Is dating just a means to an end for 50+ men?

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Anonymous wrote:Married man over 50 here:

While I’m not dating and not in the market, I’ve talked about what I would do if (god forbid) something happened to DW.

First of all, there’s no second marriage. Period. I want to hang out and have fun, which includes sex. If you don’t want those things or you do want to get married, I’m not for you.

Also, a PP is right. Where women had the advantage in their late teens and 20’s, that dynamic slowly shifts in the opposite direction over time and age. While the other PP who says older women are juggling 5 men on the apps may be right about some, I know that’s not universally true.

The endgame isn’t necessarily sex on the first date, but men in their 50’s have greater agency in their choices.

I’m a 48 y.o. woman, have been on a dating app for about 10 days. After removing the age requirements, I received a lot of likes from the young guys, as young as 19! Today I’m going out with a very athletic and enthusiastic 29 y.o. man, an engineer. Who cares about men in their 50s if they can date someone young.

Enjoy being pumped and dumped.

It appears though that financially sound divorced men over 50 are also just looking for sex. So it’s better to be pumped and dumped by younger men - no point for a woman to date older

It is vastly more likely that an over 50 man is looking for a LTR with an over 50 woman than that a 19-29 year old man is looking for an LTR with an over 50 woman.

Obviously, I date men my age or slightly older for LTR/marriage. But if a senior citizen male tells me he’ll never remarry, I’m out in a a few seconds !

I was just responding to the dude above who said he only looked for casual. He needs to get used to pay for younger sugar babies for that, of dare not so attractive/fat 50+ women. Good looking women have a string of younger lovers

Would you even want a relationship with a senior citizen male? You could still enjoy their company without legal and family entanglements if you liked them. The risk of them getting sick and needing caretaking, or having complicated families or finances, is probably too great for marriage to make sense.

Older women are more likely to go bankrupt than older men. Getting married to "a senior citizen male" is more likely to get you out of financial trouble than get you into it.

My mom had two friends who married later in life to men 20 years older. Both got quickly wiped out financially when their husbands developed debilitating illnesses that required home nursing care or a LTC facility. They went from middle class singles to barely scraping by.

Yea, I have examples in my circle when the wives had to go back to full time work in mid 60s after husbands developed various deceases

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Anonymous wrote:Married man over 50 here:

While I’m not dating and not in the market, I’ve talked about what I would do if (god forbid) something happened to DW.

First of all, there’s no second marriage. Period. I want to hang out and have fun, which includes sex. If you don’t want those things or you do want to get married, I’m not for you.

Also, a PP is right. Where women had the advantage in their late teens and 20’s, that dynamic slowly shifts in the opposite direction over time and age. While the other PP who says older women are juggling 5 men on the apps may be right about some, I know that’s not universally true.

The endgame isn’t necessarily sex on the first date, but men in their 50’s have greater agency in their choices.

I’m a 48 y.o. woman, have been on a dating app for about 10 days. After removing the age requirements, I received a lot of likes from the young guys, as young as 19! Today I’m going out with a very athletic and enthusiastic 29 y.o. man, an engineer. Who cares about men in their 50s if they can date someone young.

Enjoy being pumped and dumped.

It appears though that financially sound divorced men over 50 are also just looking for sex. So it’s better to be pumped and dumped by younger men - no point for a woman to date older

It is vastly more likely that an over 50 man is looking for a LTR with an over 50 woman than that a 19-29 year old man is looking for an LTR with an over 50 woman.

Obviously, I date men my age or slightly older for LTR/marriage. But if a senior citizen male tells me he’ll never remarry, I’m out in a a few seconds !

I was just responding to the dude above who said he only looked for casual. He needs to get used to pay for younger sugar babies for that, of dare not so attractive/fat 50+ women. Good looking women have a string of younger lovers

Would you even want a relationship with a senior citizen male? You could still enjoy their company without legal and family entanglements if you liked them. The risk of them getting sick and needing caretaking, or having complicated families or finances, is probably too great for marriage to make sense.

Older women are more likely to go bankrupt than older men. Getting married to "a senior citizen male" is more likely to get you out of financial trouble than get you into it.

