Fiance and I can't agree on wedding date

[Anonymous]

Divorce

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Divorce

How can they divorce when they aren’t even married? Stop writing divorce on every post you bored miserable troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't get married, this marriage won't last.

Why would you say that? Sounds crazy to judge that based on this alone.

For further explanation

Me: I’ve always wanted a fall wedding. Fall is my favorite season and September just seems like a beautiful time to get married. I hate hot weather.

Fiancé: He wants a summer wedding. Fall is okay but he thinks summer will be more beautiful.

We can’t do spring because of his allergies. Neither of us want a winter wedding.

We are getting married in Chicago where we are both from. He wants a June wedding ( so it won’t be too hot) and I want a cooler September wedding.

He’s supposed to be happy that you said yes to his proposal. I’d expect any guy to be ok with a September date. Is he seriously digging in his feet on this??

If so, please reconsider. This is a red flag.

[Anonymous]

Find the venue first and they’ll tell you what’s available.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't get married, this marriage won't last.

This. You’re more worried about the wedding than the marriage.

[Anonymous]

It seems weird that a man is digging in about June vs September in Chicago for no particular reason at all. Most people grow up understanding that a wedding is a big deal in particular for brides. And so to be so confrontational and combative about his fiance's preferences - again, for no good reason - seems like a harbinger for a terrible marriage. Controlling. Whiny. Uncooperative. Angry. Who want's that in their life? And no matter what they choose, the day is already ruined because somebody won and somebody lost. Terrible way to start things. I don't think it's unreasonable to reconsider this relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It seems weird that a man is digging in about June vs September in Chicago for no particular reason at all. Most people grow up understanding that a wedding is a big deal in particular for brides. And so to be so confrontational and combative about his fiance's preferences - again, for no good reason - seems like a harbinger for a terrible marriage. Controlling. Whiny. Uncooperative. Angry. Who want's that in their life? And no matter what they choose, the day is already ruined because somebody won and somebody lost. Terrible way to start things. I don't think it's unreasonable to reconsider this relationship.

I wasn't aware these men existed. I honestly have never met a man who cared about the date, unless it was the Superbowl.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't get married, this marriage won't last.

Why would you say that? Sounds crazy to judge that based on this alone.

For further explanation

Me: I’ve always wanted a fall wedding. Fall is my favorite season and September just seems like a beautiful time to get married. I hate hot weather.

Fiancé: He wants a summer wedding. Fall is okay but he thinks summer will be more beautiful.

We can’t do spring because of his allergies. Neither of us want a winter wedding.

We are getting married in Chicago where we are both from. He wants a June wedding ( so it won’t be too hot) and I want a cooler September wedding.

Your fiancé is gay. As long as it doesn’t conflict with his office or sports calendar, no man cares this much about the date of his wedding.

And all the people who are pointing out that September is hell for parents are thinking of both your guests AND you two. A wedding is one day. An anniversary that conflicts with BTSN, fall athlete orientation and parents’ weekend is the gift that keeps on giving.

Don’t do September - you’ll never be able to celebrate your anniversary. You must have some guests with school aged kids or who are teachers? Also the last few septs, we’ve had travel plans disrupted bc of hurricane weather that disrupted flights. June is much easier if you do it after school is out

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't get married, this marriage won't last.

Why would you say that? Sounds crazy to judge that based on this alone.

For further explanation

Me: I’ve always wanted a fall wedding. Fall is my favorite season and September just seems like a beautiful time to get married. I hate hot weather.

Fiancé: He wants a summer wedding. Fall is okay but he thinks summer will be more beautiful.

We can’t do spring because of his allergies. Neither of us want a winter wedding.

We are getting married in Chicago where we are both from. He wants a June wedding ( so it won’t be too hot) and I want a cooler September wedding.

Your fiancé is gay. As long as it doesn’t conflict with his office or sports calendar, no man cares this much about the date of his wedding.

And all the people who are pointing out that September is hell for parents are thinking of both your guests AND you two. A wedding is one day. An anniversary that conflicts with BTSN, fall athlete orientation and parents’ weekend is the gift that keeps on giving.

