Is dating just a means to an end for 50+ men?

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Anonymous wrote:Married man over 50 here:

While I’m not dating and not in the market, I’ve talked about what I would do if (god forbid) something happened to DW.

First of all, there’s no second marriage. Period. I want to hang out and have fun, which includes sex. If you don’t want those things or you do want to get married, I’m not for you.

Also, a PP is right. Where women had the advantage in their late teens and 20’s, that dynamic slowly shifts in the opposite direction over time and age. While the other PP who says older women are juggling 5 men on the apps may be right about some, I know that’s not universally true.

The endgame isn’t necessarily sex on the first date, but men in their 50’s have greater agency in their choices.

I’m a 48 y.o. woman, have been on a dating app for about 10 days. After removing the age requirements, I received a lot of likes from the young guys, as young as 19! Today I’m going out with a very athletic and enthusiastic 29 y.o. man, an engineer. Who cares about men in their 50s if they can date someone young.

Enjoy being pumped and dumped.

It appears though that financially sound divorced men over 50 are also just looking for sex. So it’s better to be pumped and dumped by younger men - no point for a woman to date older

It is vastly more likely that an over 50 man is looking for a LTR with an over 50 woman than that a 19-29 year old man is looking for an LTR with an over 50 woman.

Obviously, I date men my age or slightly older for LTR/marriage. But if a senior citizen male tells me he’ll never remarry, I’m out in a a few seconds !

I was just responding to the dude above who said he only looked for casual. He needs to get used to pay for younger sugar babies for that, of dare not so attractive/fat 50+ women. Good looking women have a string of younger lovers

Would you even want a relationship with a senior citizen male? You could still enjoy their company without legal and family entanglements if you liked them. The risk of them getting sick and needing caretaking, or having complicated families or finances, is probably too great for marriage to make sense.

And they do distract from all the boy toys. Cougars on the prowl!

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Anonymous wrote:Married man over 50 here:

While I’m not dating and not in the market, I’ve talked about what I would do if (god forbid) something happened to DW.

First of all, there’s no second marriage. Period. I want to hang out and have fun, which includes sex. If you don’t want those things or you do want to get married, I’m not for you.

Also, a PP is right. Where women had the advantage in their late teens and 20’s, that dynamic slowly shifts in the opposite direction over time and age. While the other PP who says older women are juggling 5 men on the apps may be right about some, I know that’s not universally true.

The endgame isn’t necessarily sex on the first date, but men in their 50’s have greater agency in their choices.

I’m a 48 y.o. woman, have been on a dating app for about 10 days. After removing the age requirements, I received a lot of likes from the young guys, as young as 19! Today I’m going out with a very athletic and enthusiastic 29 y.o. man, an engineer. Who cares about men in their 50s if they can date someone young.

Enjoy being pumped and dumped.

It appears though that financially sound divorced men over 50 are also just looking for sex. So it’s better to be pumped and dumped by younger men - no point for a woman to date older

It is vastly more likely that an over 50 man is looking for a LTR with an over 50 woman than that a 19-29 year old man is looking for an LTR with an over 50 woman.

Obviously, I date men my age or slightly older for LTR/marriage. But if a senior citizen male tells me he’ll never remarry, I’m out in a a few seconds !

I was just responding to the dude above who said he only looked for casual. He needs to get used to pay for younger sugar babies for that, of dare not so attractive/fat 50+ women. Good looking women have a string of younger lovers

Would you even want a relationship with a senior citizen male? You could still enjoy their company without legal and family entanglements if you liked them. The risk of them getting sick and needing caretaking, or having complicated families or finances, is probably too great for marriage to make sense.

And they do distract from all the boy toys. Cougars on the prowl!

LOL. I'm the PP and a married woman. I love how empowering the poster is who is dating in her late 40s. If I become single, I would not seek out remarriage, so I can't think of many reasons to date men my age or older, outside of long-term companionships (but not marriage). Otherwise, for something casual, why wouldn't I be a cougar?

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Anonymous wrote:Married man over 50 here:

While I’m not dating and not in the market, I’ve talked about what I would do if (god forbid) something happened to DW.

First of all, there’s no second marriage. Period. I want to hang out and have fun, which includes sex. If you don’t want those things or you do want to get married, I’m not for you.

Also, a PP is right. Where women had the advantage in their late teens and 20’s, that dynamic slowly shifts in the opposite direction over time and age. While the other PP who says older women are juggling 5 men on the apps may be right about some, I know that’s not universally true.

