Son's Birthday Sleepover

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t respond. It’s none of her business. I would absolutely not divulge information on if we have guns, how many, how/where they are stored. When you send a child to someone’s house you are trusting they are a responsible parent and that anything that could be extremely dangerous is stored, handled, secured appropriately.

If they respond like OP to what is a very reasonable question, I’d assume they are not responsible parents, and I wouldn’t trust them. Some people actually think that telling kids to stay away from their loaded, unsecured guns is effective and safe. Unless you tell me otherwise, I’m going to assume you’re that kind of irresponsible, and I’m not sending the most precious thing in my life to your house.

I don’t think it’s a reasonable question. Either you trust the parents and find them to have sound and safe judgment, or you don’t. If someone did own guns that they keep loaded, unlocked, and accessible to children- they are absolutely not going to actually tell you that.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The crazy thing about this is that OP is only locking up the guns because they are valuable. Not because they are dangerous and deadly.

Where did they post that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t respond. It’s none of her business. I would absolutely not divulge information on if we have guns, how many, how/where they are stored. When you send a child to someone’s house you are trusting they are a responsible parent and that anything that could be extremely dangerous is stored, handled, secured appropriately.

If they respond like OP to what is a very reasonable question, I’d assume they are not responsible parents, and I wouldn’t trust them. Some people actually think that telling kids to stay away from their loaded, unsecured guns is effective and safe. Unless you tell me otherwise, I’m going to assume you’re that kind of irresponsible, and I’m not sending the most precious thing in my life to your house.

I don’t think it’s a reasonable question. Either you trust the parents and find them to have sound and safe judgment, or you don’t. If someone did own guns that they keep loaded, unlocked, and accessible to children- they are absolutely not going to actually tell you that.

I’m sorry. How do you trust people and their judgement without talking to them and asking questions about how they handle potentially deadly situations?

I’d love to be besties with all my son’s friends parents, but it’s just not possible. And even the ones I am friendly with, I don’t ask questions about they order their home unless it’s relevant to me, such as I’m sending my kid there for enough time to get up to no good. Maybe I was just raised to be polite and not talk about religion or politics at a baseball game.

[Anonymous]

I'm a teacher. In the past 26 years I have lost 3 students to suicide from their parents own guns. I'm sure they thought they were safely locked up as well. Just saying.

[Anonymous]

It's pretty clear that your own child has told "Jeremy" that you have guns and he told his mom. She would be pretty irresponsible not to follow up on this information if her kid is going to be at your house. She loves her kid, just like you love yours and she would never forgive herself if she didn't at least ask. Pretty simple. Good grief.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's pretty clear that your own child has told "Jeremy" that you have guns and he told his mom. She would be pretty irresponsible not to follow up on this information if her kid is going to be at your house. She loves her kid, just like you love yours and she would never forgive herself if she didn't at least ask. Pretty simple. Good grief.

+1. I also know which of my son’s good friends have guns, and which ones voted for Trump. I also know who has a million in the bank.

Your kids talk, people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t respond. It’s none of her business. I would absolutely not divulge information on if we have guns, how many, how/where they are stored. When you send a child to someone’s house you are trusting they are a responsible parent and that anything that could be extremely dangerous is stored, handled, secured appropriately.

If they respond like OP to what is a very reasonable question, I’d assume they are not responsible parents, and I wouldn’t trust them. Some people actually think that telling kids to stay away from their loaded, unsecured guns is effective and safe. Unless you tell me otherwise, I’m going to assume you’re that kind of irresponsible, and I’m not sending the most precious thing in my life to your house.

I don’t think it’s a reasonable question. Either you trust the parents and find them to have sound and safe judgment, or you don’t. If someone did own guns that they keep loaded, unlocked, and accessible to children- they are absolutely not going to actually tell you that.

I’m sorry. How do you trust people and their judgement without talking to them and asking questions about how they handle potentially deadly situations?

I’d love to be besties with all my son’s friends parents, but it’s just not possible. And even the ones I am friendly with, I don’t ask questions about they order their home unless it’s relevant to me, such as I’m sending my kid there for enough time to get up to no good. Maybe I was just raised to be polite and not talk about religion or politics at a baseball game.

