Fiance and I can't agree on wedding date

[Anonymous]

Go to Fiji

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Anonymous wrote:Where do you want to honeymoon? Maybe that will swing the decision to summer/hot or fall/cooler/off-season.

Otherwise, the bride's preference for dark green dresses wins out for choosing September.

We picked late September. We talked it over and decided I felt more strongly so we went with that.

We are unsure of honeymoon locations.

I like dark green but leaning towards a wine color.

Wow the definition of ugly bridesmaid dresses lol

[Anonymous]

DH here. It's cool that your fiance hasan opinion/ preference. That's awesome. It's not cool that he's insisting on it. I won't call him gay, I won't say your doomed. Buuuttttt there aren't many instances where (traditionally) a wife gets her way without question. Maybe it's sexist but if there's a stalemate, a man should defer to his bride about things wedding related.

I've seen this play out with friends (men and women) and it's always been a sign of bad things. It's signaled that the man is either egotistical, controlling, needs to be the center of attention, or is completely unwilling to compromise.

OP won't change her mind on marrying this guy but she should be wary.

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Anonymous wrote:September becomes busy once you have school aged kids. We rarely get to celebrate our anniversary with so much else going on that time of year. I agree that October would be a better fall month and June is always nice and a traditional month for weddings.

We won’t be having kids at our wedding.

But you will have parents. And it's easier for parents with children of any age to come in the summer, otherwise they're missing games and school related events. If you do it in June, they can plan a vacation around it - I'd much rather do June in Chicago before the heat settles in to September (where, by the way, it is still hot and muggy in Chicago). Speaking as someone who spent 20 years in Chicago.

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Anonymous wrote:September becomes busy once you have school aged kids. We rarely get to celebrate our anniversary with so much else going on that time of year. I agree that October would be a better fall month and June is always nice and a traditional month for weddings.

We won’t be having kids at our wedding.

But you will have parents. And it's easier for parents with children of any age to come in the summer, otherwise they're missing games and school related events. If you do it in June, they can plan a vacation around it - I'd much rather do June in Chicago before the heat settles in to September (where, by the way, it is still hot and muggy in Chicago). Speaking as someone who spent 20 years in Chicago.

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Anonymous wrote:I got married in late September in Ohio and the weather was perfect. It’s a great time of year to get married.

You should also think about celebrating your anniversary every year. Hopefully, you’ll be married way more years than the number of years you have minor children. If you get married during the school year, you can take a lot of anniversary trips when it’s not peak travel season.

We aren’t sure we will have kids. Neither of us are really that into the thought but we might change our mind.

Even more reason not to tie your anniversary to summer break.

Facts!!

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Anonymous wrote:It seems weird that a man is digging in about June vs September in Chicago for no particular reason at all. Most people grow up understanding that a wedding is a big deal in particular for brides. And so to be so confrontational and combative about his fiance's preferences - again, for no good reason - seems like a harbinger for a terrible marriage. Controlling. Whiny. Uncooperative. Angry. Who want's that in their life? And no matter what they choose, the day is already ruined because somebody won and somebody lost. Terrible way to start things. I don't think it's unreasonable to reconsider this relationship.

I wasn't aware these men existed. I honestly have never met a man who cared about the date, unless it was the Superbowl.

I posted earlier about having a winter wedding. My DH said “I want a date that’s easy to remember, but not Christmas or Valentine’s Day” and I said “I want a Saturday.” So I stated thumbing through a calendar and said “I know our wedding date!” and he looked through a calendar and said “Groundhog Day!” It turned out Groundhog Day that year was the day before the Super Bowl. My mom is an avid sports fan and (for better or worse) all week when anyone would ask her if she was ready for the “big day” that weekend she’d say something like “I think (my team) will pull it off!”

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Anonymous wrote:Where do you want to honeymoon? Maybe that will swing the decision to summer/hot or fall/cooler/off-season.

Otherwise, the bride's preference for dark green dresses wins out for choosing September.

We picked late September. We talked it over and decided I felt more strongly so we went with that.

We are unsure of honeymoon locations.

I like dark green but leaning towards a wine color.

Wow the definition of ugly bridesmaid dresses lol

What’s wrong with those colors? Dark green and wine colors are in these days.

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Anonymous wrote:My fiance and I both want different months for a varity of reasons. How do we compromise so we are both happy?

Your fiance is a pu**y. Real men don’t care about the wedding date like your fiance. This is a red flag. Don’t be surprised to find out that he is cross-dressing.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where do you want to honeymoon? Maybe that will swing the decision to summer/hot or fall/cooler/off-season.

Otherwise, the bride's preference for dark green dresses wins out for choosing September.

We picked late September. We talked it over and decided I felt more strongly so we went with that.

We are unsure of honeymoon locations.

I like dark green but leaning towards a wine color.

Wow the definition of ugly bridesmaid dresses lol

What’s wrong with those colors? Dark green and wine colors are in these days.

Thise were the colors DH and I used in 1994. 😁 My sister found a great green dress at Filenes and worked as a brides maid dress and bought one for her and one for my other bride’s maid and then we just looked at the color wheel and picked what was on the other side for the red/wine color. Easiest choice. Sister and friend were happy because they got a dress they loved and could wear for many different occasions.

As for date, when we got engaged, we thought we would need about 8 months to plan so we set it for December. Then DH said- “wait, I don’t want my wedding anniversary, my birthday AND Christmas to be in the same month”. I thought that was a reasonable ask, so we moved the date to Labor Day. It worked out well. I highly recommend Saturday of Labor Day weekend.

[Anonymous]

Start at who is going to be doing the most work. The woman. She gets to pick.

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Anonymous wrote:My fiance and I both want different months for a varity of reasons. How do we compromise so we are both happy?

Don’t get married