The endgame isn’t necessarily sex on the first date, but men in their 50’s have greater agency in their choices.

I’m a 48 y.o. woman, have been on a dating app for about 10 days. After removing the age requirements, I received a lot of likes from the young guys, as young as 19! Today I’m going out with a very athletic and enthusiastic 29 y.o. man, an engineer. Who cares about men in their 50s if they can date someone young.

Enjoy being pumped and dumped.

It appears though that financially sound divorced men over 50 are also just looking for sex. So it’s better to be pumped and dumped by younger men - no point for a woman to date older

It is vastly more likely that an over 50 man is looking for a LTR with an over 50 woman than that a 19-29 year old man is looking for an LTR with an over 50 woman.

Obviously, I date men my age or slightly older for LTR/marriage. But if a senior citizen male tells me he’ll never remarry, I’m out in a a few seconds !

I was just responding to the dude above who said he only looked for casual. He needs to get used to pay for younger sugar babies for that, of dare not so attractive/fat 50+ women. Good looking women have a string of younger lovers

Would you even want a relationship with a senior citizen male? You could still enjoy their company without legal and family entanglements if you liked them. The risk of them getting sick and needing caretaking, or having complicated families or finances, is probably too great for marriage to make sense.

I’ve met some interesting men of my age or slightly older, and tend to connect better with them. I think at some point I’ll get tired of juggling lovers. I’m hoping to meet someone eventually who would be devoted to me and vise versa. We are on the same stage of life , and it will be easier to plan retirements together. Of course, it implies that the person is not riddled with problems and is secure, both financially and emotionally

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Anonymous wrote:Married man over 50 here:

While I’m not dating and not in the market, I’ve talked about what I would do if (god forbid) something happened to DW.

First of all, there’s no second marriage. Period. I want to hang out and have fun, which includes sex. If you don’t want those things or you do want to get married, I’m not for you.

Also, a PP is right. Where women had the advantage in their late teens and 20’s, that dynamic slowly shifts in the opposite direction over time and age. While the other PP who says older women are juggling 5 men on the apps may be right about some, I know that’s not universally true.

The endgame isn’t necessarily sex on the first date, but men in their 50’s have greater agency in their choices.

I’m a 48 y.o. woman, have been on a dating app for about 10 days. After removing the age requirements, I received a lot of likes from the young guys, as young as 19! Today I’m going out with a very athletic and enthusiastic 29 y.o. man, an engineer. Who cares about men in their 50s if they can date someone young.

Enjoy being pumped and dumped.

It appears though that financially sound divorced men over 50 are also just looking for sex. So it’s better to be pumped and dumped by younger men - no point for a woman to date older

It is vastly more likely that an over 50 man is looking for a LTR with an over 50 woman than that a 19-29 year old man is looking for an LTR with an over 50 woman.

Obviously, I date men my age or slightly older for LTR/marriage. But if a senior citizen male tells me he’ll never remarry, I’m out in a a few seconds !

I was just responding to the dude above who said he only looked for casual. He needs to get used to pay for younger sugar babies for that, of dare not so attractive/fat 50+ women. Good looking women have a string of younger lovers

Would you even want a relationship with a senior citizen male? You could still enjoy their company without legal and family entanglements if you liked them. The risk of them getting sick and needing caretaking, or having complicated families or finances, is probably too great for marriage to make sense.

Older women are more likely to go bankrupt than older men. Getting married to "a senior citizen male" is more likely to get you out of financial trouble than get you into it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Married man over 50 here:

While I’m not dating and not in the market, I’ve talked about what I would do if (god forbid) something happened to DW.

First of all, there’s no second marriage. Period. I want to hang out and have fun, which includes sex. If you don’t want those things or you do want to get married, I’m not for you.

Also, a PP is right. Where women had the advantage in their late teens and 20’s, that dynamic slowly shifts in the opposite direction over time and age. While the other PP who says older women are juggling 5 men on the apps may be right about some, I know that’s not universally true.

The endgame isn’t necessarily sex on the first date, but men in their 50’s have greater agency in their choices.

I’m a 48 y.o. woman, have been on a dating app for about 10 days. After removing the age requirements, I received a lot of likes from the young guys, as young as 19! Today I’m going out with a very athletic and enthusiastic 29 y.o. man, an engineer. Who cares about men in their 50s if they can date someone young.

If that’s what you’re looking for, go for it.

She’s saying if a woman is okay with casual relationships, she can day waaaay younger than 55 yo men. I am 47, and have a 29 yo suitor who is spoiling me with restaurants and dates anytime his long term 25 yo GF is out of town. We are seeing each other for almost 3 years for romantic dates and sex. I don’t need to look for 50s dudes on the app for sex.

