Job insists we share pronouns

[Anonymous]

Here are my pronouns.

don’t/ask

Problem solved. If they fire you just sue them.

[Anonymous]

A lot of people at my job have names that don’t immediately identify them as a specific gender. So knowing the pronoun lets me know the gender.

Some of you are way way too worried about trans people.

[Anonymous]

My grandmother fought too hard for me not to have to identify myself as a female at work. It shouldn't matter. I certainly don't want to highlight it.

[Anonymous]

Since you work at a preschool just give your “pronoun” as “Ms.” The kids call the teachers Ms. Jenny, Miss Rachel, etc. anyway. If someone says that’s not a pronoun just say it is to you.

I think you can *encourage* people to share pronouns but you shouldn’t require it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just use "They".

I would never do this. It's bad grammar, if nothing else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A lot of people at my job have names that don’t immediately identify them as a specific gender. So knowing the pronoun lets me know the gender.

Some of you are way way too worried about trans people.

It has nothing to do with trans people. Not everything is about trans people. This scrutiny over a minuscule segment of the population needs to end. Also where did trans people say (and they are not monolith) that they want everyone to be required to do this thing?

I’m going to do my own thing here and it has zero to do with anyone else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:How can you not feel comfortable sharing your pronouns?? Let people know if you prefer to go by he/she/they. It’s really simple.

You assume the conclusion inside the question, that sharing pronouns is necessarily comfortable and simple for everyone. By asking How can you not feel comfortable, you dismiss the stated discomfort instead of addressing it. You are begging the question (circular reasoning). You presume what it should be proving, that sharing pronouns is comfortable and easy.

You also lean on a false assumption fallacy: just because something is “simple” for one person doesn’t mean it is universally simple or comfortable for all.

I would say that some people need to encounter real issues in life to get perspective on how silly the enforced pronoun drama is.

Yeah, if being asked to put he/him after your email block is really one of the most difficult or uncomfortable things going on in your life, then I wish I had your life.

I would say the people who need real problems are the ones pushing the pronoun nonsense.

It is like they are stuck in some university faux utopia mindset.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are your pronouns obvious? I don’t care if I have to write she/her. Anyone with eyes knows that these are my pronouns.

Some people choose to use "they" because they believe pronouns shouldn't be gendered. It has nothing to do with their own gender.

Some people failed grammar in high school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A lot of people at my job have names that don’t immediately identify them as a specific gender. So knowing the pronoun lets me know the gender.

Some of you are way way too worried about trans people.

Or...

Everyone can just use their eyes, ears and common sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My grandmother fought too hard for me not to have to identify myself as a female at work. It shouldn't matter. I certainly don't want to highlight it.

Ok, you just made everyone feel old because for most of us, it was our moms who fought for this.

[Anonymous]

I mean, you work in a preschool? So you’re teaching kids a lot of simple vocabulary? Words like he/her/his/him/they/them?

[Anonymous]

I just cannot understand how anyone is upset by this, unless they work in an environment where people truly don't know their sex/gender and they are trying to hide it. Like employees at a troll farm, I guess.

But for a preschool teacher -- is it some big secret? Don't you want people to address you properly? Just say she/her -- why does this cost you any mental energy?

I mean -- these aren't the hard questions like trans people playing volleyball or whatever. These are really easy -- tell people how they should address you! I use Ms. with my last name because I didn't take my husband's name, so Mrs. would be incorrect (and also the fact that I'm married feels irrelevant to my job) -- but if I wanted people to call me Mrs. or Dr. or whatever, I would expect to to tell them that. People are trying to be nice and respectful -- let's not discourage that, please!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My grandmother fought too hard for me not to have to identify myself as a female at work. It shouldn't matter. I certainly don't want to highlight it.

Ok, you just made everyone feel old because for most of us, it was our moms who fought for this.

My grandmother was one of the first female school principals (for a mixed gender school) in the country. And yet I don't think "not having to say that you're a woman and she/her is the right way to address you" was on her list. Not having the KKK demonstrating outside her classroom was. And not having the male moron classmate of hers promoted in front of her was. And not having people judge her for the fact that she's go out dancing with her friends on the weekend. And not having to quit her job when she got married.

[Anonymous]

I would quit because you are clearly surrounded by ideologues at this workplace. This is nothing more than a political purity test. In the old days you had to show your ballot to the union boss. Now it's this.
You disingenuous people know perfectly well that this person isn't "closeted". She rejects the entire premise. 99% of the time the kids know what the person is. If they're genuinely confused that someone is a lady with short hair they'll figure it out from context very quickly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just cannot understand how anyone is upset by this, unless they work in an environment where people truly don't know their sex/gender and they are trying to hide it. Like employees at a troll farm, I guess.

But for a preschool teacher -- is it some big secret? Don't you want people to address you properly? Just say she/her -- why does this cost you any mental energy?

I mean -- these aren't the hard questions like trans people playing volleyball or whatever. These are really easy -- tell people how they should address you! I use Ms. with my last name because I didn't take my husband's name, so Mrs. would be incorrect (and also the fact that I'm married feels irrelevant to my job) -- but if I wanted people to call me Mrs. or Dr. or whatever, I would expect to to tell them that. People are trying to be nice and respectful -- let's not discourage that, please!

Here’s the thing - I don’t care if anyone knows my sex/gender. I don’t care to add it. No one is calling me Mr or Ms Last Name. It’s irrelevant to my job. It’s not nice and respectful. It’s unnecessary.