Late 40s woman: age-appropriate men look so old

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Anonymous wrote:You are almost 50, lmao

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Not the OP but what is funny about turning fifty?

We ALL age, it comes after even the best of us.

Some will even say ->> the luckiest of us too.

Nothing funny about fifty. PP was just reminding OP that an almost 50yo woman mocking older men is laughable. She is mocking herself.

She is not mocking them, stupid. She is mocking the way they look when they let themselves go.

Are you triggered? Get some damn exercise, wear sunscreen and make an effort.

I’m a 51 year old woman and don’t understand some of the complaints like baldness or wrinkles. Be attracted to whoever you want but these are normal things.

Agreed. I'm a man in my 50s married to a woman in her 50s. We are both getting wrinkles and graying and I'm balding. That's mostly beyond our control. But we can still go on an hour run or a five-hour hike.

[Anonymous]

Yep. I find 27-35 men to be really hot. I feel like a dirty old man being lecherous. But Role Model is hot!

[Anonymous]

I’m an athletic woman who works out. I don’t mind him being bold and wrinkled but athletic type body is a must for me

I did try not to be shallow and dated chubby. Bedroom action was truly disgusting to me all that jelly awkward movements and smells. So I will continue using toys until and unless I meet someone I truly want physically

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I married at 36 and divorced at 50. The decline in the physical appearance of men during that span of time is dramatic. Some women also take a deep dive during those years. But women are able to get an updated hairstyle and color it and they can wear makeup to conceal age spots and sun damage. They can wear Spanx and push up bras without people laughing at them, whereas it's considered odd for a man to wear a waist cincher.

You will do yourself a favor if you adjust your notion of what makes a man physically appealing at your age and at the age of men you'd want to date. There is no reason to excuse poor grooming. But it makes no sense to write off men with bad skin or who are balding. You don't have to date men who look pregnant, but don't reject everyone who has a dad bod. The model Paulina has a podcast about finding love at 50+ (She co-hosts it with her fiance who is bald). She noted how hot Captain Jean Luc Picard from Star Trek is, and how that helped her be open to bald guys.

GTFOH.

Men habitually reject women for being plump, having stretch marks from pregnancy, for not having the waist-hip ratio they like, for not having a certain leg shape, or even for having "man" hands.

However, we should look past their ugly bald heads with the flaky skin and patchy ring of hair. God forbid we reject them for being fat and flabby when they have no excuse whatsoever.

Affirmative action for men needs to die. They don't give passes and they don't deserve passes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are almost 50, lmao

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Not the OP but what is funny about turning fifty?

We ALL age, it comes after even the best of us.

Some will even say ->> the luckiest of us too.

Nothing funny about fifty. PP was just reminding OP that an almost 50yo woman mocking older men is laughable. She is mocking herself.

She is not mocking them, stupid. She is mocking the way they look when they let themselves go.

Are you triggered? Get some damn exercise, wear sunscreen and make an effort.

I’m a 51 year old woman and don’t understand some of the complaints like baldness or wrinkles. Be attracted to whoever you want but these are normal things.

Agreed. I'm a man in my 50s married to a woman in her 50s. We are both getting wrinkles and graying and I'm balding. That's mostly beyond our control. But we can still go on an hour run or a five-hour hike.

Oh, please. The only reason you're zen about your wife about aging is because you look worse with your balding dome. Men have been shallow as hell for all time. Now, women are giving it back.

[Anonymous]

This is cope

I’m a early 40’s guy and at my run club and gym it’s super common to see dudes in their 40s and 50s with visible abs, pretty decent skin, etc

It is really rare to see women in similar shape at the same age.

Our run club has a lot of ex college athletes and lot of the participants who are in the sub 730 split group for our 13+ mile run groups are mostly under 30 women, dudes of various ages and very very few over 40 women

There are def over 50 women who are smoke shows but it is really rare.

I don’t see them at our club, at our gym, or at our firm.

There are some fitness instructors in my city over 50 I can think of that are snatched but I see random 50+ year old dudes at my firm and industry who are really fit, hit lifetime gym daily before or after work… etc

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Now consider the early 20s women on this forum who claim that they are just magnetically attracted to men over the age of 50, and cross-my-heart it has nothing to do with their money.

Not one woman wrote those posts. It's some creep sock puppeting on his OnlyFans break.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I married at 36 and divorced at 50. The decline in the physical appearance of men during that span of time is dramatic. Some women also take a deep dive during those years. But women are able to get an updated hairstyle and color it and they can wear makeup to conceal age spots and sun damage. They can wear Spanx and push up bras without people laughing at them, whereas it's considered odd for a man to wear a waist cincher.