I am on the apps though but date menu age for marriage and ltr only

I’m the PP you’re responding to. If that’s what you want and you’re happy, so be it. But it doesn’t change what I said.

What’s from my post contradicts yours? If I was looking for casual I would only date younger men. Younger bodies no performance issues > than an “executive” 55 yo man with 3 kids who also doesn’t have money for dates and only looks for casual sex on first date.

This summarizes the general dating landscape for an attractive 40-50-something woman perfectly.

Except most attractive women 40-50 years old are either annoying strivers, have kids, or are a financial disaster.

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Anonymous wrote:Married man over 50 here:

While I’m not dating and not in the market, I’ve talked about what I would do if (god forbid) something happened to DW.

First of all, there’s no second marriage. Period. I want to hang out and have fun, which includes sex. If you don’t want those things or you do want to get married, I’m not for you.

Also, a PP is right. Where women had the advantage in their late teens and 20’s, that dynamic slowly shifts in the opposite direction over time and age. While the other PP who says older women are juggling 5 men on the apps may be right about some, I know that’s not universally true.

The endgame isn’t necessarily sex on the first date, but men in their 50’s have greater agency in their choices.

I’m a 48 y.o. woman, have been on a dating app for about 10 days. After removing the age requirements, I received a lot of likes from the young guys, as young as 19! Today I’m going out with a very athletic and enthusiastic 29 y.o. man, an engineer. Who cares about men in their 50s if they can date someone young.

If that’s what you’re looking for, go for it.

She’s saying if a woman is okay with casual relationships, she can day waaaay younger than 55 yo men. I am 47, and have a 29 yo suitor who is spoiling me with restaurants and dates anytime his long term 25 yo GF is out of town. We are seeing each other for almost 3 years for romantic dates and sex. I don’t need to look for 50s dudes on the app for sex.

I am on the apps though but date menu age for marriage and ltr only

I’m the PP you’re responding to. If that’s what you want and you’re happy, so be it. But it doesn’t change what I said.

What’s from my post contradicts yours? If I was looking for casual I would only date younger men. Younger bodies no performance issues > than an “executive” 55 yo man with 3 kids who also doesn’t have money for dates and only looks for casual sex on first date.

This summarizes the general dating landscape for an attractive 40-50-something woman perfectly.

Except most attractive women 40-50 years old are either annoying strivers, have kids, or are a financial disaster.

Most functional people have kids at that age. On other points, I’m pretty well off on my own . Yes, maybe I’m an annoying striver. I still believe that two partners operating as a team going into retirement is better than being single. It’s just hard to find a functional man at that age: women usually are the ones filing for divorce. The men who ended up divorced by other women in their 50s are “dead weight” by at large. They are the men other women wanted to divorce

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Anonymous wrote:Sex is the most important part of the human experience, so getting to know whether you are compatible there is critical. That said, some level of trust is important, so it depends on the interactions prior to the first date.

You...you feel comfortable having sex with a stranger you've met once? Look up which ade range has the highest rates of stds and rethink your freaky ways. lol

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Anonymous wrote:Married man over 50 here:

While I’m not dating and not in the market, I’ve talked about what I would do if (god forbid) something happened to DW.

First of all, there’s no second marriage. Period. I want to hang out and have fun, which includes sex. If you don’t want those things or you do want to get married, I’m not for you.

Also, a PP is right. Where women had the advantage in their late teens and 20’s, that dynamic slowly shifts in the opposite direction over time and age. While the other PP who says older women are juggling 5 men on the apps may be right about some, I know that’s not universally true.

The endgame isn’t necessarily sex on the first date, but men in their 50’s have greater agency in their choices.

I’m a 48 y.o. woman, have been on a dating app for about 10 days. After removing the age requirements, I received a lot of likes from the young guys, as young as 19! Today I’m going out with a very athletic and enthusiastic 29 y.o. man, an engineer. Who cares about men in their 50s if they can date someone young.

Enjoy being pumped and dumped.

It appears though that financially sound divorced men over 50 are also just looking for sex. So it’s better to be pumped and dumped by younger men - no point for a woman to date older

It is vastly more likely that an over 50 man is looking for a LTR with an over 50 woman than that a 19-29 year old man is looking for an LTR with an over 50 woman.

Obviously, I date men my age or slightly older for LTR/marriage. But if a senior citizen male tells me he’ll never remarry, I’m out in a a few seconds !

