Son's Birthday Sleepover

[Anonymous]

It’s a valid question from a responsible parent. You can let them know you are not comfortable discussing it,

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a very valid question to ask, and I don't understand why you wouldn't disclose what you said here about how they're stored.

Do you tell the parents of your kid's friends how all of your jewelry is stored and what the value is?

No one is asking how much OP's guns are worth.

And I really doubt my jewelry has the potential to harm or injure anyone

[Anonymous]

Genuine question: your DH seems to agree with the mom that gun safety is important, since he thinks only an idiot would leave them around unsecured. How would he feel is an appropriate way for another parent to ask the question about gun safety in your home? Or if he thinks it’s never appropriate to ask, how does he determine whether someone else’s house is safe for your child? (If not guns, then something else that would concern him.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a very valid question to ask, and I don't understand why you wouldn't disclose what you said here about how they're stored.

Do you tell the parents of your kid's friends how all of your jewelry is stored and what the value is?

Your response makes no sense at all. Does jewelry kill children?

The husband sounds like a real maga. If you don’t respond she’ll assume you’re gun people so either way it won’t matter. Too many kids accidentally killed in gun owners homes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I grew up in an area where hunting was common as were shooting sports.

30-40 % of American households have guns. Your kids have been in houses with guns - you should be talking about safety with them.

It depends on what state you live in and larger gun ownership correlates with accidental shootings.

It’s no surprise that Southern red states with lax gun control have the most accidental shootings, domestic violence shootings and suicide shootings. Northeastern states have very few to almost no accidental shootings in the home. Virginia and Maryland are in the middle.

I don’t trust hunters who live in suburban areas. Those locked guns are not for protection against intruders. Hunters are always blabbering how their 8 year old knows all about gun safety, old enough to shoot. Not true.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think it’s a ridiculous question to ask. Honestly, if you tell the truth or you refuse to answer the question, this kid probably won’t be attending the party. It’s the parent’s decision. By the way, 12 boys at a sleepover? Good luck.

[Anonymous]

I feel like people who are not responsible will just lie if asked. No one says .. Oh yeah we have several but junior would never touch them. He knows they are only for killing bad guys

[Anonymous]

Now I’m reading back, are the boys going to be sleeping in the basement? Is your gun safe in the basement locked via code or key? Is there a chance 13 boys would rile each other up to try and guess the code? Is your separately kept ammunition actually locked up separately or do you have it somewhere around the house unlocked?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son turns 9 next weekend and he invited a dozen friends to have a sleep over. One of the kid's parents replied to the emial invite with:

"Unfortunately, Jeremy is unable to attend unless you share whether you own guns and how they are stored."

My DH does own guns (several actually) as he is ex military and grew up hunting. They are all stored unloaded in a safe in the basemnet and separate from any ammunition, with the exception of a handgun he keeps loaded in our bedroom. He has that in biometric small safe in his nightstand.

He wants me to reply to the mom along the lines of "No, we have no guns in our home." Or more aggresively "That is none of your business. Jeremy is welcome to skip the party if he likes."

I agree that it is none of her business but I don't want to have conflict.

Help me solve this.

It’s not none of her business. Are you really that dim? You are the epitome of irresponsible gun owners. The mom is right to be concerned.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, the worst thing is: you can't even imagine -the why- of someone asking this

But there is no why. The guns are stored safely. End of story.

The mom is just some left wing loonie that wants to politicize everything. I feel bad for her kid. He's going to miss a party and end up on the outside of this friend group.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Genuine question: your DH seems to agree with the mom that gun safety is important, since he thinks only an idiot would leave them around unsecured. How would he feel is an appropriate way for another parent to ask the question about gun safety in your home? Or if he thinks it’s never appropriate to ask, how does he determine whether someone else’s house is safe for your child? (If not guns, then something else that would concern him.)

Do you ask everyone if they wash their hands after pooping?

[Anonymous]

"Yes, we own guns. I assure you that we are responsible gun owners who take gun safety very seriously, and your child will be safe in our home. The guns are safely and properly stored, their access being wholly restricted to adults in the household who are properly trained to use, handle, and store weapons."

Expect her to decline the invitation. If she asks for more detailed information, tell her that you are uncomfortable sharing more detailed information for safety reasons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I grew up in an area where hunting was common as were shooting sports.

30-40 % of American households have guns. Your kids have been in houses with guns - you should be talking about safety with them.

It depends on what state you live in and larger gun ownership correlates with accidental shootings.

It’s no surprise that Southern red states with lax gun control have the most accidental shootings, domestic violence shootings and suicide shootings. Northeastern states have very few to almost no accidental shootings in the home. Virginia and Maryland are in the middle.

I don’t trust hunters who live in suburban areas. Those locked guns are not for protection against intruders. Hunters are always blabbering how their 8 year old knows all about gun safety, old enough to shoot. Not true.

I see we have entered the phase of the discussion where people are just straight up lying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is 100 percent her business. Improperly stored firearms + 13 preteen boys overnight = potential for disaster.

Why not just tell her that you do own guns and that they are stored unloaded in a locked safe, separate from ammunition, or in a biometric safe?

Plus 1

Yes, it IS her business!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I grew up in an area where hunting was common as were shooting sports.

30-40 % of American households have guns. Your kids have been in houses with guns - you should be talking about safety with them.

It depends on what state you live in and larger gun ownership correlates with accidental shootings.

It’s no surprise that Southern red states with lax gun control have the most accidental shootings, domestic violence shootings and suicide shootings. Northeastern states have very few to almost no accidental shootings in the home. Virginia and Maryland are in the middle.

I don’t trust hunters who live in suburban areas. Those locked guns are not for protection against intruders. Hunters are always blabbering how their 8 year old knows all about gun safety, old enough to shoot. Not true.

I see we have entered the phase of the discussion where people are just straight up lying.

https://everytownresearch.org/graph/rates-of-unintentional-shootings-by-children-by-state-vary-enormously-2015-2024/