Son's Birthday Sleepover

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:More likely that at least one of the dozen boys is going to wet the bed. You know they are all going to drink copious amounts of soda. Best of luck to you.

Yeah, you might want to give them a reminder that they should use the bathroom before lights out. You might think at this point they wouldn’t need reminding but they probably still do.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I grew up in an area where hunting was common as were shooting sports.

30-40 % of American households have guns. Your kids have been in houses with guns - you should be talking about safety with them.

It depends on what state you live in and larger gun ownership correlates with accidental shootings.

It’s no surprise that Southern red states with lax gun control have the most accidental shootings, domestic violence shootings and suicide shootings. Northeastern states have very few to almost no accidental shootings in the home. Virginia and Maryland are in the middle.

I don’t trust hunters who live in suburban areas. Those locked guns are not for protection against intruders. Hunters are always blabbering how their 8 year old knows all about gun safety, old enough to shoot. Not true.

I see we have entered the phase of the discussion where people are just straight up lying.

https://everytownresearch.org/graph/rates-of-unintentional-shootings-by-children-by-state-vary-enormously-2015-2024/

Did you mean to post data that proves me right?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I grew up in an area where hunting was common as were shooting sports.

30-40 % of American households have guns. Your kids have been in houses with guns - you should be talking about safety with them.

It depends on what state you live in and larger gun ownership correlates with accidental shootings.

It’s no surprise that Southern red states with lax gun control have the most accidental shootings, domestic violence shootings and suicide shootings. Northeastern states have very few to almost no accidental shootings in the home. Virginia and Maryland are in the middle.

I don’t trust hunters who live in suburban areas. Those locked guns are not for protection against intruders. Hunters are always blabbering how their 8 year old knows all about gun safety, old enough to shoot. Not true.

I see we have entered the phase of the discussion where people are just straight up lying.

https://everytownresearch.org/graph/rates-of-unintentional-shootings-by-children-by-state-vary-enormously-2015-2024/

Did you mean to post data that proves me right?

I didn't post this, but Rhode Island is the only one with zero and DC is above the national average.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Genuine question: your DH seems to agree with the mom that gun safety is important, since he thinks only an idiot would leave them around unsecured. How would he feel is an appropriate way for another parent to ask the question about gun safety in your home? Or if he thinks it’s never appropriate to ask, how does he determine whether someone else’s house is safe for your child? (If not guns, then something else that would concern him.)

Do you ask everyone if they wash their hands after pooping?

Is this response from the OP or what OP’s DH said? Does this mean there is no respectful way (in your opinion) to broach this topic? I am genuinely asking how responsible gun owners assess this about others or how they would prefer to be asked about this.

To answer the question: usually other people not washing hands doesn’t harm me. In cases where it may, like in a restaurant, that is something assessed by health inspectors, and I do look around in restaurants at general hygiene. But individuals are not businesses so I understand the approach may need to be different.

[Anonymous]

It is normal for a parent to ask if their child is going to a safe home. The fact that OP’s DH is so defensive makes me wonder what they are hiding.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, the worst thing is: you can't even imagine -the why- of someone asking this

But there is no why. The guns are stored safely. End of story.

The mom is just some left wing loonie that wants to politicize everything. I feel bad for her kid. He's going to miss a party and end up on the outside of this friend group.

No, it does not sound safe at all.

[Anonymous]

It wouldn’t occur to me to ask this of a random family, but I would if my kid had previously said something about the other kid to indicate they may have guns. OP’s DH may be discreet about his guns, but kids that age share a lot with friends.

I wonder if OP’s son maybe said something at school (even something innocuous like “I went hunting with my dad this weekend” or “I’m not allowed to go in X room because my dad keeps his guns there”) which got the other mom to think about it. Whatever answer you give, it should be one you’re comfortable giving to every other mom, because this is the kind of info that gets out. Even if the other mom doesn’t gossip, it’s very possible the info will transmit through the kids. And a combination of “kid talks about having guns at home” + “parents refuse to say anything about gun safety protocols” or lie about their existence would make a lot of parents nervous.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, the worst thing is: you can't even imagine -the why- of someone asking this

But there is no why. The guns are stored safely. End of story.

