Fiance and I can't agree on wedding date

[Anonymous]

June isn't a problem with your fiancée's allergies?

Friends of ours chose by drawing out of a hat. 2/3 won
They also settle things using rock, paper, scissors. It works for them.

You could also do something like the person who concedes their choice of date gets more say in the menu, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:September becomes busy once you have school aged kids. We rarely get to celebrate our anniversary with so much else going on that time of year. I agree that October would be a better fall month and June is always nice and a traditional month for weddings.

We won’t be having kids at our wedding.

This has come up several times and you're not getting it. The anniversaries are going to conflict with a lot of kid stuff. Are you planning on having kids yourself, is the question?

[Anonymous]

You want a fall wedding and don't care for flowers.

He has allergies and "is OK" with a fall wedding, even though it's not his first choice.

So... what's the problem here? Have it in the fall!

He can have first pick on menu and music, if he wants.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’ve got a long life of compromising ahead of you.

This
Take it as a sign.
Good luck though.

[Anonymous]

We picked the first month our venue and reverend were available, with time enough to plan a big wedding that my mom required. All we cared about was getting married.

[Anonymous]

Not joking but if you already can't agree for this you relationship is doomed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not joking but if you already can't agree for this you relationship is doomed.

Yeah, I get irritated by the poster whose response to everything is: Divorce. But both of you digging in your heels about the month of the wedding, and all this talk about allergies, just feels like this is a match that isn't about being madly in love and just wanting to get married.

[Anonymous]

Never even occurred to me to have any opinion about the wedding unless my wife asked for one. What an odd man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:June isn't a problem with your fiancée's allergies?

Friends of ours chose by drawing out of a hat. 2/3 won
They also settle things using rock, paper, scissors. It works for them.

You could also do something like the person who concedes their choice of date gets more say in the menu, etc.

No. It’s much more bearable than March/April/May when things freshly bloom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:September becomes busy once you have school aged kids. We rarely get to celebrate our anniversary with so much else going on that time of year. I agree that October would be a better fall month and June is always nice and a traditional month for weddings.

We won’t be having kids at our wedding.

This has come up several times and you're not getting it. The anniversaries are going to conflict with a lot of kid stuff. Are you planning on having kids yourself, is the question?

Maybe. We are content not having them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
You want a fall wedding and don't care for flowers.

He has allergies and "is OK" with a fall wedding, even though it's not his first choice.

So... what's the problem here? Have it in the fall!

He can have first pick on menu and music, if he wants.

That’s fair. We are trying to figure out the menu to accommodate various family preferences. Some hate garlic. Some don’t eat meat. Some eat keto. It’s hard.

I want fall too because I want either a dark green or wine colored bridesmaids dresses.

[Anonymous]

What kinds of crazy anniversaries are some of you having anyway, that would conflict with school?

[Anonymous]

just flip a coin or else the one who gives in is going to resent the other. FWIW - I think it's a little odd either of you have such a strong view. Ultimately it's just a big party - if you have time to plan it by June, pick June - if you need more time, pick September.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not joking but if you already can't agree for this you relationship is doomed.

We agreed on a lot of things- venue, catering company, food, music, first dance song, colors, etc. We just can’t pick a month.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not joking but if you already can't agree for this you relationship is doomed.

Yeah, I get irritated by the poster whose response to everything is: Divorce. But both of you digging in your heels about the month of the wedding, and all this talk about allergies, just feels like this is a match that isn't about being madly in love and just wanting to get married.

We are very much in love and super excited to get married. Thanks for the comment though.