Late 40s woman: age-appropriate men look so old

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You are almost 50, lmao

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Not the OP but what is funny about turning fifty?

We ALL age, it comes after even the best of us.

Some will even say ->> the luckiest of us too.

Nothing funny about fifty. PP was just reminding OP that an almost 50yo woman mocking older men is laughable. She is mocking herself.

DP. She's not mocking their age. She's turned off by how they completely let themselves go. It's true.

OP, it used to be a career was all a man had to bring to the table. Men 40+ and even many under 40 still feel entitled to that low threshold. Remember "King of Queens"? A fat schlubby husband always screwing things up was the cultural equivalent of a total package wife. That's the world they want to live in. Men will do anything to avoid updating their priors.

Careful with the ones who actually take care of themselves and keep fit. They're often misogynistic and ultra mad at women. They hate that they have to make an effort to be competitive on the market.

[Anonymous]

Went to my HS reunion recently. The 40s is when people really age.. or don't. Some people take care of themselves and look pretty much like they did in HS. The other half and it as like "Good god, John, is that you?" and totally fell apart.

[Anonymous]

I'm early 40s and find men fine as all get up

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm early 40s and find men fine as all get up

Yeah, I think OP’s assortative mating is telling on herself.

[Anonymous]

UMC women just look better than their male peers because they invest more time and money into their appearance. Men at 45+ are bald or grey, and wrinkly. Women who don't want to be, aren't.

[Anonymous]

Mae West died in the arms of a man 30 years her junior and lived a life surrounded by much younger bodybuilders.

It's only patriarchal cultural expectations that suggest women shouldn't date younger. The real truth is that nowadays women do what they can to look young and stay fit, and most men let themselves go and are over the hill way earlier than women.

[Anonymous]

I married at 36 and divorced at 50. The decline in the physical appearance of men during that span of time is dramatic. Some women also take a deep dive during those years. But women are able to get an updated hairstyle and color it and they can wear makeup to conceal age spots and sun damage. They can wear Spanx and push up bras without people laughing at them, whereas it's considered odd for a man to wear a waist cincher.

You will do yourself a favor if you adjust your notion of what makes a man physically appealing at your age and at the age of men you'd want to date. There is no reason to excuse poor grooming. But it makes no sense to write off men with bad skin or who are balding. You don't have to date men who look pregnant, but don't reject everyone who has a dad bod. The model Paulina has a podcast about finding love at 50+ (She co-hosts it with her fiance who is bald). She noted how hot Captain Jean Luc Picard from Star Trek is, and how that helped her be open to bald guys.

[Anonymous]

I am 48. When I date, I date early 30s men. I am not looking for a long-term serious relationship or marriage ever again.

[Anonymous]

Start the clock, Oh honey is at it again

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 48. When I date, I date early 30s men. I am not looking for a long-term serious relationship or marriage ever again.

Do this. Win-win.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are almost 50, lmao

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Not the OP but what is funny about turning fifty?

We ALL age, it comes after even the best of us.

Some will even say ->> the luckiest of us too.

Nothing funny about fifty. PP was just reminding OP that an almost 50yo woman mocking older men is laughable. She is mocking herself.

She is not mocking them, stupid. She is mocking the way they look when they let themselves go.

Are you triggered? Get some damn exercise, wear sunscreen and make an effort.

[Anonymous]

I find guys in their 40s/50s are either really fit and active or sedentary.

For me I am in the middle. I don't want someone who is running marathons every weekend or always at the gym but I also don't want a couch potato.

[Anonymous]

Now consider the early 20s women on this forum who claim that they are just magnetically attracted to men over the age of 50, and cross-my-heart it has nothing to do with their money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are almost 50, lmao

-1

Not the OP but what is funny about turning fifty?

We ALL age, it comes after even the best of us.

Some will even say ->> the luckiest of us too.

Nothing funny about fifty. PP was just reminding OP that an almost 50yo woman mocking older men is laughable. She is mocking herself.

She is not mocking them, stupid. She is mocking the way they look when they let themselves go.

Are you triggered? Get some damn exercise, wear sunscreen and make an effort.

I’m a 51 year old woman and don’t understand some of the complaints like baldness or wrinkles. Be attracted to whoever you want but these are normal things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are almost 50, lmao

-1

Not the OP but what is funny about turning fifty?

We ALL age, it comes after even the best of us.

Some will even say ->> the luckiest of us too.

Nothing funny about fifty. PP was just reminding OP that an almost 50yo woman mocking older men is laughable. She is mocking herself.

She is not mocking them, stupid. She is mocking the way they look when they let themselves go.

Are you triggered? Get some damn exercise, wear sunscreen and make an effort.

I’m a 51 year old woman and don’t understand some of the complaints like baldness or wrinkles. Be attracted to whoever you want but these are normal things.

Agreed. I'm a man in my 50s married to a woman in her 50s. We are both getting wrinkles and graying and I'm balding. That's mostly beyond our control. But we can still go on an hour run or a five-hour hike.