Late 40s woman: age-appropriate men look so old

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I am turning 53 next week and I look 40 I am seeing a 40 year old man at the moment.

Here is a translation of this post into the truth:

I am turning 53 next week and look every bit of it. Maybe even older.

Some hard up 40-year-man is banging me when he can stand it. We can only do it doggie-style or reverse cowgirl because otherwise, he has to look at my face, which makes it a rough ride.

I believe the woman. I got dumped by a woman like that and she's with a guy like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I am turning 53 next week and I look 40 I am seeing a 40 year old man at the moment.

Here is a translation of this post into the truth:

I am turning 53 next week and look every bit of it. Maybe even older.

Some hard up 40-year-man is banging me when he can stand it. We can only do it doggie-style or reverse cowgirl because otherwise, he has to look at my face, which makes it a rough ride.

OP here. Wow, you are disgruntled.

I promise you that my 40 year old man is not hard up. He is a firefighter who is in the local firefighter calendar. For real. We are having the best sex, and he loves seeing all of me. I am fit and fun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yea, dating in your 40s is wild. The pool is MUCH bigger since you can go from 20s-60s men. But older men look pretty awful, and the younger ones are immature and obnoxious.

I’m around the same age as OP, dating after divorce.

Most men our age, with some exceptions, don’t look great.

I’ve dated many nice men in the late 30s early 40s range. They are lovely and still energetic. Have not seen any immature/ obnoxious behavior. If anything these men are more respectful of women than the Gen Xers I dated in my 20s. Their generation was raised with higher expectations in terms of being respectful and treating women like equals. It’s especially noticeable in bed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 47, and recently started dating again after a 24-year relationship. I'm shocked how old men my age look. I myself don't have wrinkles, saggy skin or gray hair. I'm fit and full of energy. But these guys, geez... I don't want to date them myself!

I hear you OP. I am 53 and about to be divorced. The last first date I went on was 25 years ago. When I look at 53 year old men it feels like I am looking at my father and I'm having a hard time with what any dating pool may look like. Of course, personality and character have always been more important to me and people's physical characteristics are enhanced by positive non-physical characteristics, but still....Regarding dating younger men, I could try and most people guess me at 40 or even late thirties and I feel like I'm a teenager, but once they find out my real age, why would someone younger want to date a 53 year old? It seems like men would want to date a younger woman, esp if they have not been married yet (so they can have kids). For me to be the younger woman, I would have to date someone in their 60s or 70s, and then I really would be looking at someone at a similar age to my father! I'm going to try and get out there but also feel like I missed the boat and will be single going forward.

To answer your question, younger men who don’t want kids or are not sure will often date older women. It takes the pressure off. I am OPs age and dating in that general pool until I meet a longterm partner. I am told I look young for my age though. Many women in their early 30s assumed I am their age and am shocked to find otherwise. I got asked if I was a college student the other day… granted this was by an elderly person, but it’s true that when I was in my 30s everyone assumed I was in my 20s.

There are some guys in their late 40s and 50s who look ok but they are the exception and not the rule.

[Anonymous]

Here is a translation of this post into the truth:

I am turning 53 next week and look every bit of it. Maybe even older.

Some hard up 40-year-man is banging me when he can stand it. We can only do it doggie-style or reverse cowgirl because otherwise, he has to look at my face, which makes it a rough ride.

OP here. Wow, you are disgruntled.

I promise you that my 40 year old man is not hard up. He is a firefighter who is in the local firefighter calendar. For real. We are having the best sex, and he loves seeing all of me. I am fit and fun.

PP here. Wow, you are delusional.

You promising me that your 40-year-old firefighter/calendar model is real, much less "not hard up", does not make it any more likely.

When you post that you are "fun", do you mean that men at the firehouse slide down on you whenever the need arises?

[Anonymous]

I believe the woman. I got dumped by a woman like that and she's with a guy like that.

Dear Simp - please do not post drivel like this. It makes real men look bad by association.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I believe the woman. I got dumped by a woman like that and she's with a guy like that.

Dear Simp - please do not post drivel like this. It makes real men look bad by association.

I'm a real man, fool.

I've dated women much younger, my age, and several years older. Attractive, interesting people of all ages have many choices. Unfortunately for me, I was attractive enough to start a relationship with a hot, smart, athletic woman like the woman dating the firefighter but I wasn't able to keep her. She is was almost ten years younger than me and the firefighter (not his real job) was almost ten years younger than her.

