WWYD husband’s affair partner posted video melange from 2023
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Anonymous
| The video includes dates together and other things (flowers) etc from my husband including his voice in one. No clear pictures of him but notes with his name on it… She’s not married. The affair is well over and my husband and I are in a good place, but feel like I should say something? WWYD? I guess she has the right to post whatever she wants to. Still hard. |
Anonymous
| Can you post on her social media page? I'd respond with: "how pathetic that you are posting this about a married man, and he has moved on from you. Find your own man and seek therapy". |
Anonymous
| He probably hasn’t moved on… |
Anonymous
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She’s a drama queen that should have some self respect. Crazy town.
Don’t engage. Ignore! Nothing more than an ow/ap hates more is to feel irrelevant and ignored. |
Anonymous
| Doesn’t sound like he’s moved on. |
Anonymous
Agreed. This is a desperate bid for any scraps of attention or drama to be generated, including driving a new wedge between you and your husband. Grey rock it with respect to her. But ask your husband to have no social media contact if that hasn't already been agreed. |
Anonymous
I think he has. This is how the crazy ones act when he goes no contact. |
Anonymous
| OP, I'm so sorry that would make me want to vomit |
Anonymous
NP. Please, NO. A response like that might only feed the woman's ego. She likely is hoping that OP will see this video and that it hurts OP. A response like the one above, or any response at all to this AP, would only give the AP the satisfaction of knowing she got under OP's skin. Don't respond, no matter how tempting it is (and yes, I do think it's very tempting to respond to this kind of provocation!). OP, do you know if your DH follows this woman on social media? I would have grave issues with that, in your shoes. I'm no expert on SM but surely there are ways to tell, or maybe as part of dealing with affair fallout, he has committed clearly to zero contact including looking at her SM accounts--? If he doesn't ever see this, well, I would let it go, much as it would anger and gall me. Also: Why are you, yourself, seeing this? If you follow her SM or it just pops into your feed (as in, you don't formally follow) -- you need to get her off your brain, your retinas and your feeds, period. If your DH is identifiable in this specific reel via his name and/or voice, and you are concerned that someone you know will add things up and realize he had an affair you don't want made known, you might have to simply hope no one sees it. I would never want DH to contact her even to say "Take that down" (not that she would, if he asked), and I would not contact her for the reasons above. Is your concern that this reel might "out" the affair and you don't want that? Is that even possible if he's not shown or his full name isn't on it? Do you and she have acquaintances in common who would know his voice only, for instance? |
Anonymous
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Do nothing.
Why are you checking her social? |
Anonymous
| If your husband truly moved on you wouldn’t be stalking this woman on social media. I wouldn’t tell anyone else about your embarrassing revelation and block access to all her social media sites. |
Anonymous
| Without commenting on whether or not you should ditch your husband, looking at this woman’s social media is surely not good for you. |
Anonymous
If you and your husband are in a good place, why are you checking her social media? And how are you in a good place after an affair that occurred in 2023 and involved dates, flowers, notes and his consent to be recorded by her? Sounds like it wasn’t just sex and he made no effort to hide it. |
Anonymous
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She has histrionic personality disorder. Deana queen looking to start something.
Ignore the whore. |
Anonymous
| ^drama |