In Maryland, it’s law for firearms to be secured in locked storage, unloaded, and seperate from ammo. Virginia has similar laws- but more vague in that they have to be inaccessible to children. So no- no parent that is illegally storing firearms is going to casually tell you so. Ask away but either you trust that they are doing the right thing or your don’t. Don’t send your kids over someone’s house that you’d suspect is dumb and careless enough to keep a loaded firearm where kids can get it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, well the party is tonight and we rescinded the invite to that family yesterday. Not ten minutes later another mom of one of the other boys called me and said that the other mom was bad mouthing us before we even pulled back the invite. She said the lady said she wasn't going to send her kid anyway because she figured we were 'conservative'.

Oh well, guess her son will always have his mother meddling in his friendships.

The fact that you rescinded an invitation because you are so sensitive about a question re: guns makes it clear you feel some sort of shame or negativity around your gun ownership. It's a hit dog hollering situation. If you felt confident and proud in your gun ownership, you wouldn't have an issue with just honestly and clearly answering the question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here, well the party is tonight and we rescinded the invite to that family yesterday. Not ten minutes later another mom of one of the other boys called me and said that the other mom was bad mouthing us before we even pulled back the invite. She said the lady said she wasn't going to send her kid anyway because she figured we were 'conservative'.

Oh well, guess her son will always have his mother meddling in his friendships.

The fact that you rescinded an invitation because you are so sensitive about a question re: guns makes it clear you feel some sort of shame or negativity around your gun ownership. It's a hit dog hollering situation. If you felt confident and proud in your gun ownership, you wouldn't have an issue with just honestly and clearly answering the question.

Not at all. It's not the lady's business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here, well the party is tonight and we rescinded the invite to that family yesterday. Not ten minutes later another mom of one of the other boys called me and said that the other mom was bad mouthing us before we even pulled back the invite. She said the lady said she wasn't going to send her kid anyway because she figured we were 'conservative'.

Oh well, guess her son will always have his mother meddling in his friendships.

The fact that you rescinded an invitation because you are so sensitive about a question re: guns makes it clear you feel some sort of shame or negativity around your gun ownership. It's a hit dog hollering situation. If you felt confident and proud in your gun ownership, you wouldn't have an issue with just honestly and clearly answering the question.

Not at all. It's not the lady's business.

It is absolutely her business if she is sending her kid to a house where guns are stored improperly. Come on people. I’m pro 2A but this is insane.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t respond. It’s none of her business. I would absolutely not divulge information on if we have guns, how many, how/where they are stored. When you send a child to someone’s house you are trusting they are a responsible parent and that anything that could be extremely dangerous is stored, handled, secured appropriately.

If they respond like OP to what is a very reasonable question, I’d assume they are not responsible parents, and I wouldn’t trust them. Some people actually think that telling kids to stay away from their loaded, unsecured guns is effective and safe. Unless you tell me otherwise, I’m going to assume you’re that kind of irresponsible, and I’m not sending the most precious thing in my life to your house.

I don’t think it’s a reasonable question. Either you trust the parents and find them to have sound and safe judgment, or you don’t. If someone did own guns that they keep loaded, unlocked, and accessible to children- they are absolutely not going to actually tell you that.

I’m sorry. How do you trust people and their judgement without talking to them and asking questions about how they handle potentially deadly situations?

I’d love to be besties with all my son’s friends parents, but it’s just not possible. And even the ones I am friendly with, I don’t ask questions about they order their home unless it’s relevant to me, such as I’m sending my kid there for enough time to get up to no good. Maybe I was just raised to be polite and not talk about religion or politics at a baseball game.

In Maryland, it’s law for firearms to be secured in locked storage, unloaded, and seperate from ammo. Virginia has similar laws- but more vague in that they have to be inaccessible to children. So no- no parent that is illegally storing firearms is going to casually tell you so. Ask away but either you trust that they are doing the right thing or your don’t. Don’t send your kids over someone’s house that you’d suspect is dumb and careless enough to keep a loaded firearm where kids can get it.