The same thing has happened in the other direction. I've been in relationships with women in their mid 50s who were still attractive and still sexual. They were great in bed, and they were interesting and smart and fun, but I lost interest after a few months. I prefer someone younger who is also interesting and smart and fun.

[Anonymous]

This woman dating the firefighter posts regularly and I believe she's real. I know a few women in their 50s who look very young but no men who are their equivalent. Don't get me wrong. There are good looking men this age but they just don't look like they are 10-15 years younger.

Women age differently. They have less chronic disease and there are a lucky few who have good genes and good habits

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This woman dating the firefighter posts regularly and I believe she's real. I know a few women in their 50s who look very young but no men who are their equivalent. Don't get me wrong. There are good looking men this age but they just don't look like they are 10-15 years younger.

Women age differently. They have less chronic disease and there are a lucky few who have good genes and good habits

I am the OP. Thanks for believing me! I have only posted once on here about the fireman and I was called a troll. It’s been over a year of seeing him now.

[Anonymous]

Its already impossible to schedule a skin screening at any dermatologist in the DC area, now you all want men getting lipo as well?

[Anonymous]

I'm a real man, fool.

No. You are a simp.

You posted two long paragraphs trying to explain why you are not a simp. However, try as you might, you remain what you are.

Now, spare us from reading more of your sad dating history and STFU.

[Anonymous]

I am the OP. Thanks for believing me! I have only posted once on here about the fireman and I was called a troll. It’s been over a year of seeing him now.

Let's try using an example since you are having trouble picking this up.

Think about a 53-year-old man posting that he was: 1) fit and fun, 2) dating a 25-year-old model/influencer, and 3) finding that age-appropriate women looked too old for him to find attractive.

This example is point-for-point the same as yours. And equally as unlikely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I am turning 53 next week and I look 40 I am seeing a 40 year old man at the moment.

Here is a translation of this post into the truth:

I am turning 53 next week and look every bit of it. Maybe even older.

Some hard up 40-year-man is banging me when he can stand it. We can only do it doggie-style or reverse cowgirl because otherwise, he has to look at my face, which makes it a rough ride.

OP here. Wow, you are disgruntled.

I promise you that my 40 year old man is not hard up. He is a firefighter who is in the local firefighter calendar. For real. We are having the best sex, and he loves seeing all of me. I am fit and fun.

LOL. Firefighters are literally known for dating trash.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This woman dating the firefighter posts regularly and I believe she's real. I know a few women in their 50s who look very young but no men who are their equivalent. Don't get me wrong. There are good looking men this age but they just don't look like they are 10-15 years younger.

Women age differently. They have less chronic disease and there are a lucky few who have good genes and good habits

I have a friend like this in real life. I highly doubt she is on dcum as she is not a parent and lives in a different metro area.

She is late forties and divorced with no kids. She has slept with a few super hot men and now she seems to think she is too good for everyone. I’m not sure if it is insecurity or she actually thinks she is too attractive or not attracted to men her own age. I understand she doesn’t want to settle. She seems to not realize she is 48, pushing 50 and while she looks good for her age, she is still almost 50. She often puts down men’s looks and style. So the guy has to be successful, good looking, tall, smart and of course adore her. She will have these flings or one night stands and then pass up decent age appropriate men saying they look old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This woman dating the firefighter posts regularly and I believe she's real. I know a few women in their 50s who look very young but no men who are their equivalent. Don't get me wrong. There are good looking men this age but they just don't look like they are 10-15 years younger.

Women age differently. They have less chronic disease and there are a lucky few who have good genes and good habits

I have a friend like this in real life. I highly doubt she is on dcum as she is not a parent and lives in a different metro area.

She is late forties and divorced with no kids. She has slept with a few super hot men and now she seems to think she is too good for everyone. I’m not sure if it is insecurity or she actually thinks she is too attractive or not attracted to men her own age. I understand she doesn’t want to settle. She seems to not realize she is 48, pushing 50 and while she looks good for her age, she is still almost 50. She often puts down men’s looks and style. So the guy has to be successful, good looking, tall, smart and of course adore her. She will have these flings or one night stands and then pass up decent age appropriate men saying they look old.

Sounds great. Where do I sign up?