I was just responding to the dude above who said he only looked for casual. He needs to get used to pay for younger sugar babies for that, of dare not so attractive/fat 50+ women. Good looking women have a string of younger lovers

Would you even want a relationship with a senior citizen male? You could still enjoy their company without legal and family entanglements if you liked them. The risk of them getting sick and needing caretaking, or having complicated families or finances, is probably too great for marriage to make sense.

Older women are more likely to go bankrupt than older men. Getting married to "a senior citizen male" is more likely to get you out of financial trouble than get you into it.

Not necessarily true for divorced men with multiple kids

[Anonymous]

To answer your question since I really can't offer a woman who is seeking a serious relationship anything given how squeezed I am financially and also being an executive in my mid 50s, I just date casually and expect sex as soon as possible.

This is hilarious. “I offer you nothing. Now off with your clothes!”

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Anonymous wrote:Sex is the most important part of the human experience, so getting to know whether you are compatible there is critical. That said, some level of trust is important, so it depends on the interactions prior to the first date.

You...you feel comfortable having sex with a stranger you've met once? Look up which ade range has the highest rates of stds and rethink your freaky ways. lol

It’s not just STDs. Even if condoms are used, and no oral - there is still risk of UTIs for women with constantly changing partners. To me multiple partners would be a source of constant anxiety and physical discomfort. I would rather have one devoted partner

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Anonymous wrote:Married man over 50 here:

While I’m not dating and not in the market, I’ve talked about what I would do if (god forbid) something happened to DW.

First of all, there’s no second marriage. Period. I want to hang out and have fun, which includes sex. If you don’t want those things or you do want to get married, I’m not for you.

Also, a PP is right. Where women had the advantage in their late teens and 20’s, that dynamic slowly shifts in the opposite direction over time and age. While the other PP who says older women are juggling 5 men on the apps may be right about some, I know that’s not universally true.

The endgame isn’t necessarily sex on the first date, but men in their 50’s have greater agency in their choices.

I’m a 48 y.o. woman, have been on a dating app for about 10 days. After removing the age requirements, I received a lot of likes from the young guys, as young as 19! Today I’m going out with a very athletic and enthusiastic 29 y.o. man, an engineer. Who cares about men in their 50s if they can date someone young.

Enjoy being pumped and dumped.

Mmmmm I love being pumped and dumped. Hottest has been a MUCH younger guy who stays hard all night long, we’ll go at it 3-4 times overnight and again the next morning. Then he leaves and I don’t have to make him breakfast or do his laundry. Love it.

The world really is your oyster once you’re a middle aged woman. Zero need to get married or have kids, so you can finally sleep with the men you’ve always wanted to but couldn’t. You’re confident in your body and sexuality, so you can ask for exactly what you want and who cares what he thinks. Younger men have so much more stamina, not like a 50 yo man who can barely get it up and is good for only one round (and younger guys LOVE when you teach them how to actually please a woman, versus older men who tend to be stuck in their ways and can’t adapt).

This was written by a 235 pound, 5 ft 2 woman eczema in Cleveland.

[Anonymous]

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To answer your question since I really can't offer a woman who is seeking a serious relationship anything given how squeezed I am financially and also being an executive in my mid 50s, I just date casually and expect sex as soon as possible.

This is hilarious. “I offer you nothing. Now off with your clothes!”

And get ready for his dad bod and soft pecker.

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Anonymous wrote:Married man over 50 here:

While I’m not dating and not in the market, I’ve talked about what I would do if (god forbid) something happened to DW.

First of all, there’s no second marriage. Period. I want to hang out and have fun, which includes sex. If you don’t want those things or you do want to get married, I’m not for you.

Also, a PP is right. Where women had the advantage in their late teens and 20’s, that dynamic slowly shifts in the opposite direction over time and age. While the other PP who says older women are juggling 5 men on the apps may be right about some, I know that’s not universally true.

The endgame isn’t necessarily sex on the first date, but men in their 50’s have greater agency in their choices.

I’m a 48 y.o. woman, have been on a dating app for about 10 days. After removing the age requirements, I received a lot of likes from the young guys, as young as 19! Today I’m going out with a very athletic and enthusiastic 29 y.o. man, an engineer. Who cares about men in their 50s if they can date someone young.

Enjoy being pumped and dumped.

Mmmmm I love being pumped and dumped. Hottest has been a MUCH younger guy who stays hard all night long, we’ll go at it 3-4 times overnight and again the next morning. Then he leaves and I don’t have to make him breakfast or do his laundry. Love it.

