Husbands former AP wearing necklace he gave her

[Anonymous]

This thread would have been a lot more interesting if the AP were wearing a necklace the DH bought for OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most APs turn outright bitter and nasty when the guy doesn’t leave the wife or starts paying them less attention. They will do and say things to try and hurt the wife to get back at the husband. Story as old as time. I could totally see her wearing it out of spite and to fk with the married couple.

+1. AP is a devil. She wasn’t the one that broke it off. She’s a psychopath. Shameful.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Eating her out coming home and kissing the kids without gargling.

He probably ate her a**s too, F**D her raw, came in her and all that good stuff. I don't even know how OP can get aroused again for her hubsand. People do some really freaky stuff with their APs.

+1

A man I dated said he had cheated with someone's wife on his own wife. It was raw anal and anything sex. He really wanted to marry me but he has cheated on a wife with someone's wife. Who can trust that. However I know most women don't care or care to ask.

I think men have more hang up over their wife being f**d by another guy than vice versa. And I don't know why. Women who forgive their AP the sordid details of any nasty freaky sex their husbands may have had doesn't seem to be on the high list of concerns for them. that part I also don't understand. These women are more worried whether he would be committed 100% again to them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Eating her out coming home and kissing the kids without gargling.

He probably ate her a**s too, F**D her raw, came in her and all that good stuff. I don't even know how OP can get aroused again for her hubsand. People do some really freaky stuff with their APs.

+1

A man I dated said he had cheated with someone's wife on his own wife. It was raw anal and anything sex. He really wanted to marry me but he has cheated on a wife with someone's wife. Who can trust that. However I know most women don't care or care to ask.

I think men have more hang up over their wife being f**d by another guy than vice versa. And I don't know why. Women who forgive their AP the sordid details of any nasty freaky sex their husbands may have had doesn't seem to be on the high list of concerns for them. that part I also don't understand. These women are more worried whether he would be committed 100% again to them.

Husbands*

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wear a bracelet an ex from years ago gave me. My husband teases me about it but the bracelet is so pretty! I didn’t wear it for 5
two decades and at this point realized that just silly. It’s just gold not my heart.

I do too. I have a Tiffany heart toggle one. They have kind of come back in, and I think they cost like $700 now, so I have been wearing it.

But here's the thing -- that was a boyfriend I had in law school, 20 years ago, and it didn't work out, but things ended amicably enough. If I had a married bf and the relationship ended horribly over him not leaving his wife? I absolutely would not be wearing a piece of jewelry from him. Bad memories, bad energy, and it was a bad situation all around. That is not even jewelry that should have been given. My Tiffany bracelet is neutral to positive, but no strong feelings attached at all. I am suspicious of this AP OP references wearing that jewelry. Totally different situation. I think OP should be suspicious. Maybe she just likes the necklace; maybe it isn't over.

I think maybe it isn’t over - but I also think that I wouldn’t assume she wanted him to leave his wife for her. Sometimes APs are married and just want something on the side. Sometimes APs care about a person but don’t necessarily want the baggage of a full marriage — you know, because they know the guy’s bad habits, like that he cheats. They are happy for the attention, the dates, the gifts and the sex - and then send him home for someone else to deal with him.

Yeah, these APs exist. For sure. But they don't tend to be going around wearing sentimental jewelrey gifts over a year later.

If the jewelry was nice and she doesn’t have bad feelings about him, I don’t know why she wouldn’t wear it. But I’ll go back to what I first posted - I think it’s still going on.

I’ve posted this before but there are basically two kinds of affairs in my mind: quickie, one-night stands that can go on a bit longer but are not ongoing emotional affairs. And longer, ongoing affairs that have an emotional component. If the husband engaged in the first (which seems unlikely given the gift), it is often possible to continue the marriage. But it’s very hard to overcome the second type of affair because even if it ends, it signals a huge, ongoing betrayal, and often leads to other long-term affairs until the man does find someone he is willing to end the marriage over. It seems this was this kind of affair and I really feel for the wife. We can tell her to stop following the AP, but if the affair is ongoing, it is smart of her to keep an eye on the situation.

The best chance for this marriage - assuming the guy is all in - is greatly limiting chances they can see each other: change jobs, move away, put each other on your social media accounts. If he’s not willing to do those things after a long-term affair, then chances are the marriage will end sooner rather than later. The problem isn’t the necklace or either or the two women — the problem is the husband who was out romancing another woman for some time while married to the lady who posted this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He should have asked for it back. I would have made him. Do married men always give their affair partners expensive things to remember them by?

I was very generous with my AP. She was trying to compete with my wife and it was getting worse and worse. At that point I ended it and never had an AP again. There is something really strange about women trying to compete with other women they don't even know.

100% really weird psychology

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Eating her out coming home and kissing the kids without gargling.

He probably ate her a**s too, F**D her raw, came in her and all that good stuff. I don't even know how OP can get aroused again for her hubsand. People do some really freaky stuff with their APs.

To be fair…husband did all of that and more with me, the wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Eating her out coming home and kissing the kids without gargling.

He probably ate her a**s too, F**D her raw, came in her and all that good stuff. I don't even know how OP can get aroused again for her hubsand. People do some really freaky stuff with their APs.

To be fair…husband did all of that and more with me, the wife.

3-somes too

People assume a wife is a prude. It’s a really wrong assumption

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He should have asked for it back. I would have made him. Do married men always give their affair partners expensive things to remember them by?

I was very generous with my AP. She was trying to compete with my wife and it was getting worse and worse. At that point I ended it and never had an AP again. There is something really strange about women trying to compete with other women they don't even know.

100% really weird psychology

Yeah, that PP thinks an AP feeling competitive with a wife is strange because they "don't even know" each other? What a bizarre thing to say.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, my guess is she wears more than the necklace he gave her.

She probably wears that expensive, sexy lingerie he gave her, too. While she's with her new man, no less.

Life goes on. Including hers. Forget about this nonsense, drop it behind you like a leaded bag, and move forward.

Yeah. Gold-diggers can’t afford that stuff on their own. They prostitute themselves for jewelry and nice dinners.

This is such a paranoid, jealous and absurd stance.

No one is dealing with ridiculous married men for "nice dinners" and a freaking necklace. Not worth it.

Ahhh… yeah, they are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He should have asked for it back. I would have made him. Do married men always give their affair partners expensive things to remember them by?

I was very generous with my AP. She was trying to compete with my wife and it was getting worse and worse. At that point I ended it and never had an AP again. There is something really strange about women trying to compete with other women they don't even know.

100% really weird psychology

And the wives don’t even know they are in a completion. lol!! Some whore they don’t even know about is competing with them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He should have asked for it back. I would have made him. Do married men always give their affair partners expensive things to remember them by?

I was very generous with my AP. She was trying to compete with my wife and it was getting worse and worse. At that point I ended it and never had an AP again. There is something really strange about women trying to compete with other women they don't even know.

100% really weird psychology

Yeah, that PP thinks an AP feeling competitive with a wife is strange because they "don't even know" each other? What a bizarre thing to say.

Why does the AP even worry about the wife. Isn't her use only to get f***d?

[Anonymous]

Op, she is not worth your time.

[Anonymous]

I think this is a poster that has posted many times before. The AP had put a photo montage of her and the DH on social media awhile back that OP saw. Similar details. OP is SURE the affair is over. Pretty sure OP is still watching the AP’s social media.

[Anonymous]

I’m the immediate PP. I think this is the OP:

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1176795.page#26511289