You will do yourself a favor if you adjust your notion of what makes a man physically appealing at your age and at the age of men you'd want to date. There is no reason to excuse poor grooming. But it makes no sense to write off men with bad skin or who are balding. You don't have to date men who look pregnant, but don't reject everyone who has a dad bod. The model Paulina has a podcast about finding love at 50+ (She co-hosts it with her fiance who is bald). She noted how hot Captain Jean Luc Picard from Star Trek is, and how that helped her be open to bald guys.

GTFOH.

Men habitually reject women for being plump, having stretch marks from pregnancy, for not having the waist-hip ratio they like, for not having a certain leg shape, or even for having "man" hands.

However, we should look past their ugly bald heads with the flaky skin and patchy ring of hair. God forbid we reject them for being fat and flabby when they have no excuse whatsoever.

Affirmative action for men needs to die. They don't give passes and they don't deserve passes.

"Men habitually reject women for being plump, having stretch marks from pregnancy, for not having the waist-hip ratio they like, for not having a certain leg shape, or even for having "man" hands."

I think you're getting your information from old Seinfeld episodes. Not every man is attracted to every woman, but on average, our standards for finding a woman attractive are way lower than vice versa. The vast majority of men are physically attracted to the vast majority of reasonably fit women, regardless of details like stretch marks or leg shape.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is cope

I’m a early 40’s guy and at my run club and gym it’s super common to see dudes in their 40s and 50s with visible abs, pretty decent skin, etc

It is really rare to see women in similar shape at the same age.

Our run club has a lot of ex college athletes and lot of the participants who are in the sub 730 split group for our 13+ mile run groups are mostly under 30 women, dudes of various ages and very very few over 40 women

There are def over 50 women who are smoke shows but it is really rare.

I don’t see them at our club, at our gym, or at our firm.

There are some fitness instructors in my city over 50 I can think of that are snatched but I see random 50+ year old dudes at my firm and industry who are really fit, hit lifetime gym daily before or after work… etc

Have you spent most of your life dating men or how are you this ignorant of sex differences? A sub 730 split for a 13+ mile run is a reasonable measure of female fitness over 40? Every time a man of your age opens his mouth on women, it just hits me all over again that men become much more stupid as they age. It's like something in the Y chromosome inhibits the wisdom that's supposed to come with experience.

[Anonymous]

DP. She's not mocking their age. She's turned off by how they completely let themselves go. It's true.

OP, it used to be a career was all a man had to bring to the table. Men 40+ and even many under 40 still feel entitled to that low threshold. Remember "King of Queens"? A fat schlubby husband always screwing things up was the cultural equivalent of a total package wife. That's the world they want to live in. Men will do anything to avoid updating their priors.

Careful with the ones who actually take care of themselves and keep fit. They're often misogynistic and ultra mad at women. They hate that they have to make an effort to be competitive on the market.

Please, as a woman, tell the men on this board how they think and what they feel. The truth is that your hostility toward men is warping your judgment.

Let's focus on you, for a moment. Do you receive spousal support (and/or child support)? Are you on the market, bagging on men, while someone else is providing a material share of your income? If so, try giving your exDH most (if not all) of the support back and let him spend it on making himself attractive. Then, let's see how it goes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I married at 36 and divorced at 50. The decline in the physical appearance of men during that span of time is dramatic. Some women also take a deep dive during those years. But women are able to get an updated hairstyle and color it and they can wear makeup to conceal age spots and sun damage. They can wear Spanx and push up bras without people laughing at them, whereas it's considered odd for a man to wear a waist cincher.

You will do yourself a favor if you adjust your notion of what makes a man physically appealing at your age and at the age of men you'd want to date. There is no reason to excuse poor grooming. But it makes no sense to write off men with bad skin or who are balding. You don't have to date men who look pregnant, but don't reject everyone who has a dad bod. The model Paulina has a podcast about finding love at 50+ (She co-hosts it with her fiance who is bald). She noted how hot Captain Jean Luc Picard from Star Trek is, and how that helped her be open to bald guys.

GTFOH.

Men habitually reject women for being plump, having stretch marks from pregnancy, for not having the waist-hip ratio they like, for not having a certain leg shape, or even for having "man" hands.

However, we should look past their ugly bald heads with the flaky skin and patchy ring of hair. God forbid we reject them for being fat and flabby when they have no excuse whatsoever.

Affirmative action for men needs to die. They don't give passes and they don't deserve passes.

"Men habitually reject women for being plump, having stretch marks from pregnancy, for not having the waist-hip ratio they like, for not having a certain leg shape, or even for having "man" hands."

I think you're getting your information from old Seinfeld episodes. Not every man is attracted to every woman, but on average, our standards for finding a woman attractive are way lower than vice versa. The vast majority of men are physically attracted to the vast majority of reasonably fit women, regardless of details like stretch marks or leg shape.

You really think I'm going to be mansplained about male shallowness? How much experience do you have being a woman dating men? Bye.

