Job insists we share pronouns

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The real solution is to say you prefer that people not use pronouns and use your full name all the time.

No, clearly it should demand that no one be referred to in pronouns and that only full names are ever used.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are your pronouns obvious? I don’t care if I have to write she/her. Anyone with eyes knows that these are my pronouns.

Some people choose to use "they" because they believe pronouns shouldn't be gendered. It has nothing to do with their own gender.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are your pronouns obvious? I don’t care if I have to write she/her. Anyone with eyes knows that these are my pronouns.

Some people choose to use "they" because they believe pronouns shouldn't be gendered. It has nothing to do with their own gender.

Some people have no preference. Why should they have to state any? Just stop using pronouns.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's dumb for me to have to share them if I don't want.
I say I'm doing it in solidarity of people who are not ready to share, but if forced to share they would be writing down something that feels inauthentic.
I'm not totally lying, and it stops ppl from asking me about it.

I really don't understand what this means.

Bob feels like a they.
Bob is not ready to say to the world.
If we all have to write our pronouns, Bob either tells the world before he is ready or writes "he/him" in a way that feels hurtful to him.
By refusing to right "Suzy she/her" I am standing in solidarity with Bob.

This.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My kids like knowing how other people want to be addressed.

Kids are honest and have eyes.

The pronoun fols are the ones complicating things for children.

Actually, kids are often unsure which is why for generations teachers have been specific about what gender markers kids should use. “Hello, my name is Larla Jones. You may call me Ms. Jones.” Is just another way to teach the kids what gender to refer to you as.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is the problem that your appearance doesn’t match your pronouns, or is it that you object to people discussing “pronouns” in the first place?

This! I don’t object to it and I will gladly call people by the pronouns they prefer I just don’t think we have to display it - I think it should be a choice.

Being up-front about it makes it easier for other people to know what to use.

What you are saying is a red herring. The original point was that someone did not want to have to say their pronouns. You shifted it to the convenience of others by saying that being upfront makes it easier for people to know what to use. That does not answer the concern. It is also an appeal to consequences because you are trying to justify the action based on the outcome it produces rather than addressing why the person may not want to do it in the first place.

Is this a dry run for debate class?

[Anonymous]

I would love to see us get to the point where the default is they/them unless someone asks for something different. So, people can declare if specific pronouns are important to them, and if not that’s the default, rather than having the default be people trying to speculate and guess.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How can you not feel comfortable sharing your pronouns?? Let people know if you prefer to go by he/she/they. It’s really simple.

Sharing pronouns is ridiculous and performative.

It insults the intelligence of everyone around you and forces everyone else to play along with nonsense.

I don't understand. If you don't like the "new" pronouns, you can just reference the traditional ones.

What you wrote is illogical because it assumes the issue is simply about not liking certain pronouns. The person’s point was that they do not want to have to state their pronouns at all. By framing it as a matter of choosing between new or traditional pronouns, you are creating a false dichotomy that reduces the situation to two options and ignores the actual concern. It also sidesteps the original point, which makes your response a red herring.

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[Anonymous]

I just didn’t do it, OP. I created my signature box and left it off entirely. No one has said anything about it to me and I doubt they will.
FWIW I will call anyone whatever they want to be called with respect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The real problem is that when the enlightened higher ups require this sort of thing and force people to pretend they don’t resent it, you are incubating future trump voters and actually diluting genuine lgbt support.

The right thing is to allow and support anyone who wants to share pronouns, but not make it a power play.

Yes!

I don't want to include mine on my email signature, conference badge, etc. I don't need to highlight my gender at work.

Will always call people whatever they specify though.

[Anonymous]

When asked for my pronouns, I say, me/mine. Pronouns are dumb. I feel that rather than change gender, surely it is easier to change the mind. The vast majority of people are born in the right body. A lot of this is mass hysteria. Most transgender people are simply autistic. If someone really feels that they were not born in the right body, let them put up their pronouns or dress so it is obvious but don't make the rest of us jump through hoops.

[Anonymous]

My previous job encouraged us to state our pronouns. I ignored it as it is not an issue for me. It was fine.

[Anonymous]

No thanks. You should find another job if they insist.

The correct pronouns should be obvious to anyone.

[Anonymous]

Gross

[Anonymous]

Do preschool students even know what a "pronoun" is? Or a noun, for that matter?