My mom had two friends who married later in life to men 20 years older. Both got quickly wiped out financially when their husbands developed debilitating illnesses that required home nursing care or a LTC facility. They went from middle class singles to barely scraping by.

OK and I personally know two older divorced women who were wiped out financially by their own debilitating illnesses that required going into an LTC facility. Literal medical bankruptcy. There are more women than men in LTC because... the men die.

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Anonymous wrote:Married man over 50 here:

While I’m not dating and not in the market, I’ve talked about what I would do if (god forbid) something happened to DW.

First of all, there’s no second marriage. Period. I want to hang out and have fun, which includes sex. If you don’t want those things or you do want to get married, I’m not for you.

Also, a PP is right. Where women had the advantage in their late teens and 20’s, that dynamic slowly shifts in the opposite direction over time and age. While the other PP who says older women are juggling 5 men on the apps may be right about some, I know that’s not universally true.

The endgame isn’t necessarily sex on the first date, but men in their 50’s have greater agency in their choices.

I’m a 48 y.o. woman, have been on a dating app for about 10 days. After removing the age requirements, I received a lot of likes from the young guys, as young as 19! Today I’m going out with a very athletic and enthusiastic 29 y.o. man, an engineer. Who cares about men in their 50s if they can date someone young.

Enjoy being pumped and dumped.

It appears though that financially sound divorced men over 50 are also just looking for sex. So it’s better to be pumped and dumped by younger men - no point for a woman to date older

It is vastly more likely that an over 50 man is looking for a LTR with an over 50 woman than that a 19-29 year old man is looking for an LTR with an over 50 woman.

Obviously, I date men my age or slightly older for LTR/marriage. But if a senior citizen male tells me he’ll never remarry, I’m out in a a few seconds !

I was just responding to the dude above who said he only looked for casual. He needs to get used to pay for younger sugar babies for that, of dare not so attractive/fat 50+ women. Good looking women have a string of younger lovers

Would you even want a relationship with a senior citizen male? You could still enjoy their company without legal and family entanglements if you liked them. The risk of them getting sick and needing caretaking, or having complicated families or finances, is probably too great for marriage to make sense.

Older women are more likely to go bankrupt than older men. Getting married to "a senior citizen male" is more likely to get you out of financial trouble than get you into it.

Not necessarily true for divorced men with multiple kids

This is the classic case where the gold digger woman swoops in, grabs the man by the willy, and convinces him to quit spending any money on his kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Married man over 50 here:

While I’m not dating and not in the market, I’ve talked about what I would do if (god forbid) something happened to DW.

First of all, there’s no second marriage. Period. I want to hang out and have fun, which includes sex. If you don’t want those things or you do want to get married, I’m not for you.

Also, a PP is right. Where women had the advantage in their late teens and 20’s, that dynamic slowly shifts in the opposite direction over time and age. While the other PP who says older women are juggling 5 men on the apps may be right about some, I know that’s not universally true.

The endgame isn’t necessarily sex on the first date, but men in their 50’s have greater agency in their choices.

I’m a 48 y.o. woman, have been on a dating app for about 10 days. After removing the age requirements, I received a lot of likes from the young guys, as young as 19! Today I’m going out with a very athletic and enthusiastic 29 y.o. man, an engineer. Who cares about men in their 50s if they can date someone young.

Enjoy being pumped and dumped.

It appears though that financially sound divorced men over 50 are also just looking for sex. So it’s better to be pumped and dumped by younger men - no point for a woman to date older

It is vastly more likely that an over 50 man is looking for a LTR with an over 50 woman than that a 19-29 year old man is looking for an LTR with an over 50 woman.

Obviously, I date men my age or slightly older for LTR/marriage. But if a senior citizen male tells me he’ll never remarry, I’m out in a a few seconds !

I was just responding to the dude above who said he only looked for casual. He needs to get used to pay for younger sugar babies for that, of dare not so attractive/fat 50+ women. Good looking women have a string of younger lovers

Would you even want a relationship with a senior citizen male? You could still enjoy their company without legal and family entanglements if you liked them. The risk of them getting sick and needing caretaking, or having complicated families or finances, is probably too great for marriage to make sense.

