Late 40s woman: age-appropriate men look so old

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is cope

I’m a early 40’s guy and at my run club and gym it’s super common to see dudes in their 40s and 50s with visible abs, pretty decent skin, etc

It is really rare to see women in similar shape at the same age.

Our run club has a lot of ex college athletes and lot of the participants who are in the sub 730 split group for our 13+ mile run groups are mostly under 30 women, dudes of various ages and very very few over 40 women

There are def over 50 women who are smoke shows but it is really rare.

I don’t see them at our club, at our gym, or at our firm.

There are some fitness instructors in my city over 50 I can think of that are snatched but I see random 50+ year old dudes at my firm and industry who are really fit, hit lifetime gym daily before or after work… etc

That’s because of your adverse selection location. Women after 40 don’t run. It ruins the knees - all athletes know that.
If you want to see many women in great shape - go to barre, yoga or Pilates class. These women maintain 20 BMI well into 60s and have great skin and muscular tone

Running is actually making women look worse

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a 40F and notice a huge variety in how men look. I've recently gone out with a 44 year old man who is extremely fit, has all his hair, good skin, and is well groomed, etc. I've also gone out with 40 year old men who look scrubby. I think, like with women, your 40s are where the differences between men who take good care of themselves and men who don't really start to become apparent. From my experience, a robust fitness routine truly makes a difference at this age.

+ skin care, good teeth and some fashion sense.

You're right.. but it's not that easy for men. Where do I go to get skin care products and who do I ask? I'm clueless, and the stores I've been to, like Sephora (with my DDs) seem oriented towards women.

Fashion sense is similar -- go to the mall and notice how many of the clothing stores are for women vs men. There's not much for men to choose from. Even at a place like Zara, the mens section is 1/3 the women's section.

Not saying it's impossible but it's not easy either.

What? It’s insanely easy. Do what women do. We research online, see dermatologists, watch videos, etc. Women aren’t born with this knowledge.

Even just scrolling TikTok for 20 minutes will give you plenty of fashion and skincare advice.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a 40F and notice a huge variety in how men look. I've recently gone out with a 44 year old man who is extremely fit, has all his hair, good skin, and is well groomed, etc. I've also gone out with 40 year old men who look scrubby. I think, like with women, your 40s are where the differences between men who take good care of themselves and men who don't really start to become apparent. From my experience, a robust fitness routine truly makes a difference at this age.

+ skin care, good teeth and some fashion sense.

You're right.. but it's not that easy for men. Where do I go to get skin care products and who do I ask? I'm clueless, and the stores I've been to, like Sephora (with my DDs) seem oriented towards women.

Fashion sense is similar -- go to the mall and notice how many of the clothing stores are for women vs men. There's not much for men to choose from. Even at a place like Zara, the mens section is 1/3 the women's section.

Not saying it's impossible but it's not easy either.

You have to, like, try. But I guess men aren’t used to that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a 40F and notice a huge variety in how men look. I've recently gone out with a 44 year old man who is extremely fit, has all his hair, good skin, and is well groomed, etc. I've also gone out with 40 year old men who look scrubby. I think, like with women, your 40s are where the differences between men who take good care of themselves and men who don't really start to become apparent. From my experience, a robust fitness routine truly makes a difference at this age.

+ skin care, good teeth and some fashion sense.

You're right.. but it's not that easy for men. Where do I go to get skin care products and who do I ask? I'm clueless, and the stores I've been to, like Sephora (with my DDs) seem oriented towards women.

Fashion sense is similar -- go to the mall and notice how many of the clothing stores are for women vs men. There's not much for men to choose from. Even at a place like Zara, the mens section is 1/3 the women's section.

Not saying it's impossible but it's not easy either.

For skin care, you definitely don't go to Sephora. See a cosmetic dermatologist and get assessed for a laser treatment and topicals. Mine has me on Plated Daily Serum as a one-stop unicorn product.

For fashion, the easiest option is to schedule an appointment with a Nordstrom stylist. It can be as simple as good, well-fitting jeans, a nice-quality black shirt or sweater, and on-trend sneakers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is cope

I’m a early 40’s guy and at my run club and gym it’s super common to see dudes in their 40s and 50s with visible abs, pretty decent skin, etc

It is really rare to see women in similar shape at the same age.

Our run club has a lot of ex college athletes and lot of the participants who are in the sub 730 split group for our 13+ mile run groups are mostly under 30 women, dudes of various ages and very very few over 40 women

There are def over 50 women who are smoke shows but it is really rare.

I don’t see them at our club, at our gym, or at our firm.

There are some fitness instructors in my city over 50 I can think of that are snatched but I see random 50+ year old dudes at my firm and industry who are really fit, hit lifetime gym daily before or after work… etc

That’s because of your adverse selection location. Women after 40 don’t run. It ruins the knees - all athletes know that.
If you want to see many women in great shape - go to barre, yoga or Pilates class. These women maintain 20 BMI well into 60s and have great skin and muscular tone

Running is actually making women look worse

You don't get abs from running. I still love to trail run for the mental health benefits, but for fitness, I rely on lifting and pilates.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a 40F and notice a huge variety in how men look. I've recently gone out with a 44 year old man who is extremely fit, has all his hair, good skin, and is well groomed, etc. I've also gone out with 40 year old men who look scrubby. I think, like with women, your 40s are where the differences between men who take good care of themselves and men who don't really start to become apparent. From my experience, a robust fitness routine truly makes a difference at this age.