The world really is your oyster once you’re a middle aged woman. Zero need to get married or have kids, so you can finally sleep with the men you’ve always wanted to but couldn’t. You’re confident in your body and sexuality, so you can ask for exactly what you want and who cares what he thinks. Younger men have so much more stamina, not like a 50 yo man who can barely get it up and is good for only one round (and younger guys LOVE when you teach them how to actually please a woman, versus older men who tend to be stuck in their ways and can’t adapt).

This was written by a 235 pound, 5 ft 2 woman eczema in Cleveland.

or a 425lb greasy 24 yo man in his mother's basement in Kenosha.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Married man over 50 here:

While I’m not dating and not in the market, I’ve talked about what I would do if (god forbid) something happened to DW.

First of all, there’s no second marriage. Period. I want to hang out and have fun, which includes sex. If you don’t want those things or you do want to get married, I’m not for you.

Also, a PP is right. Where women had the advantage in their late teens and 20’s, that dynamic slowly shifts in the opposite direction over time and age. While the other PP who says older women are juggling 5 men on the apps may be right about some, I know that’s not universally true.

The endgame isn’t necessarily sex on the first date, but men in their 50’s have greater agency in their choices.

I’m a 48 y.o. woman, have been on a dating app for about 10 days. After removing the age requirements, I received a lot of likes from the young guys, as young as 19! Today I’m going out with a very athletic and enthusiastic 29 y.o. man, an engineer. Who cares about men in their 50s if they can date someone young.

Enjoy being pumped and dumped.

It appears though that financially sound divorced men over 50 are also just looking for sex. So it’s better to be pumped and dumped by younger men - no point for a woman to date older

It is vastly more likely that an over 50 man is looking for a LTR with an over 50 woman than that a 19-29 year old man is looking for an LTR with an over 50 woman.

Obviously, I date men my age or slightly older for LTR/marriage. But if a senior citizen male tells me he’ll never remarry, I’m out in a a few seconds !

I was just responding to the dude above who said he only looked for casual. He needs to get used to pay for younger sugar babies for that, of dare not so attractive/fat 50+ women. Good looking women have a string of younger lovers

Would you even want a relationship with a senior citizen male? You could still enjoy their company without legal and family entanglements if you liked them. The risk of them getting sick and needing caretaking, or having complicated families or finances, is probably too great for marriage to make sense.

Older women are more likely to go bankrupt than older men. Getting married to "a senior citizen male" is more likely to get you out of financial trouble than get you into it.

My mom had two friends who married later in life to men 20 years older. Both got quickly wiped out financially when their husbands developed debilitating illnesses that required home nursing care or a LTC facility. They went from middle class singles to barely scraping by.

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Anonymous wrote:Married man over 50 here:

While I’m not dating and not in the market, I’ve talked about what I would do if (god forbid) something happened to DW.

First of all, there’s no second marriage. Period. I want to hang out and have fun, which includes sex. If you don’t want those things or you do want to get married, I’m not for you.

Also, a PP is right. Where women had the advantage in their late teens and 20’s, that dynamic slowly shifts in the opposite direction over time and age. While the other PP who says older women are juggling 5 men on the apps may be right about some, I know that’s not universally true.

The endgame isn’t necessarily sex on the first date, but men in their 50’s have greater agency in their choices.

I’m a 48 y.o. woman, have been on a dating app for about 10 days. After removing the age requirements, I received a lot of likes from the young guys, as young as 19! Today I’m going out with a very athletic and enthusiastic 29 y.o. man, an engineer. Who cares about men in their 50s if they can date someone young.

Enjoy being pumped and dumped.

Mmmmm I love being pumped and dumped. Hottest has been a MUCH younger guy who stays hard all night long, we’ll go at it 3-4 times overnight and again the next morning. Then he leaves and I don’t have to make him breakfast or do his laundry. Love it.

The world really is your oyster once you’re a middle aged woman. Zero need to get married or have kids, so you can finally sleep with the men you’ve always wanted to but couldn’t. You’re confident in your body and sexuality, so you can ask for exactly what you want and who cares what he thinks. Younger men have so much more stamina, not like a 50 yo man who can barely get it up and is good for only one round (and younger guys LOVE when you teach them how to actually please a woman, versus older men who tend to be stuck in their ways and can’t adapt).

This was written by a 235 pound, 5 ft 2 woman eczema in Cleveland.

Close! I am 5’2 but 120 pounds. I did live in Cleveland many years ago.