t make a lot of money, not doing so well. We know one guy who complains at the old fat women he gets matched with.

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Anonymous wrote:You are almost 50, lmao

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Not the OP but what is funny about turning fifty?

We ALL age, it comes after even the best of us.

Some will even say ->> the luckiest of us too.

Nothing funny about fifty. PP was just reminding OP that an almost 50yo woman mocking older men is laughable. She is mocking herself.

She is not mocking them, stupid. She is mocking the way they look when they let themselves go.

Are you triggered? Get some damn exercise, wear sunscreen and make an effort.

I’m a 51 year old woman and don’t understand some of the complaints like baldness or wrinkles. Be attracted to whoever you want but these are normal things.

Eh. As a woman, I've spent thousands of dollars on skincare, sunscreen, and Botox. Hours upon hours in the gym and I watch what I eat. Not gray or balding yet (which does happen to women), but when it does, I'd take steps to address those problems. People will say that's not necessary and men don't care, but I know 100% if I gained 30 pounds, let my face age, stopped wearing makeup or styling my hair....my dating options would go down drastically.

So after all that, it's disappointing to date men my age who don't care for their skin, don't work out, and eat a diet consisting of Hot Pockets and Taco Bell. I don't need a male model, he doesn't need to get Botox, but just a little bit of effort can drastically amplify a man's attractiveness. Hell, I'd drop my underwear for a guy who could cook me a decent healthy meal, rather than just microwaving something frozen.

A guy friend of mine who is 42 spent the last few years glowing up. He got in shape, got a hair transplant, and gets some cosmetic work done. He looks fantastic, and he has a revolving door of attractive women sleeping with him.

In the beauty threads, when all of these anti-aging procedures are discussed, I always wonder why we encourage women to spend all this money fighting the inevitable. But I am invariably told that women do it for themselves, not men. So that was just cope?

Go lotion your ashy balls and stop worrying about what women are doing.

I’m a woman. Jesus.

The hell you are.

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I remember some divorced men dating older women in their forties when we were in our thirties. They said when they dated women in their thirties and twenties, they were all looking for marriage and kids so they started dating older. To the late forties women, they look great. To people in their thirties, they look ok.

Maybe find someone younger who doesn’t want more kids.

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Obviously men in your dating pool are ugly. There's no other reason why you would be single and only attractive to the dregs of DC.

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Anonymous wrote:You are almost 50, lmao

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Not the OP but what is funny about turning fifty?

We ALL age, it comes after even the best of us.

Some will even say ->> the luckiest of us too.

Nothing funny about fifty. PP was just reminding OP that an almost 50yo woman mocking older men is laughable. She is mocking herself.

She is not mocking them, stupid. She is mocking the way they look when they let themselves go.

Are you triggered? Get some damn exercise, wear sunscreen and make an effort.

I’m a 51 year old woman and don’t understand some of the complaints like baldness or wrinkles. Be attracted to whoever you want but these are normal things.

Eh. As a woman, I've spent thousands of dollars on skincare, sunscreen, and Botox. Hours upon hours in the gym and I watch what I eat. Not gray or balding yet (which does happen to women), but when it does, I'd take steps to address those problems. People will say that's not necessary and men don't care, but I know 100% if I gained 30 pounds, let my face age, stopped wearing makeup or styling my hair....my dating options would go down drastically.

So after all that, it's disappointing to date men my age who don't care for their skin, don't work out, and eat a diet consisting of Hot Pockets and Taco Bell. I don't need a male model, he doesn't need to get Botox, but just a little bit of effort can drastically amplify a man's attractiveness. Hell, I'd drop my underwear for a guy who could cook me a decent healthy meal, rather than just microwaving something frozen.

A guy friend of mine who is 42 spent the last few years glowing up. He got in shape, got a hair transplant, and gets some cosmetic work done. He looks fantastic, and he has a revolving door of attractive women sleeping with him.

In the beauty threads, when all of these anti-aging procedures are discussed, I always wonder why we encourage women to spend all this money fighting the inevitable. But I am invariably told that women do it for themselves, not men. So that was just cope?

Go lotion your ashy balls and stop worrying about what women are doing.

I’m a woman. Jesus.

The hell you are.

I’m going to assume that you have never been in the beauty forum to see the discussion. Lots of women take issue with all these anti-aging things. It’s always a big debate over there.

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Anonymous wrote:To all men: for fashion, go to Italy. I just returned from vacationing there, and I had the impression there was at least one men's clothing store on every street. Italian men are famously well-dressed.

Really? what part of Italy?

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Anonymous wrote:I remember some divorced men dating older women in their forties when we were in our thirties. They said when they dated women in their thirties and twenties, they were all looking for marriage and kids so they started dating older. To the late forties women, they look great. To people in their thirties, they look ok.

Maybe find someone younger who doesn’t want more kids.

These men tend to be fat, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I get called a liar every time I bring this up, but I can't express how easy it is as a tall, thin man who lifts weights and has all my hair with a nice salary in my 40s, to date and sleep with women in their 20s.

I'm sure OP looks great and when I age out of this in a decade, I'll meet that version of her.

Except no quality woman in her 50s is going to want to date a man who spent his 40s sleeping with 20-year-olds.

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Anonymous wrote:I get called a liar every time I bring this up, but I can't express how easy it is as a tall, thin man who lifts weights and has all my hair with a nice salary in my 40s, to date and sleep with women in their 20s.

I'm sure OP looks great and when I age out of this in a decade, I'll meet that version of her.

Be careful with this aging out. After 55 if you don’t have any verifiable recent long term relationship experience post divorce most women would avoid you as plague.

Many of these robotic, cold like a fish forever bachelors in their late 50-early 60s on the app

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Men in their 40's+ are fat and look old. More news at 11.