Is dating just a means to an end for 50+ men?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a 54 year old male I enjoy sex, but I’m far more interested in women who are smart, fun, confident, financially secure and not carrying a lot of baggage.

You certainly won’t find many 50+ women on the apps that meet that description.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a 54 year old male I enjoy sex, but I’m far more interested in women who are smart, fun, confident, financially secure and not carrying a lot of baggage.

You certainly won’t find many 50+ women on the apps that meet that description.

That is my experience. My 55 gf is smart, fun, confident, sexy, and has worked through whatever baggage she once had (I don't consider her kids to be "baggage"), but she is not financially secure at all. I do have some reservation because I don't want to be her lifeline and I don't want to deplete my kids' inheritance supporting her. But of all the possible downsides, her financial situation seems like the least important one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a 54 year old male I enjoy sex, but I’m far more interested in women who are smart, fun, confident, financially secure and not carrying a lot of baggage.

You certainly won’t find many 50+ women on the apps that meet that description.

That is my experience. My 55 gf is smart, fun, confident, sexy, and has worked through whatever baggage she once had (I don't consider her kids to be "baggage"), but she is not financially secure at all. I do have some reservation because I don't want to be her lifeline and I don't want to deplete my kids' inheritance supporting her. But of all the possible downsides, her financial situation seems like the least important one.

What's the upside of marrying her, though, if that's your intention?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a 54 year old male I enjoy sex, but I’m far more interested in women who are smart, fun, confident, financially secure and not carrying a lot of baggage.

You certainly won’t find many 50+ women on the apps that meet that description.

If you find a woman that fit this description, you would have to be really committed to her, work on integrating each other in your lives, busy schedules etc. Men claim they want financially independent women, but in reality few men are able to offer what it takes to be with a wealthy woman

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a 54 year old male I enjoy sex, but I’m far more interested in women who are smart, fun, confident, financially secure and not carrying a lot of baggage.

You certainly won’t find many 50+ women on the apps that meet that description.

If you find a woman that fit this description, you would have to be really committed to her, work on integrating each other in your lives, busy schedules etc. Men claim they want financially independent women, but in reality few men are able to offer what it takes to be with a wealthy woman

Very few women in their 50s are "wealthy" or "financially independent". Much more likely she's a financial mess barely hanging on by her fingernails. And if you're wealthy and financially independent, what does she have to offer you, really? A negative thing (she won't be a financial burden) but physically you're better off shopping younger.