Job insists we share pronouns

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is the problem that your appearance doesn’t match your pronouns, or is it that you object to people discussing “pronouns” in the first place?

This! I don’t object to it and I will gladly call people by the pronouns they prefer I just don’t think we have to display it - I think it should be a choice.

Being up-front about it makes it easier for other people to know what to use.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it's dumb for me to have to share them if I don't want.
I say I'm doing it in solidarity of people who are not ready to share, but if forced to share they would be writing down something that feels inauthentic.
I'm not totally lying, and it stops ppl from asking me about it.

I really don't understand what this means.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t feel comfortable doing this. I teach at a preschool. Can they make me share pronouns so they can display on a board for all to see?

Or what? Tell them to pound sand

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t feel comfortable doing this. I teach at a preschool. Can they make me share pronouns so they can display on a board for all to see?

I'd tell them to put "it" down for my pronoun

[Anonymous]

My kids like knowing how other people want to be addressed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's dumb for me to have to share them if I don't want.
I say I'm doing it in solidarity of people who are not ready to share, but if forced to share they would be writing down something that feels inauthentic.
I'm not totally lying, and it stops ppl from asking me about it.

I really don't understand what this means.

Bob feels like a they.
Bob is not ready to say to the world.
If we all have to write our pronouns, Bob either tells the world before he is ready or writes "he/him" in a way that feels hurtful to him.
By refusing to right "Suzy she/her" I am standing in solidarity with Bob.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is the problem that your appearance doesn’t match your pronouns, or is it that you object to people discussing “pronouns” in the first place?

This! I don’t object to it and I will gladly call people by the pronouns they prefer I just don’t think we have to display it - I think it should be a choice.

Being up-front about it makes it easier for other people to know what to use.

What you are saying is a red herring. The original point was that someone did not want to have to say their pronouns. You shifted it to the convenience of others by saying that being upfront makes it easier for people to know what to use. That does not answer the concern. It is also an appeal to consequences because you are trying to justify the action based on the outcome it produces rather than addressing why the person may not want to do it in the first place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t feel comfortable doing this. I teach at a preschool. Can they make me share pronouns so they can display on a board for all to see?

I don't understand- how could you be embarrassed by or uncomfortable with whatever pronouns you prefer? If they make you uncomfortable, pick something else.

What you wrote is illogical because it assumes the person’s discomfort is invalid. By saying you do not understand how someone could be embarrassed or uncomfortable, you dismiss what they already stated as their experience. That is begging the question because you are presuming pronouns cannot cause discomfort when that is exactly what was raised. Telling them to “pick something else” is also a false solution because it sidesteps the original concern rather than addressing it.

[Anonymous]

Do you not know what you call yourself OP? Or do trolls not ever use any pronouns?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's dumb for me to have to share them if I don't want.
I say I'm doing it in solidarity of people who are not ready to share, but if forced to share they would be writing down something that feels inauthentic.
I'm not totally lying, and it stops ppl from asking me about it.

I really don't understand what this means.

Bob feels like a they.
Bob is not ready to say to the world.
If we all have to write our pronouns, Bob either tells the world before he is ready or writes "he/him" in a way that feels hurtful to him.
By refusing to right "Suzy she/her" I am standing in solidarity with Bob.

That makes no sense.

So, how do people refer to Bob while he figures it out? Is nobody allowed to talk to him? Because if there’s a pronoun for that, I want it! (Especially at work 😉)

[Anonymous]

If you are a teacher, what do your students call you? Mrs., Ms., Mr., Mx., or something else?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are a teacher, what do your students call you? Mrs., Ms., Mr., Mx., or something else?

Exactly. This is why the pronouns are not needed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's dumb for me to have to share them if I don't want.
I say I'm doing it in solidarity of people who are not ready to share, but if forced to share they would be writing down something that feels inauthentic.
I'm not totally lying, and it stops ppl from asking me about it.

I really don't understand what this means.

Bob feels like a they.
Bob is not ready to say to the world.
If we all have to write our pronouns, Bob either tells the world before he is ready or writes "he/him" in a way that feels hurtful to him.
By refusing to right "Suzy she/her" I am standing in solidarity with Bob.

That makes no sense.

So, how do people refer to Bob while he figures it out? Is nobody allowed to talk to him? Because if there’s a pronoun for that, I want it! (Especially at work 😉)

They will use the pronoun for what he is, the practice for all of human history.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's dumb for me to have to share them if I don't want.
I say I'm doing it in solidarity of people who are not ready to share, but if forced to share they would be writing down something that feels inauthentic.
I'm not totally lying, and it stops ppl from asking me about it.

I really don't understand what this means.

Bob feels like a they.
Bob is not ready to say to the world.
If we all have to write our pronouns, Bob either tells the world before he is ready or writes "he/him" in a way that feels hurtful to him.
By refusing to right "Suzy she/her" I am standing in solidarity with Bob.

That makes no sense.

So, how do people refer to Bob while he figures it out? Is nobody allowed to talk to him? Because if there’s a pronoun for that, I want it! (Especially at work 😉)

I mean, I kind of get it... I think the idea is that some might feel differently about just passively going along with others assuming the typical he/she pronouns versus having to explicitly and actively either confirm them or select others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you are a teacher, what do your students call you? Mrs., Ms., Mr., Mx., or something else?

Exactly. This is why the pronouns are not needed.

NP. This is a great point. And now the OP seems much more like a troll.