The mom is just some left wing loonie that wants to politicize everything. I feel bad for her kid. He's going to miss a party and end up on the outside of this friend group.

Why are gun nutters so defensive? If the guns are stored safely just say so. OP’s family sound irresponsible.

[Anonymous]

Once kids get to the age of playdates or parties without their parents, these kinds of questions will be asked. People will ask about alcohol and if a parent will be present in the home the entire time during the event. The more kids, the more likelihood of trouble. I realize you trust YOUR child not to touch X, but the other kids will not be as thoughtful. If you are asleep, kids can sneak out of the house or grab some beers from the basement frig. I am sorry the OP is taking offense, but the parent is asking from a safety standpoint.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, the worst thing is: you can't even imagine -the why- of someone asking this

But there is no why. The guns are stored safely. End of story.

The mom is just some left wing loonie that wants to politicize everything. I feel bad for her kid. He's going to miss a party and end up on the outside of this friend group.

Why are gun nutters so defensive? If the guns are stored safely just say so. OP’s family sound irresponsible.

Personally? I think it's to spread talk to others about the OP having guns. That's why I wouldn't respond. For some people, they exist to stir the pot.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, the worst thing is: you can't even imagine -the why- of someone asking this

But there is no why. The guns are stored safely. End of story.

The mom is just some left wing loonie that wants to politicize everything. I feel bad for her kid. He's going to miss a party and end up on the outside of this friend group.

Why are gun nutters so defensive? If the guns are stored safely just say so. OP’s family sound irresponsible.

Personally? I think it's to spread talk to others about the OP having guns. That's why I wouldn't respond. For some people, they exist to stir the pot.

Yeah, I hate guns and don't have any but this question would bother me. I'm a single woman so I don't want anyone to know whether I have a gun or not.

[Anonymous]

After more than one bad experience with aggressive dogs being brought around my kids, I would never judge this.

On the other hand, I would not tell a stranger information about my household guns.

This is one of many reasons we are no sleep over.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I grew up in an area where hunting was common as were shooting sports.

30-40 % of American households have guns. Your kids have been in houses with guns - you should be talking about safety with them.

It depends on what state you live in and larger gun ownership correlates with accidental shootings.

It’s no surprise that Southern red states with lax gun control have the most accidental shootings, domestic violence shootings and suicide shootings. Northeastern states have very few to almost no accidental shootings in the home. Virginia and Maryland are in the middle.

I don’t trust hunters who live in suburban areas. Those locked guns are not for protection against intruders. Hunters are always blabbering how their 8 year old knows all about gun safety, old enough to shoot. Not true.

Definitely don't google the mass noncompliance of NY safe act. :O

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, the worst thing is: you can't even imagine -the why- of someone asking this

But there is no why. The guns are stored safely. End of story.

The mom is just some left wing loonie that wants to politicize everything. I feel bad for her kid. He's going to miss a party and end up on the outside of this friend group.

Why are gun nutters so defensive? If the guns are stored safely just say so. OP’s family sound irresponsible.

Guns are a commonly stolen item in burglaries.

I had my house broken into and all the couch cushions were pulled off. They were looking for guns. Gangsters stash loaded guns in the couch for easy access.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, the worst thing is: you can't even imagine -the why- of someone asking this

But there is no why. The guns are stored safely. End of story.

The mom is just some left wing loonie that wants to politicize everything. I feel bad for her kid. He's going to miss a party and end up on the outside of this friend group.

Why are gun nutters so defensive? If the guns are stored safely just say so. OP’s family sound irresponsible.

Guns are a commonly stolen item in burglaries.

I had my house broken into and all the couch cushions were pulled off. They were looking for guns. Gangsters stash loaded guns in the couch for easy access.

Impressive theories.