Older women are more likely to go bankrupt than older men. Getting married to "a senior citizen male" is more likely to get you out of financial trouble than get you into it.

My mom had two friends who married later in life to men 20 years older. Both got quickly wiped out financially when their husbands developed debilitating illnesses that required home nursing care or a LTC facility. They went from middle class singles to barely scraping by.

OK and I personally know two older divorced women who were wiped out financially by their own debilitating illnesses that required going into an LTC facility. Literal medical bankruptcy. There are more women than men in LTC because... the men die.

It makes no sense for women to marry much older unless he’s wealthy and can “make up” financially for her devoting the last active years to care for him.

Ideally women in their 50s should marry 5–10 years economically equal younger men so they can age together

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Anonymous wrote:Woman here, that hasnt been my experience at all. My 2 cents:

1- She needs to do a better job of vetting men before she goes out on dates. Get to know them a bit first before agreeing to meet. Make it a little harder for them to get your precious time. The ones who arent interested in even a phone call before a date will see themselves to the door.

2- Along those lines, the men who discuss sex within the first few messages are saying who they are loud and clear. Dont entertain them.

3- Is she only going for super hot men? Slick dudes? Dudes super into appearance (yeH, yeah, I know its Miami). Imho you can tell by a mans profile pics/profile content what he is looking for.

Thank you.

Now that you mention it, #3 might be most of the problem. She was married to a very attractive, but very nice man. I think she doesn’t have good player radar.

After age 50, a man who is good looking and capable of having sex has his choice of women.

lol no. Even at that age, every woman on the apps is juggling at least five other guys in addition to you, and she will drop you instantly if she thinks a better deal is available. This is especially true of the desirable women whom you (the good looking and capable man) would naturally choose.

This is true. If I were single I would probably remain single. I have no desire being of the 5 competitors. Some women like to maintain a roster. Good for them.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m happily (re)married so I haven’t dated in well over a decade, but my cousin is newly divorced and very confounded by feedback she’s gotten as she ventures “out there”.

She’s an attractive 50 year old who looks younger, is fit, and dresses fashionably without being ridiculous. She’s well-educated, well-travelled, and successful in her career. She has pretty standard hobbies and interests.

She has one adult child in the military who hasn’t lived at home since he left for boot camp five years ago. And one very chill medium sized dog.

There’s no drama with her ex. He was wanted to live in his native country after their son left the nest. She did not. The pandemic kept them apart for over a year. After trying to revive things long distance for a few years, they amicably separated. She never bad mouths him. He doesn’t pay alimony or anything.

She expects to split the expenses of dating.

I say all this to explain that I am also confused by the feedback she is getting from both dates and a dating coach. She’s being told that the getting to know you activities on dates don’t matter to men over 50. They prefer first date sex and if it’s a good experience, they’ll invest time in a second date.

If this is true, it seems like a considerable acceleration from the third date norm when I was last dating. I asked DH about his few single friends’ expectations. He said expecting and getting are two different things and most of them are smart enough to not write off a good woman simply because she didn’t sleep with them on the first date. My single brother said that the dynamics are weird where he lives because older single men considerably outnumber older single women.

If you are dating, is it really like that?

I am confused. Does she want to get laid or not?

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Anonymous wrote:Married man over 50 here:

While I’m not dating and not in the market, I’ve talked about what I would do if (god forbid) something happened to DW.

First of all, there’s no second marriage. Period. I want to hang out and have fun, which includes sex. If you don’t want those things or you do want to get married, I’m not for you.

Also, a PP is right. Where women had the advantage in their late teens and 20’s, that dynamic slowly shifts in the opposite direction over time and age. While the other PP who says older women are juggling 5 men on the apps may be right about some, I know that’s not universally true.

The endgame isn’t necessarily sex on the first date, but men in their 50’s have greater agency in their choices.

I’m a 48 y.o. woman, have been on a dating app for about 10 days. After removing the age requirements, I received a lot of likes from the young guys, as young as 19! Today I’m going out with a very athletic and enthusiastic 29 y.o. man, an engineer. Who cares about men in their 50s if they can date someone young.