Oh? But they are. I’ve had plenty of folks tell me about how they tell their kids not to touch daddy’s guns and they just know their kids are going to listen because they’ll get whooped otherwise. You know, instead of making it so the kids CAN’T touch daddy’s guns.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here, well the party is tonight and we rescinded the invite to that family yesterday. Not ten minutes later another mom of one of the other boys called me and said that the other mom was bad mouthing us before we even pulled back the invite. She said the lady said she wasn't going to send her kid anyway because she figured we were 'conservative'.

Oh well, guess her son will always have his mother meddling in his friendships.

The fact that you rescinded an invitation because you are so sensitive about a question re: guns makes it clear you feel some sort of shame or negativity around your gun ownership. It's a hit dog hollering situation. If you felt confident and proud in your gun ownership, you wouldn't have an issue with just honestly and clearly answering the question.

Not at all. It's not the lady's business.

It is absolutely her business if she is sending her kid to a house where guns are stored improperly. Come on people. I’m pro 2A but this is insane.

Actually, no, it isn't. You have no right to know anything about the inside of anyone's home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here, well the party is tonight and we rescinded the invite to that family yesterday. Not ten minutes later another mom of one of the other boys called me and said that the other mom was bad mouthing us before we even pulled back the invite. She said the lady said she wasn't going to send her kid anyway because she figured we were 'conservative'.

Oh well, guess her son will always have his mother meddling in his friendships.

The fact that you rescinded an invitation because you are so sensitive about a question re: guns makes it clear you feel some sort of shame or negativity around your gun ownership. It's a hit dog hollering situation. If you felt confident and proud in your gun ownership, you wouldn't have an issue with just honestly and clearly answering the question.

Not at all. It's not the lady's business.

It is absolutely her business if she is sending her kid to a house where guns are stored improperly. Come on people. I’m pro 2A but this is insane.

Actually, no, it isn't. You have no right to know anything about the inside of anyone's home.

You do when your kids are invited to spend the night. Context matters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here, well the party is tonight and we rescinded the invite to that family yesterday. Not ten minutes later another mom of one of the other boys called me and said that the other mom was bad mouthing us before we even pulled back the invite. She said the lady said she wasn't going to send her kid anyway because she figured we were 'conservative'.

Oh well, guess her son will always have his mother meddling in his friendships.

The fact that you rescinded an invitation because you are so sensitive about a question re: guns makes it clear you feel some sort of shame or negativity around your gun ownership. It's a hit dog hollering situation. If you felt confident and proud in your gun ownership, you wouldn't have an issue with just honestly and clearly answering the question.

Not at all. It's not the lady's business.

It is absolutely her business if she is sending her kid to a house where guns are stored improperly. Come on people. I’m pro 2A but this is insane.

Actually, no, it isn't. You have no right to know anything about the inside of anyone's home.

You do when your kids are invited to spend the night. Context matters.

Nope. No one owes you answers as to what is in their house. If you suspect their house is unsafe don’t send your kids, but they aren’t obligated to answer specific questions about what they own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t respond. It’s none of her business. I would absolutely not divulge information on if we have guns, how many, how/where they are stored. When you send a child to someone’s house you are trusting they are a responsible parent and that anything that could be extremely dangerous is stored, handled, secured appropriately.

If they respond like OP to what is a very reasonable question, I’d assume they are not responsible parents, and I wouldn’t trust them. Some people actually think that telling kids to stay away from their loaded, unsecured guns is effective and safe. Unless you tell me otherwise, I’m going to assume you’re that kind of irresponsible, and I’m not sending the most precious thing in my life to your house.

I don’t think it’s a reasonable question. Either you trust the parents and find them to have sound and safe judgment, or you don’t. If someone did own guns that they keep loaded, unlocked, and accessible to children- they are absolutely not going to actually tell you that.

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I have asked this question and parents answered. One said they did and told me how it was stored. My kid went over there multiple times after. I guess I managed to sound nonjudgmental about it. They were not defensive at all in answering the question. Other parents I asked said they did not have any but also didn’t seem to mind the question.