Don’t do September - you’ll never be able to celebrate your anniversary. You must have some guests with school aged kids or who are teachers? Also the last few septs, we’ve had travel plans disrupted bc of hurricane weather that disrupted flights. June is much easier if you do it after school is out

It’s so weird that people are telling her not to get married in September because of future kids. I know many couple who married in September, October, and November. They all have kids and still celebrate their anniversary. Get a sitter and go out for dinner. To act like parents are so busy that they can’t take the time to celebrate an anniversary is weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't get married, this marriage won't last.

Why would you say that? Sounds crazy to judge that based on this alone.

For further explanation

Me: I’ve always wanted a fall wedding. Fall is my favorite season and September just seems like a beautiful time to get married. I hate hot weather.

Fiancé: He wants a summer wedding. Fall is okay but he thinks summer will be more beautiful.

We can’t do spring because of his allergies. Neither of us want a winter wedding.

We are getting married in Chicago where we are both from. He wants a June wedding ( so it won’t be too hot) and I want a cooler September wedding.

Your fiancé is gay. As long as it doesn’t conflict with his office or sports calendar, no man cares this much about the date of his wedding.

And all the people who are pointing out that September is hell for parents are thinking of both your guests AND you two. A wedding is one day. An anniversary that conflicts with BTSN, fall athlete orientation and parents’ weekend is the gift that keeps on giving.

Don’t do September - you’ll never be able to celebrate your anniversary. You must have some guests with school aged kids or who are teachers? Also the last few septs, we’ve had travel plans disrupted bc of hurricane weather that disrupted flights. June is much easier if you do it after school is out

This makes zero sense. June will be when kids are home for break. Equally just. Basing off when they get married for future kids is weird. It’s even more weird for op to care about guests having kids because she said it’s no kids and most of her guests don’t have young kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It seems weird that a man is digging in about June vs September in Chicago for no particular reason at all. Most people grow up understanding that a wedding is a big deal in particular for brides. And so to be so confrontational and combative about his fiance's preferences - again, for no good reason - seems like a harbinger for a terrible marriage. Controlling. Whiny. Uncooperative. Angry. Who want's that in their life? And no matter what they choose, the day is already ruined because somebody won and somebody lost. Terrible way to start things. I don't think it's unreasonable to reconsider this relationship.

The bride doesn’t make all the decisions. It’s very sexist of you to think her fiancé is whiny and controlling for wanting to have a say in their wedding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It seems weird that a man is digging in about June vs September in Chicago for no particular reason at all. Most people grow up understanding that a wedding is a big deal in particular for brides. And so to be so confrontational and combative about his fiance's preferences - again, for no good reason - seems like a harbinger for a terrible marriage. Controlling. Whiny. Uncooperative. Angry. Who want's that in their life? And no matter what they choose, the day is already ruined because somebody won and somebody lost. Terrible way to start things. I don't think it's unreasonable to reconsider this relationship.

I wasn't aware these men existed. I honestly have never met a man who cared about the date, unless it was the Superbowl.

Over the years, I have met many couples and some men are very rigid and controlling. The man holds all the power. I would never enter this type of marriage or even date someone like this, but they do exist. I often wonder why so many women accept such an inferior position.

In most relationships, there is one person who calls most of the shots. When there are two alphas, it is a pain. We are friends with a couple who can never agree and both never want to give in. It can be the simplest decision and they can never agree. They are probably the only couple that I think would be better off not married.

[Anonymous]

Where do you want to honeymoon? Maybe that will swing the decision to summer/hot or fall/cooler/off-season.

Otherwise, the bride's preference for dark green dresses wins out for choosing September.

[Anonymous]

I’d pick June, but I love and live for summer and hate the fall vibes in September.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where do you want to honeymoon? Maybe that will swing the decision to summer/hot or fall/cooler/off-season.

Otherwise, the bride's preference for dark green dresses wins out for choosing September.

We picked late September. We talked it over and decided I felt more strongly so we went with that.

We are unsure of honeymoon locations.

I like dark green but leaning towards a wine color.