Enjoy being pumped and dumped.

It appears though that financially sound divorced men over 50 are also just looking for sex. So it’s better to be pumped and dumped by younger men - no point for a woman to date older

It is vastly more likely that an over 50 man is looking for a LTR with an over 50 woman than that a 19-29 year old man is looking for an LTR with an over 50 woman.

Obviously, I date men my age or slightly older for LTR/marriage. But if a senior citizen male tells me he’ll never remarry, I’m out in a a few seconds !

I was just responding to the dude above who said he only looked for casual. He needs to get used to pay for younger sugar babies for that, of dare not so attractive/fat 50+ women. Good looking women have a string of younger lovers

Would you even want a relationship with a senior citizen male? You could still enjoy their company without legal and family entanglements if you liked them. The risk of them getting sick and needing caretaking, or having complicated families or finances, is probably too great for marriage to make sense.

Older women are more likely to go bankrupt than older men. Getting married to "a senior citizen male" is more likely to get you out of financial trouble than get you into it.

Not necessarily true for divorced men with multiple kids

This is the classic case where the gold digger woman swoops in, grabs the man by the willy, and convinces him to quit spending any money on his kids.

Usually men who say that have no gold to spend

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a 40sF who dates men from 25-55.

She needs to fire her dating coach. Do some men want sex on the first date? Yes. Are there men who don’t? Also yes. At no point should she ever sleep with a man just to try to keep him.

She needs to get clear on what she wants and what she will and won’t do. For example, I’m very clear and upfront that I am dating for marriage. Sometimes I do sleep with men on a first date if I’m very attracted to them, knowing full well it’s just going to be a good time for us both with zero expectations of a second date. Sometimes I’ll go on 10 dates with a man I’m not attracted to but he has marriage potential, and I won’t sleep with him because the chemistry just doesn’t grow. And everything in between (such as currently sleeping with a man where the sex is ok, good not great, but he loves to spoil me with gifts and trips so it’s fine for now).

She needs to get comfortable with doing whatever SHE wants, not trying to bend to what men want.

As a 45 years old woman tell me about your dating experience dating a man who is 25 ie 20 years younger. Besides sex which we all is obviously amazing, what else is exciting about dating a 25 years old man?

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Anonymous wrote:One man's experience:

I'm 49, low-drama divorced (3 kids), 6'1", trim, no balding, well dressed, make $800k. Currently dating a woman who's 53. We didn't have sex until date 6 or 7. We had intense chemistry from the minute we sat down on the first date (I find her incredibly sexy, and she feels the same about me), but jumping into bed wasn't the priority. I'm not necessarily looking for marriage, but I want a real relationship. I dated some younger women and I felt like the whole experience for them was figuring out whether they were going to have sex with me right off the bat. If I did that, it would only be with someone I found very sexy but not worth trying to develop a serious relationship with.

You make a lot of money sir. What do you do? With that amount of money I assume you can find a woman in your sleep

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Anonymous wrote:Married man over 50 here:

While I’m not dating and not in the market, I’ve talked about what I would do if (god forbid) something happened to DW.

First of all, there’s no second marriage. Period. I want to hang out and have fun, which includes sex. If you don’t want those things or you do want to get married, I’m not for you.

Also, a PP is right. Where women had the advantage in their late teens and 20’s, that dynamic slowly shifts in the opposite direction over time and age. While the other PP who says older women are juggling 5 men on the apps may be right about some, I know that’s not universally true.

The endgame isn’t necessarily sex on the first date, but men in their 50’s have greater agency in their choices.

I’m a 48 y.o. woman, have been on a dating app for about 10 days. After removing the age requirements, I received a lot of likes from the young guys, as young as 19! Today I’m going out with a very athletic and enthusiastic 29 y.o. man, an engineer. Who cares about men in their 50s if they can date someone young.

If that’s what you’re looking for, go for it.

