Fiance and I can't agree on wedding date

[Anonymous]

My fiance and I both want different months for a varity of reasons. How do we compromise so we are both happy?

[Anonymous]

You’ve got a long life of compromising ahead of you.

[Anonymous]

Don't get married, this marriage won't last.

[Anonymous]

You flip a coin. If the person who loses doesn’t lose gracefully, you shouldn’t get married.

[Anonymous]

The one that has a reasonable timeframe for guests to attend (like not Christmas week) and has a nice venue available at a reasonable price.

[Anonymous]

Do not get married

Weddings are one half a day marriage is a lifetime if you don’t know that by now you should not get married

[Anonymous]

Write down pros and cons of each month. Write down why you each want what month you want. There will likely be a month you'll find that works. Or, figure out what kind of venue and setting you want and that will impact things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Write down pros and cons of each month. Write down why you each want what month you want. There will likely be a month you'll find that works. Or, figure out what kind of venue and setting you want and that will impact things.

+1
I need to know what man cares unless it's to coordinate with work or travel.

[Anonymous]

What's available? Chances are you won't have a choice. Narrow down the venue choices and actually know what dates are available. And don't have it way-way in the future. Nobody wants that.

[Anonymous]

Pick a month neither of you want. Then you can be equally unhappy, forever!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't get married, this marriage won't last.

Why would you say that? Sounds crazy to judge that based on this alone.

For further explanation

Me: I’ve always wanted a fall wedding. Fall is my favorite season and September just seems like a beautiful time to get married. I hate hot weather.

Fiancé: He wants a summer wedding. Fall is okay but he thinks summer will be more beautiful.

We can’t do spring because of his allergies. Neither of us want a winter wedding.

We are getting married in Chicago where we are both from. He wants a June wedding ( so it won’t be too hot) and I want a cooler September wedding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What's available? Chances are you won't have a choice. Narrow down the venue choices and actually know what dates are available. And don't have it way-way in the future. Nobody wants that.

We have called our top two choices and they have dates in June and September.

[Anonymous]

Just let the wife pick.

[Anonymous]

Who feels more importantly about it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't get married, this marriage won't last.

Why would you say that? Sounds crazy to judge that based on this alone.

For further explanation

Me: I’ve always wanted a fall wedding. Fall is my favorite season and September just seems like a beautiful time to get married. I hate hot weather.

Fiancé: He wants a summer wedding. Fall is okay but he thinks summer will be more beautiful.

We can’t do spring because of his allergies. Neither of us want a winter wedding.

We are getting married in Chicago where we are both from. He wants a June wedding ( so it won’t be too hot) and I want a cooler September wedding.

Since you already know where you want to get married, start looking at venues. You may find a venue that doesn't have a June date for 3 years but a Sept date sooner. Or the opposite. Or you may have to find a different month as these are the two most popular months.

You're also looking at a late Sept/early Oct wedding if you want it to be cooler. Sept is still plenty hot.