+ skin care, good teeth and some fashion sense.

You're right.. but it's not that easy for men. Where do I go to get skin care products and who do I ask? I'm clueless, and the stores I've been to, like Sephora (with my DDs) seem oriented towards women.

Fashion sense is similar -- go to the mall and notice how many of the clothing stores are for women vs men. There's not much for men to choose from. Even at a place like Zara, the mens section is 1/3 the women's section.

Not saying it's impossible but it's not easy either.

You have to, like, try. But I guess men aren’t used to that.

Seriously...men's fashion is SO EASY. Go to a decent men's store and ask the salesperson for help. Do you not have any lady friends who would be willing to help you? Do you approach all of the challenges in your life with such passiveness?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is cope

I’m a early 40’s guy and at my run club and gym it’s super common to see dudes in their 40s and 50s with visible abs, pretty decent skin, etc

It is really rare to see women in similar shape at the same age.

Our run club has a lot of ex college athletes and lot of the participants who are in the sub 730 split group for our 13+ mile run groups are mostly under 30 women, dudes of various ages and very very few over 40 women

There are def over 50 women who are smoke shows but it is really rare.

I don’t see them at our club, at our gym, or at our firm.

There are some fitness instructors in my city over 50 I can think of that are snatched but I see random 50+ year old dudes at my firm and industry who are really fit, hit lifetime gym daily before or after work… etc

That’s because of your adverse selection location. Women after 40 don’t run. It ruins the knees - all athletes know that.
If you want to see many women in great shape - go to barre, yoga or Pilates class. These women maintain 20 BMI well into 60s and have great skin and muscular tone

Running is actually making women look worse

Runner's face. and men get it, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is cope

I’m a early 40’s guy and at my run club and gym it’s super common to see dudes in their 40s and 50s with visible abs, pretty decent skin, etc

It is really rare to see women in similar shape at the same age.

Our run club has a lot of ex college athletes and lot of the participants who are in the sub 730 split group for our 13+ mile run groups are mostly under 30 women, dudes of various ages and very very few over 40 women

There are def over 50 women who are smoke shows but it is really rare.

I don’t see them at our club, at our gym, or at our firm.

There are some fitness instructors in my city over 50 I can think of that are snatched but I see random 50+ year old dudes at my firm and industry who are really fit, hit lifetime gym daily before or after work… etc

That’s because of your adverse selection location. Women after 40 don’t run. It ruins the knees - all athletes know that.
If you want to see many women in great shape - go to barre, yoga or Pilates class. These women maintain 20 BMI well into 60s and have great skin and muscular tone

Running is actually making women look worse

Runner's face. and men get it, too.

Runner's face is basically the same look as ozempic face. Long-distance runners do not age well. It's the combination of lack of facial structure plus sun damage.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a 40F and notice a huge variety in how men look. I've recently gone out with a 44 year old man who is extremely fit, has all his hair, good skin, and is well groomed, etc. I've also gone out with 40 year old men who look scrubby. I think, like with women, your 40s are where the differences between men who take good care of themselves and men who don't really start to become apparent. From my experience, a robust fitness routine truly makes a difference at this age.

+ skin care, good teeth and some fashion sense.

You're right.. but it's not that easy for men. Where do I go to get skin care products and who do I ask? I'm clueless, and the stores I've been to, like Sephora (with my DDs) seem oriented towards women.

Fashion sense is similar -- go to the mall and notice how many of the clothing stores are for women vs men. There's not much for men to choose from. Even at a place like Zara, the mens section is 1/3 the women's section.

Not saying it's impossible but it's not easy either.

For skin care, you definitely don't go to Sephora. See a cosmetic dermatologist and get assessed for a laser treatment and topicals. Mine has me on Plated Daily Serum as a one-stop unicorn product.

For fashion, the easiest option is to schedule an appointment with a Nordstrom stylist. It can be as simple as good, well-fitting jeans, a nice-quality black shirt or sweater, and on-trend sneakers.

Thanks for the advice. I didn't realize people at this age go to cosmetic dematologists, and I thought they just do Botox. I just go to my dematologist for my annual skin check but he never mentioned anything more to me. I guess I really am clueless on this.

I've found good stuff at Zara and Nordstrom, but it takes a lot of hunting. There's just not a lot of places to choose from compared to men. The hunt for something good is fun though.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is cope

I’m a early 40’s guy and at my run club and gym it’s super common to see dudes in their 40s and 50s with visible abs, pretty decent skin, etc

It is really rare to see women in similar shape at the same age.

Our run club has a lot of ex college athletes and lot of the participants who are in the sub 730 split group for our 13+ mile run groups are mostly under 30 women, dudes of various ages and very very few over 40 women

There are def over 50 women who are smoke shows but it is really rare.

I don’t see them at our club, at our gym, or at our firm.