She’s saying if a woman is okay with casual relationships, she can day waaaay younger than 55 yo men. I am 47, and have a 29 yo suitor who is spoiling me with restaurants and dates anytime his long term 25 yo GF is out of town. We are seeing each other for almost 3 years for romantic dates and sex. I don’t need to look for 50s dudes on the app for sex.

I am on the apps though but date menu age for marriage and ltr only

I’m the PP you’re responding to. If that’s what you want and you’re happy, so be it. But it doesn’t change what I said.

What’s from my post contradicts yours? If I was looking for casual I would only date younger men. Younger bodies no performance issues > than an “executive” 55 yo man with 3 kids who also doesn’t have money for dates and only looks for casual sex on first date.

Well, now you’re injecting made up facts not in my original post. Believe what you will and date to make you happy.

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Anonymous wrote:Married man over 50 here:

While I’m not dating and not in the market, I’ve talked about what I would do if (god forbid) something happened to DW.

First of all, there’s no second marriage. Period. I want to hang out and have fun, which includes sex. If you don’t want those things or you do want to get married, I’m not for you.

Also, a PP is right. Where women had the advantage in their late teens and 20’s, that dynamic slowly shifts in the opposite direction over time and age. While the other PP who says older women are juggling 5 men on the apps may be right about some, I know that’s not universally true.

The endgame isn’t necessarily sex on the first date, but men in their 50’s have greater agency in their choices.

I’m a 48 y.o. woman, have been on a dating app for about 10 days. After removing the age requirements, I received a lot of likes from the young guys, as young as 19! Today I’m going out with a very athletic and enthusiastic 29 y.o. man, an engineer. Who cares about men in their 50s if they can date someone young.

If that’s what you’re looking for, go for it.

She’s saying if a woman is okay with casual relationships, she can day waaaay younger than 55 yo men. I am 47, and have a 29 yo suitor who is spoiling me with restaurants and dates anytime his long term 25 yo GF is out of town. We are seeing each other for almost 3 years for romantic dates and sex. I don’t need to look for 50s dudes on the app for sex.

I am on the apps though but date menu age for marriage and ltr only

I have always said the cruelty of women is incredible. Here we have a low life 47 years old woman knowingly sleeping with a 25 years old man who has a long time GF. All she thinks is about herself. And I am sure she will blame the younger man who is younger than her by 22 years for pursuing her. You are a predator!

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Anonymous wrote:Married man over 50 here:

While I’m not dating and not in the market, I’ve talked about what I would do if (god forbid) something happened to DW.

First of all, there’s no second marriage. Period. I want to hang out and have fun, which includes sex. If you don’t want those things or you do want to get married, I’m not for you.

Also, a PP is right. Where women had the advantage in their late teens and 20’s, that dynamic slowly shifts in the opposite direction over time and age. While the other PP who says older women are juggling 5 men on the apps may be right about some, I know that’s not universally true.

The endgame isn’t necessarily sex on the first date, but men in their 50’s have greater agency in their choices.

I’m a 48 y.o. woman, have been on a dating app for about 10 days. After removing the age requirements, I received a lot of likes from the young guys, as young as 19! Today I’m going out with a very athletic and enthusiastic 29 y.o. man, an engineer. Who cares about men in their 50s if they can date someone young.

If that’s what you’re looking for, go for it.

She’s saying if a woman is okay with casual relationships, she can day waaaay younger than 55 yo men. I am 47, and have a 29 yo suitor who is spoiling me with restaurants and dates anytime his long term 25 yo GF is out of town. We are seeing each other for almost 3 years for romantic dates and sex. I don’t need to look for 50s dudes on the app for sex.

I am on the apps though but date menu age for marriage and ltr only

I have always said the cruelty of women is incredible. Here we have a low life 47 years old woman knowingly sleeping with a 25 years old man who has a long time GF. All she thinks is about herself. And I am sure she will blame the younger man who is younger than her by 22 years for pursuing her. You are a predator!

He’s 29 read better - and he was perusing me for months !

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Anonymous wrote:I’m happily (re)married so I haven’t dated in well over a decade, but my cousin is newly divorced and very confounded by feedback she’s gotten as she ventures “out there”.

