Is dating just a means to an end for 50+ men?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Married man over 50 here:

While I’m not dating and not in the market, I’ve talked about what I would do if (god forbid) something happened to DW.

First of all, there’s no second marriage. Period. I want to hang out and have fun, which includes sex. If you don’t want those things or you do want to get married, I’m not for you.

Also, a PP is right. Where women had the advantage in their late teens and 20’s, that dynamic slowly shifts in the opposite direction over time and age. While the other PP who says older women are juggling 5 men on the apps may be right about some, I know that’s not universally true.

The endgame isn’t necessarily sex on the first date, but men in their 50’s have greater agency in their choices.

I’m a 48 y.o. woman, have been on a dating app for about 10 days. After removing the age requirements, I received a lot of likes from the young guys, as young as 19! Today I’m going out with a very athletic and enthusiastic 29 y.o. man, an engineer. Who cares about men in their 50s if they can date someone young.

If that’s what you’re looking for, go for it.

She’s saying if a woman is okay with casual relationships, she can day waaaay younger than 55 yo men. I am 47, and have a 29 yo suitor who is spoiling me with restaurants and dates anytime his long term 25 yo GF is out of town. We are seeing each other for almost 3 years for romantic dates and sex. I don’t need to look for 50s dudes on the app for sex.

I am on the apps though but date menu age for marriage and ltr only

I have always said the cruelty of women is incredible. Here we have a low life 47 years old woman knowingly sleeping with a 25 years old man who has a long time GF. All she thinks is about herself. And I am sure she will blame the younger man who is younger than her by 22 years for pursuing her. You are a predator!

He’s 29 read better - and he was perusing me for months !

He was perusing you on the shelf

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“ I’m the 40yo who dates 25yos.”

When I was 25, I would have considered dating a 40yo weird and creepy. Ewww, grandma. Never knew a guy my age who dated that old - would have thought he was a loser who couldn’t pull girls his own age.

Of course these guys are losers. Or maybe they are doing it because it's something different, kind of like guys who go hogging.

She is likely crazy though. A granny bragging on the internet about how she gets plowed by a bunch of guys reeks of mental issues.

[Anonymous]

"They're for recreational use only."
--Modern men on modern women in 2025

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"They're for recreational use only."
--Modern men on modern women in 2025

That’s a BINGO!!!!!

[Anonymous]

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I say all this to explain that I am also confused by the feedback she is getting from both dates and a dating coach. She’s being told that the getting to know you activities on dates don’t matter to men over 50. They prefer first date sex and if it’s a good experience, they’ll invest time in a second date.

If this is true, it seems like a considerable acceleration from the third date norm when I was last dating. I asked DH about his few single friends’ expectations. He said expecting and getting are two different things and most of them are smart enough to not write off a good woman simply because she didn’t sleep with them on the first date. My single brother said that the dynamics are weird where he lives because older single men considerably outnumber older single women.

If you are dating, is it really like that?

I’m a 50-something man dating after a divorce and this seems crazy to me. I’m less focused on sex than I was when I was younger — less uncontrollably horny than I was at 20-something and much more focused on emotional and intellectual compatibility. Perfectly happy to let weeks or even a few months go by getting to know someone before becoming sexual

[Anonymous]

As a 54 year old male I enjoy sex, but I’m far more interested in women who are smart, fun, confident, financially secure and not carrying a lot of baggage.