There are some fitness instructors in my city over 50 I can think of that are snatched but I see random 50+ year old dudes at my firm and industry who are really fit, hit lifetime gym daily before or after work… etc

That’s because of your adverse selection location. Women after 40 don’t run. It ruins the knees - all athletes know that.
If you want to see many women in great shape - go to barre, yoga or Pilates class. These women maintain 20 BMI well into 60s and have great skin and muscular tone

Running is actually making women look worse

You don't get abs from running. I still love to trail run for the mental health benefits, but for fitness, I rely on lifting and pilates.

Yes, and you don't get the coveted hourglass shape body from running, either. Only targeted zones weights lifting, pilates, ballet and pilates can make your midsection thin, and butt and chest still curvaceous. Swimming to some extend (particular backstroke) helps with abs.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is cope

I’m a early 40’s guy and at my run club and gym it’s super common to see dudes in their 40s and 50s with visible abs, pretty decent skin, etc

It is really rare to see women in similar shape at the same age.

Our run club has a lot of ex college athletes and lot of the participants who are in the sub 730 split group for our 13+ mile run groups are mostly under 30 women, dudes of various ages and very very few over 40 women

There are def over 50 women who are smoke shows but it is really rare.

I don’t see them at our club, at our gym, or at our firm.

There are some fitness instructors in my city over 50 I can think of that are snatched but I see random 50+ year old dudes at my firm and industry who are really fit, hit lifetime gym daily before or after work… etc

That’s because of your adverse selection location. Women after 40 don’t run. It ruins the knees - all athletes know that.
If you want to see many women in great shape - go to barre, yoga or Pilates class. These women maintain 20 BMI well into 60s and have great skin and muscular tone

Running is actually making women look worse

Runner's face. and men get it, too.

Runner's face is basically the same look as ozempic face. Long-distance runners do not age well. It's the combination of lack of facial structure plus sun damage.

Yea, both runner men and women don't look attractive. Really dried out, and women runners look masculine and square

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a 40F and notice a huge variety in how men look. I've recently gone out with a 44 year old man who is extremely fit, has all his hair, good skin, and is well groomed, etc. I've also gone out with 40 year old men who look scrubby. I think, like with women, your 40s are where the differences between men who take good care of themselves and men who don't really start to become apparent. From my experience, a robust fitness routine truly makes a difference at this age.

+ skin care, good teeth and some fashion sense.

You're right.. but it's not that easy for men. Where do I go to get skin care products and who do I ask? I'm clueless, and the stores I've been to, like Sephora (with my DDs) seem oriented towards women.

Fashion sense is similar -- go to the mall and notice how many of the clothing stores are for women vs men. There's not much for men to choose from. Even at a place like Zara, the mens section is 1/3 the women's section.

Not saying it's impossible but it's not easy either.

You can ask your DD who you go to Sephora with for starters. I’m sure she’ll have suggestions even if she’s 11

[Anonymous]

I'm a late 40s widow dating a 55 year-old fire captain who is fine AF. Handsome, fit, funny and smart. Yes a few wrinkles and a head of silver hair but I'm good with all that.

OP, you must be fishing in some shallow waters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a late 40s widow dating a 55 year-old fire captain who is fine AF. Handsome, fit, funny and smart. Yes a few wrinkles and a head of silver hair but I'm good with all that.

OP, you must be fishing in some shallow waters.

Lower SEC men do tend to be hotter: policemen, former military, firefighters etc

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Anonymous wrote:You are almost 50, lmao

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Not the OP but what is funny about turning fifty?

We ALL age, it comes after even the best of us.

Some will even say ->> the luckiest of us too.

Nothing funny about fifty. PP was just reminding OP that an almost 50yo woman mocking older men is laughable. She is mocking herself.

She is not mocking them, stupid. She is mocking the way they look when they let themselves go.

Are you triggered? Get some damn exercise, wear sunscreen and make an effort.

I’m a 51 year old woman and don’t understand some of the complaints like baldness or wrinkles. Be attracted to whoever you want but these are normal things.

Eh. As a woman, I've spent thousands of dollars on skincare, sunscreen, and Botox. Hours upon hours in the gym and I watch what I eat. Not gray or balding yet (which does happen to women), but when it does, I'd take steps to address those problems. People will say that's not necessary and men don't care, but I know 100% if I gained 30 pounds, let my face age, stopped wearing makeup or styling my hair....my dating options would go down drastically.

So after all that, it's disappointing to date men my age who don't care for their skin, don't work out, and eat a diet consisting of Hot Pockets and Taco Bell. I don't need a male model, he doesn't need to get Botox, but just a little bit of effort can drastically amplify a man's attractiveness. Hell, I'd drop my underwear for a guy who could cook me a decent healthy meal, rather than just microwaving something frozen.

A guy friend of mine who is 42 spent the last few years glowing up. He got in shape, got a hair transplant, and gets some cosmetic work done. He looks fantastic, and he has a revolving door of attractive women sleeping with him.

In the beauty threads, when all of these anti-aging procedures are discussed, I always wonder why we encourage women to spend all this money fighting the inevitable. But I am invariably told that women do it for themselves, not men. So that was just cope?