She’s an attractive 50 year old who looks younger, is fit, and dresses fashionably without being ridiculous. She’s well-educated, well-travelled, and successful in her career. She has pretty standard hobbies and interests.

She has one adult child in the military who hasn’t lived at home since he left for boot camp five years ago. And one very chill medium sized dog.

There’s no drama with her ex. He was wanted to live in his native country after their son left the nest. She did not. The pandemic kept them apart for over a year. After trying to revive things long distance for a few years, they amicably separated. She never bad mouths him. He doesn’t pay alimony or anything.

She expects to split the expenses of dating.

I say all this to explain that I am also confused by the feedback she is getting from both dates and a dating coach. She’s being told that the getting to know you activities on dates don’t matter to men over 50. They prefer first date sex and if it’s a good experience, they’ll invest time in a second date.

If this is true, it seems like a considerable acceleration from the third date norm when I was last dating. I asked DH about his few single friends’ expectations. He said expecting and getting are two different things and most of them are smart enough to not write off a good woman simply because she didn’t sleep with them on the first date. My single brother said that the dynamics are weird where he lives because older single men considerably outnumber older single women.

If you are dating, is it really like that?

Look a small number men on dating apps get like 80% of the matches(or whatever for different sites). These man have endless choices but they only represent like 5% of the men on the site. You can do the numbers- single man, 50ish years old(27% of men 50-60), not over weight(30%), over 6’(14%), makes $100k(16%) and college educated(44%). Now add in 50ish men who want to date someone under 45 and the dating apps pushing the more popular men.

The number go something like this 5% of men on dating apps gets 65% of all the matches, 25% get 80% and 60% of men get no matches. So the top men do great and have an endless options. The rest will be lucky to get one match. The most desirable men are in high demand and the competition is fierce.

I do not think men in the 50’s are pushing for sex on the first date but if it is a lukewarm date they have other options. This applies to the top 10%. The others men are desperate but are not selected. Dating apps, etc are not a great experience for either women or men.

I think you can remove the over-6-foot requirement for most women and expand the dating pool by a lot. The average height for a woman is 5'6, so anyone over 5'7 is fine for the majority of women. Also, women dating 50+ men are rarely looking to procreate, so genetic factors like height don't matter.

Oops. The average height for a woman is 5'4. I don't think there's much, if any, premium for height in the 50-plus category.

6' 2" man here. There is a premium. Even women in their 50s demand it! I have had many pre-date texts where women suspiciously try to find out if I'm lying about my height.

Sorry, manlets, your life does not get better with age.

You are dating a self-selecting group of women because you publish your height on your profile. I have never cared about a man's height, other than I never dated anyone shorter than me, though I have friends who dated and married shorter. It doesn't matter to most of us, especially as we age and understand what matters in relationships.

He is only 6'2 and bragging. I am 6'5 and I never brag. My dad is 6'8 and mom 6'0. I grew up around very tall people, so height is not something special.

I think this obsession with height must be a recent phenomenon. There is nothing special about me being 6'5. But I do have an interesting personality, good hobbies, and a good person overall.

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Anonymous wrote:Married man over 50 here:

While I’m not dating and not in the market, I’ve talked about what I would do if (god forbid) something happened to DW.

First of all, there’s no second marriage. Period. I want to hang out and have fun, which includes sex. If you don’t want those things or you do want to get married, I’m not for you.

Also, a PP is right. Where women had the advantage in their late teens and 20’s, that dynamic slowly shifts in the opposite direction over time and age. While the other PP who says older women are juggling 5 men on the apps may be right about some, I know that’s not universally true.

The endgame isn’t necessarily sex on the first date, but men in their 50’s have greater agency in their choices.

I’m a 48 y.o. woman, have been on a dating app for about 10 days. After removing the age requirements, I received a lot of likes from the young guys, as young as 19! Today I’m going out with a very athletic and enthusiastic 29 y.o. man, an engineer. Who cares about men in their 50s if they can date someone young.

Enjoy being pumped and dumped.

It appears though that financially sound divorced men over 50 are also just looking for sex. So it’s better to be pumped and dumped by younger men - no point for a woman to date older

It is vastly more likely that an over 50 man is looking for a LTR with an over 50 woman than that a 19-29 year old man is looking for an LTR with an over 50 woman.

