Fiance and I can't agree on wedding date

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do not get married

Weddings are one half a day marriage is a lifetime if you don’t know that by now you should not get married

Skip the wedding, jsut elope and have a series of dinner parties in cities w critical mass of family or friends. Bfd. Or just elope

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't get married, this marriage won't last.

Why would you say that? Sounds crazy to judge that based on this alone.

For further explanation

Me: I’ve always wanted a fall wedding. Fall is my favorite season and September just seems like a beautiful time to get married. I hate hot weather.

Fiancé: He wants a summer wedding. Fall is okay but he thinks summer will be more beautiful.

We can’t do spring because of his allergies. Neither of us want a winter wedding.

We are getting married in Chicago where we are both from. He wants a June wedding ( so it won’t be too hot) and I want a cooler September wedding.

Troll

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do not get married

Weddings are one half a day marriage is a lifetime if you don’t know that by now you should not get married

Skip the wedding, jsut elope and have a series of dinner parties in cities w critical mass of family or friends. Bfd. Or just elope

We are not eloping. That seems to be the thing to do when you get pregnant too soon. We want a big wedding to celebrate with our friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't get married, this marriage won't last.

Why would you say that? Sounds crazy to judge that based on this alone.

For further explanation

Me: I’ve always wanted a fall wedding. Fall is my favorite season and September just seems like a beautiful time to get married. I hate hot weather.

Fiancé: He wants a summer wedding. Fall is okay but he thinks summer will be more beautiful.

We can’t do spring because of his allergies. Neither of us want a winter wedding.

We are getting married in Chicago where we are both from. He wants a June wedding ( so it won’t be too hot) and I want a cooler September wedding.

Troll

How am I a troll? Are you the weirdo calling troll on every post because you’re a bored miserable person?

[Anonymous]

I got married in late September in Ohio and the weather was perfect. It’s a great time of year to get married.

You should also think about celebrating your anniversary every year. Hopefully, you’ll be married way more years than the number of years you have minor children. If you get married during the school year, you can take a lot of anniversary trips when it’s not peak travel season.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I got married in late September in Ohio and the weather was perfect. It’s a great time of year to get married.

You should also think about celebrating your anniversary every year. Hopefully, you’ll be married way more years than the number of years you have minor children. If you get married during the school year, you can take a lot of anniversary trips when it’s not peak travel season.

We aren’t sure we will have kids. Neither of us are really that into the thought but we might change our mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't get married, this marriage won't last.

Why would you say that? Sounds crazy to judge that based on this alone.

For further explanation

Me: I’ve always wanted a fall wedding. Fall is my favorite season and September just seems like a beautiful time to get married. I hate hot weather.

Fiancé: He wants a summer wedding. Fall is okay but he thinks summer will be more beautiful.

We can’t do spring because of his allergies. Neither of us want a winter wedding.

We are getting married in Chicago where we are both from. He wants a June wedding ( so it won’t be too hot) and I want a cooler September wedding.

Troll

How am I a troll? Are you the weirdo calling troll on every post because you’re a bored miserable person?

Quick response sock puppeting too! Naaaaice!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I got married in late September in Ohio and the weather was perfect. It’s a great time of year to get married.

You should also think about celebrating your anniversary every year. Hopefully, you’ll be married way more years than the number of years you have minor children. If you get married during the school year, you can take a lot of anniversary trips when it’s not peak travel season.

We aren’t sure we will have kids. Neither of us are really that into the thought but we might change our mind.

Even more reason not to tie your anniversary to summer break.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't get married, this marriage won't last.

Why would you say that? Sounds crazy to judge that based on this alone.

For further explanation

Me: I’ve always wanted a fall wedding. Fall is my favorite season and September just seems like a beautiful time to get married. I hate hot weather.

Fiancé: He wants a summer wedding. Fall is okay but he thinks summer will be more beautiful.

We can’t do spring because of his allergies. Neither of us want a winter wedding.

We are getting married in Chicago where we are both from. He wants a June wedding ( so it won’t be too hot) and I want a cooler September wedding.

Troll

How am I a troll? Are you the weirdo calling troll on every post because you’re a bored miserable person?

Quick response sock puppeting too! Naaaaice!

I’m replying quick because I made the thread. Why would I not reply to the people who took the time to reply to my post? I didn’t sock puppet anything. Nice try bored little troll.

[Anonymous]

If you can't agree on something as simple as a wedding date, this marriage is going nowhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you can't agree on something as simple as a wedding date, this marriage is going nowhere.

+1000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you can't agree on something as simple as a wedding date, this marriage is going nowhere.

+1

This is the easy stuff. Are you both equally fervent about this and remaining stuck? Maybe whomever “loses” this one gets to make a different big decision?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you can't agree on something as simple as a wedding date, this marriage is going nowhere.

+1. You need to be able to figure out when something is more important to the other person and give way. With respect to the wedding, I think it should be based on whether you feel actual physical discomfort in June or just don’t prefer it. if you just don’t prefer it then you need to have ways to compromise. Like flip a coin then the “loser” gets to have first dibs on something else related to the wedding. It’s concerning you don’t have any collaboration skills when this is a purely aesthetic choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I got engaged my sister said “pick the venue or pick the date and the rest will fall into place.”

Are there particular strong reasons a date will or won’t work? For instance, we got engaged in May, my sister in law was pregnant and couldn’t travel until Sept, and my sister had two international trips for work in March and April the next spring. We didn’t want to wait a full year so we focused on Oct - Feb timeframe. My sister had a venue she really wanted and it was only open in the summer. She got engaged in the summertime and the venue was already booked the following summer for weekends except for one weekend in July, so she booked it. Conversely, is there a strong reason not to marry on a given date (big work project due, loved one died on that day…)?

Nothing serious or meaningful. I just don’t want to be hot. I also think the weeding color options - dark green or wine colored - will look best for a fall wedding. I really hate the heat and burn easily. I don’t want to be hot on my wedding day and get sunburned.

i thought you said your wedding and reception will be indoors...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unless you are talking about late September, the weather could be equally hot or hotter than an early June wedding. Or it could rain. Or be too cold. It sounds like weather is driving a lot of your decision but the difference between those months is not drastic enough to make a decision on that. You don't know what you will get.

If you have people traveling in, I would take a look at average flights/hotel costs and make sure there isn't a big difference over the dates you select. Let that be more of a determining factor. Yes, schools are an issue for parents but June isn't really much better since the kids will be getting out then and you still need childcare.

I would do this. Agree that whenever the average flight/hotel rates are cheaper for guests, you’ll have the wedding. Loser on this debate gets to “win” on something else that is important to them.


For your consideration: my fiancé and I didn’t care nearly this much about the wedding. I let my mother plan most of it and made just a few choices. There were a few decisions I wasn’t on board with, but I got to spend that time with my fiancé while we were young and child-free. I love our kids to bits and pieces, but I treasured that time, too.