Husbands former AP wearing necklace he gave her

[Anonymous]

Focus on the problem. Your DH.

[Anonymous]

I wear a bracelet an ex from years ago gave me. My husband teases me about it but the bracelet is so pretty! I didn’t wear it for 5
two decades and at this point realized that just silly. It’s just gold not my heart.

[Anonymous]

Well, it is one of two things. She wears it because she likes it. Or she is wearing it because their relationship is not over. I’m going to bet on the latter, because most people don’t wear things given to them by people who disappointed them. Bad juju. So.

I wouldn’t confront him. I’d investigate it without letting him know. Hire a PI if you have to.

[Anonymous]

What else is she supposed to do with it? Throw it in the drain? Keep it in a box? If it’s a nice necklace of course she’s going to wear it.
I still have a teddy bear my HS boyfriend gave me. It went to college with me and is in my son’s bedroom. It’s a nice teddy bear and it doesn’t make me think of him—more of my college years. I think that’s a lot weirder than the necklace, though. If he gave her a TV, would you be weirded out by her still using the TV?

[Anonymous]

How does OP even know AP is wearing it?? That is soap opera stuff.

[Anonymous]

Poster picture up here. This ap's or azz pieces need.to be shamed

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Poster picture up here. This ap's or azz pieces need.to be shamed

Sorry don’t understand?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, it is one of two things. She wears it because she likes it. Or she is wearing it because their relationship is not over. I’m going to bet on the latter, because most people don’t wear things given to them by people who disappointed them. Bad juju. So.

I wouldn’t confront him. I’d investigate it without letting him know. Hire a PI if you have to.

Or she’s just wearing it to fk with OP, knowing she is viewing her social media. I go with this.

[Anonymous]

He's probably still seeing her. Why are you with a man who cheated on you and only stopped because he was caught? Kick him to the curb.

[Anonymous]

Ah - things I hope never to write “my DH gave his former AP a nice necklace”. I know some get past infidelity and go on to healthy marriages - but I just can’t with the above.

[Anonymous]

You sound incredibly immature and naive OP. He lied to you. Probably lying again and still seeing her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, it is one of two things. She wears it because she likes it. Or she is wearing it because their relationship is not over. I’m going to bet on the latter, because most people don’t wear things given to them by people who disappointed them. Bad juju. So.

I wouldn’t confront him. I’d investigate it without letting him know. Hire a PI if you have to.

Or she’s just wearing it to fk with OP, knowing she is viewing her social media. I go with this.

On the right track.

Crass cheaters don't care too much about sentimentality and sometimes they expect their pics will be seen.

The visual message might be for the DH.

[Anonymous]

I still have nice things from former boyfriends, OP. I appreciate the pieces for themselves, because they're good quality or cute or funny. AND I appreciate thinking about the good times we had. Even if it ended in sadness. You might be young and careless about the span of your life, OP, but it's important to treasure the happy moments.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Poster picture up here. This ap's or azz pieces need.to be shamed

No, they really don't. Stop trying to create a mob. People like you are scary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wear a bracelet an ex from years ago gave me. My husband teases me about it but the bracelet is so pretty! I didn’t wear it for 5
two decades and at this point realized that just silly. It’s just gold not my heart.

I do too. I have a Tiffany heart toggle one. They have kind of come back in, and I think they cost like $700 now, so I have been wearing it.

But here's the thing -- that was a boyfriend I had in law school, 20 years ago, and it didn't work out, but things ended amicably enough. If I had a married bf and the relationship ended horribly over him not leaving his wife? I absolutely would not be wearing a piece of jewelry from him. Bad memories, bad energy, and it was a bad situation all around. That is not even jewelry that should have been given. My Tiffany bracelet is neutral to positive, but no strong feelings attached at all. I am suspicious of this AP OP references wearing that jewelry. Totally different situation. I think OP should be suspicious. Maybe she just likes the necklace; maybe it isn't over.