Obviously, I date men my age or slightly older for LTR/marriage. But if a senior citizen male tells me he’ll never remarry, I’m out in a a few seconds !

I was just responding to the dude above who said he only looked for casual. He needs to get used to pay for younger sugar babies for that, of dare not so attractive/fat 50+ women. Good looking women have a string of younger lovers

Would you even want a relationship with a senior citizen male? You could still enjoy their company without legal and family entanglements if you liked them. The risk of them getting sick and needing caretaking, or having complicated families or finances, is probably too great for marriage to make sense.

Older women are more likely to go bankrupt than older men. Getting married to "a senior citizen male" is more likely to get you out of financial trouble than get you into it.

My mom had two friends who married later in life to men 20 years older. Both got quickly wiped out financially when their husbands developed debilitating illnesses that required home nursing care or a LTC facility. They went from middle class singles to barely scraping by.

OK and I personally know two older divorced women who were wiped out financially by their own debilitating illnesses that required going into an LTC facility. Literal medical bankruptcy. There are more women than men in LTC because... the men die.

It makes no sense for women to marry much older unless he’s wealthy and can “make up” financially for her devoting the last active years to care for him.

Ideally women in their 50s should marry 5–10 years economically equal younger men so they can age together

Who said "much older"? What is "much older"?

Good luck with this idea you're going to marry a guy in his 40s. Firstly he will not be attracted to you, he's looking for younger than him. Secondly that guy probably has kids in college or even high school, this is exactly the guy that DCUM women complain is "broke".

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Anonymous wrote:Married man over 50 here:

While I’m not dating and not in the market, I’ve talked about what I would do if (god forbid) something happened to DW.

First of all, there’s no second marriage. Period. I want to hang out and have fun, which includes sex. If you don’t want those things or you do want to get married, I’m not for you.

Also, a PP is right. Where women had the advantage in their late teens and 20’s, that dynamic slowly shifts in the opposite direction over time and age. While the other PP who says older women are juggling 5 men on the apps may be right about some, I know that’s not universally true.

The endgame isn’t necessarily sex on the first date, but men in their 50’s have greater agency in their choices.

I’m a 48 y.o. woman, have been on a dating app for about 10 days. After removing the age requirements, I received a lot of likes from the young guys, as young as 19! Today I’m going out with a very athletic and enthusiastic 29 y.o. man, an engineer. Who cares about men in their 50s if they can date someone young.

Enjoy being pumped and dumped.

It appears though that financially sound divorced men over 50 are also just looking for sex. So it’s better to be pumped and dumped by younger men - no point for a woman to date older

It is vastly more likely that an over 50 man is looking for a LTR with an over 50 woman than that a 19-29 year old man is looking for an LTR with an over 50 woman.

Obviously, I date men my age or slightly older for LTR/marriage. But if a senior citizen male tells me he’ll never remarry, I’m out in a a few seconds !

I was just responding to the dude above who said he only looked for casual. He needs to get used to pay for younger sugar babies for that, of dare not so attractive/fat 50+ women. Good looking women have a string of younger lovers

Would you even want a relationship with a senior citizen male? You could still enjoy their company without legal and family entanglements if you liked them. The risk of them getting sick and needing caretaking, or having complicated families or finances, is probably too great for marriage to make sense.

Older women are more likely to go bankrupt than older men. Getting married to "a senior citizen male" is more likely to get you out of financial trouble than get you into it.

My mom had two friends who married later in life to men 20 years older. Both got quickly wiped out financially when their husbands developed debilitating illnesses that required home nursing care or a LTC facility. They went from middle class singles to barely scraping by.

It's not necessarily their age..the problem is that people prepare financially but ignore their physique and health. I am 64 years old. I would love to lift weight with men my age, but most of my friends my age for whatever reasons they cannot commit to staying in great shape. And the same goes for women as well. I work with this woman who is 59. She misses so much work due to being sick all the tim. She is very out of shape. I hope her husband is healthy because she will soon need care.