[Anonymous]

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DP. She's not mocking their age. She's turned off by how they completely let themselves go. It's true.

OP, it used to be a career was all a man had to bring to the table. Men 40+ and even many under 40 still feel entitled to that low threshold. Remember "King of Queens"? A fat schlubby husband always screwing things up was the cultural equivalent of a total package wife. That's the world they want to live in. Men will do anything to avoid updating their priors.

Careful with the ones who actually take care of themselves and keep fit. They're often misogynistic and ultra mad at women. They hate that they have to make an effort to be competitive on the market.

Please, as a woman, tell the men on this board how they think and what they feel. The truth is that your hostility toward men is warping your judgment.

Let's focus on you, for a moment. Do you receive spousal support (and/or child support)? Are you on the market, bagging on men, while someone else is providing a material share of your income? If so, try giving your exDH most (if not all) of the support back and let him spend it on making himself attractive. Then, let's see how it goes.

First of all, your post is the work of an angry man crashing out. Second, sir, go argue alimony with your ex-wife, not with me. I don't care about your problems.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I married at 36 and divorced at 50. The decline in the physical appearance of men during that span of time is dramatic. Some women also take a deep dive during those years. But women are able to get an updated hairstyle and color it and they can wear makeup to conceal age spots and sun damage. They can wear Spanx and push up bras without people laughing at them, whereas it's considered odd for a man to wear a waist cincher.

You will do yourself a favor if you adjust your notion of what makes a man physically appealing at your age and at the age of men you'd want to date. There is no reason to excuse poor grooming. But it makes no sense to write off men with bad skin or who are balding. You don't have to date men who look pregnant, but don't reject everyone who has a dad bod. The model Paulina has a podcast about finding love at 50+ (She co-hosts it with her fiance who is bald). She noted how hot Captain Jean Luc Picard from Star Trek is, and how that helped her be open to bald guys.

GTFOH.

Men habitually reject women for being plump, having stretch marks from pregnancy, for not having the waist-hip ratio they like, for not having a certain leg shape, or even for having "man" hands.

However, we should look past their ugly bald heads with the flaky skin and patchy ring of hair. God forbid we reject them for being fat and flabby when they have no excuse whatsoever.

Affirmative action for men needs to die. They don't give passes and they don't deserve passes.

"Men habitually reject women for being plump, having stretch marks from pregnancy, for not having the waist-hip ratio they like, for not having a certain leg shape, or even for having "man" hands."

I think you're getting your information from old Seinfeld episodes. Not every man is attracted to every woman, but on average, our standards for finding a woman attractive are way lower than vice versa. The vast majority of men are physically attracted to the vast majority of reasonably fit women, regardless of details like stretch marks or leg shape.

Men will F anything and everything, but they also will trash talk women for anything and everything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are almost 50, lmao

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Not the OP but what is funny about turning fifty?

We ALL age, it comes after even the best of us.

Some will even say ->> the luckiest of us too.

Nothing funny about fifty. PP was just reminding OP that an almost 50yo woman mocking older men is laughable. She is mocking herself.

She is not mocking them, stupid. She is mocking the way they look when they let themselves go.

Are you triggered? Get some damn exercise, wear sunscreen and make an effort.

I’m a 51 year old woman and don’t understand some of the complaints like baldness or wrinkles. Be attracted to whoever you want but these are normal things.

Eh. As a woman, I've spent thousands of dollars on skincare, sunscreen, and Botox. Hours upon hours in the gym and I watch what I eat. Not gray or balding yet (which does happen to women), but when it does, I'd take steps to address those problems. People will say that's not necessary and men don't care, but I know 100% if I gained 30 pounds, let my face age, stopped wearing makeup or styling my hair....my dating options would go down drastically.

So after all that, it's disappointing to date men my age who don't care for their skin, don't work out, and eat a diet consisting of Hot Pockets and Taco Bell. I don't need a male model, he doesn't need to get Botox, but just a little bit of effort can drastically amplify a man's attractiveness. Hell, I'd drop my underwear for a guy who could cook me a decent healthy meal, rather than just microwaving something frozen.

A guy friend of mine who is 42 spent the last few years glowing up. He got in shape, got a hair transplant, and gets some cosmetic work done. He looks fantastic, and he has a revolving door of attractive women sleeping with him.

[Anonymous]

First of all, your post is the work of an angry man crashing out. Second, sir, go argue alimony with your ex-wife, not with me. I don't care about your problems.

What, exactly, am I "crashing out" of, sweetee?

So the answer is "yes." You are sucking at the teat of your exDH's career while complaining about how awful men your age look.

You care enough about my post to reply. Because you know that I am right.

What are you doing today? Getting ready for the last round-up at the J. Gilbert's happy hour (where you can place your large buttocks on a couple of barstools and go on the prowl)? You should spend more time getting ready for happy hour and less time on DCUM. It would improve your luck.